Questions for "Non-Anal" Gay Guys

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  1. matt121matt121

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    I meet a guy this past weekend as a friend he has a partner.. but he is what in the gay world would be referred to as a "non-anal"...

    I really find this interesting.. he says that it just did nothing for him the one time he bottomed and he doesn't really get any pleasure out of topping..

    He was explaining though that he's the master of keeping a guy on end and a master of foreplay..

    Just wondered how many gay guys are "non-anal" and if so what your reasons are..
     
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    Sounds like he has a compulsion with hygiene and cleanliness.
     
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    ^ Why do you say that? Not everybody likes the same things, maybe particularly where sex is concerned.

    Doesn't mean it's necessarily a hygenic issue.









    [Edit: To the OP I would turn the question around. Why is it so strange that someone would not be into anal?]
     
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    I eschew anal.

    Anal sex has always existed. However, 'til about 1980 or so, it was not popular in the U.S. That can be documented.

    At one time, the "Advocate" included the personals advertisements in the same publication. Guys advertising in the personals section were very specific regarding what they wanted and used abbreviations to specify. French meant oral and was abbreviated "f." Greek meant anal and was abbreviated "g". Active was abbreviated "a" and passive was abbreviated "p." For versatile, "v" was used. Combinations were also used, such as "fa / fp" or "ga / gp." From reading the advertisements, it was clear that greek, i.e., anal, was not nearly so popular as french, i.e., oral. Many men wanted nothing to do with it.

    Exactly when greek began to become popular I don't know, but it became the primary driver of the HIV epidemic. The HIV epidemic would be considerably slowed down if we could change preferences away from greek.
     
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    I ask the same question as Maxcok. Personally anal sex does not do much for me either. I'd rather suck and get sucked before fucking a dude.
     
  6. AM_092

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    I think it's just that everyone's different. I for one don't enjoy getting blowjobs...
    For anal sex, I always bottom, but to think of it, I probably really don't enjoy it that much either... So I'm planning to stay celibate for a while! (I'm not interested in topping)
     
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    Yeah, same here. I consider myself a top because I'd rather top than bottom, but its not my go to for sex with a dude.
     
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    Can't answer that one. Ardent butt fucker here.
     
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    I eschew gum.

    Str8's have really gotten into anal lately (recent years) judging from the porn. Especially popular with the younger crowd according to Dr. Drew Pinski. They'd rather do that than vag for some reason. Now that I don't understand. Maybe it's just that it's taboo and therefore more exciting? Maybe some 20 something str8's can enlighten us.
     
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    For guys that don't like fucking, try this and let me know what you think.....

    Have your partner lie down (either face up or face down -- I prefer him face up) with his legs together. Put a folded towel under his thighs. Then pour baby oil on your dick and some between his thighs and lie on top of him fucking him between his slippery thighs without a condom (none needed) and let me know what you think. Some of you are going to be blown away. I've turned on a LOT of guys to this (intercrural sex).
     
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    While i dont have it up the wrong un every time i have sex, i couldnt imagine sex without a good ass fuck.......I enjoy it too much!
     
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    (double post)
     
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    I'm not into it either. If I'm with a guy, I'd rather go for something that feels more like brotherly bonding rather than love making, so I get more into a good stroke session or maybe some oral. I think there's definitely a safety issue here for me as well since the risk of exposure to STDs, etc. is obviously much lower when just stroking or having the occassional suck.
     
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    Really interesting technique, man. Think I may give that a try some day. Cheers.

    Personally, I consider myself open minded enough to be "versitile" but have only bottomed once, and that was when I was an undergrad. (Good story though) I've been thinking about ways to become more...efficient at it lately. When it comes to topping, its not something I need to do to enjoy sex, neither opposed or in favor of it though.
     
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    Human sexuality is a fluid and dynamic thing. This applies not just to ones taste in partners but in the acts one finds enjoyable and satisfying.

    When I first started having sex in 1977 (at 17), it usually took one of two approaches:

    1) Anonymous sex in porn theaters and bathhouses: this almost always included anal sex with me as the top;

    2) Sex with guys whom I either brought home or to whose home I visited: this was generally (but hardly exclusively) oral/JO/frot.

    The first variety involved a much more diverse group of guys as I tended to not be very selective in the dark. The second group was based on mutual attraction: physical, emotional and intellectual (based on conversation), but I hadn't yet developed techniques to negotiate who would do what to whom.

    I figured we'd figure it out in the clutches of sex, and this was not always the best approach as I'd soon learn. Due to my age, very few guys presumed me to be a top and as likely as not I'd make yet another abortive attempt at bottoming, which I always found degrading, messy and painful but somehow necessary if I were to be a fully-actualized gay man (the fact that there are so few "tops" who have any skills in that area certainly didn't help matters); it wasn't until I was 20 that I gave up on even trying to bottom after an especially enlightening conversation with a regular fuckbud. He told me that sex should be a joy, not a drudge, and if I found something distasteful or unpleasant it was silly to keep doing it.

    So I grew very comfortable restricting my sexual expression to oral/JO/frot, especially as I preferred completely mutual sex and was uneasy in wanting to fuck someone whom I wouldn't let fuck me in return. The only guys I'd ever fuck were strict, non-versatile bottoms who, in Boston in the early 80s were few and far between (at least ones whom I found attractive).

    Probably 85% of my encounters at that time were non-anal. When asked in bars if I were a top or a bottom, I'd joke that I was a "side", meaning that I preferred 69ing on my side. As AIDS started becoming more and more publicised, I grew to understand that this was also a great way of practicing safer sex without resorting to condoms, which I've always loathed.

    In 1985 (age 25) I met a non-versatile Venezuelan bottom whom I fell passionately in love with, and I finally learned the pure joy of the combination of great anal sex and deep feelings. After that broke up after four turbulent years, I tried reverting back to my "side" position but found it less and less satisfying.

    I met the love of my life two years later and moved to Paris to be with him. He was incredibly ambivalent about anal sex, and in the two years we had (until he died) I probably didn't fuck him more than a dozen times: everything else was oral and JO.

    Returning to Boston after he died, my grief took on the strange effect of my being in a near-constant state of horniness, and though I'd blow the guys I was with would always fuck them; by that stage in my life (mid 30s) I was no longer shy or uncomfortable about declaring myself as a non-versatile top.

    I eventually met a guy who helped me with my grief and rebuild my life; he was a near-total bottom. On the very rare times when he expressed a desire in fucking me, I'd grease my thighs, perineum and balls and we'd do some intercural sex, which satisfied him without my actually being penetrated. We were together nine years.

    In the six years that I've been single since, I can count the non-anal encounters I've had on one hand. At this stage of my life, sex without fucking just isn't interesting to me at all. And since I live in Ft Bottomdale I have a huge assortment form which to choose, even restricting myself to only guys living with HIV it's still an embarrassment of riches :cool:
     
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    I think it might have something to do with birth control, or it might just be a desire to recreate one's favorite porn scene.
     
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    Hey Matt~

    I'm not gay, just bi-, but don't do anal (either in giving or receiving capacity). I sometimes wonder if I can really sexually satisfy a guy since oral and manual masturbation are the only other options. So thanks for posting this topic!

    Cheers,
    ~Reese! :~)
     
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    I can honestly say that I do not prefer anal. Topping causes me to cum far too soon, and bottoming sounds like a lot of fun, but it's never been pleasurable for me. :( However, oral (both giving and receiving) is very fun, and JO is also, so I prefer to do those and foreplay forever. I don't think I am "non-anal" but it's not my favorite. And I can see how someone might be non-anal. It's messy, complicated, and can be degrading when done without the utmost care.
     
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    Anal Sex! Forget about it. It's enough I have to deal with it when my doctor uses his two fat fingers on me every year when I get my annual check-up. No fun:eek:
     
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