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  1. Redheadchi

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    I've been seeing this girl for a month and everything is going good. She says she wants to take things slow and I respect that. We kiss, hug, and spend the night together, but haven't gone any further than kissing. When we're together she'll tap me in the crotch and giggle about it and I'm getting really horny. I was wondering what you think about the situation. Should I try to take things further or respect her space untill she lets me know she's ready?
     
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    You need to respect her space. That said, some women like a little gentle pushing. Depends how much you like her. If you sense she could be the one, then try and wait. If she's just "for fun" then find someone who gonna give you more of what you want.

    Sorry, just realized the question was directed towards women.
     
  3. dolfette

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    tapping you on the crotch may be a hint...
    but you might upset her by trying it on...
    i suggest you just ask her, let a hand slide, look deep into her eyes, tell her you don't want to push her too far and to tell you if she wants you to slow down...and move very, very slow. keep stopping and checking she's ok with what you're doing. detect even the slightest hesitation and pull back into her comfort zone, not venturing further than that for the rest of the night, telling her that she's worth waiting for.
     
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    You didn't mention how old you guys are. Is she a virgin?

    Next time she taps...ask her if she would like to touch it.
     
  5. dolfette

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    a bit crass, no?
     
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    i would be totally offended if someone said "do you want to touch it?"

    get the fuck out of here. this isn't a cheesy porn. besides, i would take that as a lack of respect for me. which is the whole point here, no? to make sure she knows you're respecting her.

    i think she's hinting because she's curious, but that doesn't mean she's ready.

    some girls tease as a way of getting themselves off...know that you're hot for her, and that she can turn you on by just tapping you could be her way of getting a self esteem boost...

    or perhaps, a guarantee that you'll be coming back...
    women are jerky like that sometimes.
     
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    My goodness, you guys are kidding right?

    They are making out...she regularly taps his crotch and giggles.

    Asking her if she wants to touch it is not crass and certainly not cheesy porn, Christin....It's called "flirting" and "playing". It's a cock, it's not a piece radioactive nuclear waste. Lighten up, people.
     
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    it's crass.
     
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    Ok, whatever.
     
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    since when is flirting asking another person to touch their privates?

    lighten up...more like take it DOWN.
     
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    Gotta agree with dolfette. Which means I won't be able to post my dissertation that would say essentially the same thing. Grrrrr, dolfette! Curse your superior timing! ;-D
     
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    Well if you ask me, you guys are taking sex way too seriously. Heaven forbid if someone asks a lover to "touch their privates".
     
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    they aren't lovers, that's the entire point...
     
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    They have been seeing each other for a month...they kiss, they hug and they spend the night together.

    "lover's" doesn't necessarily = intercourse. But regardless of your definition of "lovers", I still think if she's tapping and giggling, she just may be open to touching.
     
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    we're so smart! ...only i'm smart 15 minutes early.
    she may well be! but, being a girl ho wants to go slow, she might expect something a little more classy than ''wanna touch it?''
     
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    Maybe, dolfette. It doesn't have to be as "creepy" as you make it sound though. Depends how he says it. He can be playful and flirty with it, and they may actually have a laugh about it. Who knows, it may break the ice for them.

    She could always say no, ya know.
     
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    ya know...just quoting myself.
     
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    she could always think him crass and lacking in class, get her coat and leave ya know.

    why risk it when there are better options?
     
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    Perhaps. But on the flip side maybe she's wondering why the signals she is sending (tapping his cock and giggling) aren't being reciprocated. Maybe she just needs a little encouragement. If he frames it right, then there is very low risk of her getting up and leaving.
     
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    wtf is she? 17/18? Tapping on your dick? Really? I think she wants to take it slow but she's old fashioned and wants you to make the 1st move. The thing is....you aren't a fucking mindreader. Therefore you dont know when she's ready. Just tell her to let you know when she's ready. Honestly, she's a total oppsosite of me
     
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