Questions for the women here.

[voidout]

Wow, some serious harshness from you two. Methinks that you ladies may not be used to actually having someone disagree with you....and I think the way you both have reacted to that disagreement says a great deal about you.

Is this how you act in real life? Or is just a message board persona?

I don't think personal attacks make either of you look any smarter or cooler, or whatever it is you are going for. But if that's how you roll.....fine, I'll play.

you're the one insulting me, and you're the one who got upset when i didn't agree with your advice, so i don't really understand what you're going on about...

i said one thing that was "harsh" about your advice, because i didn't agree with it, and you responded back. if you didn't want me to respond, then why did you respond? duh. it's an online forum. don't post something if you don't want someone possibly disagreeing with you.

oh, and it's called sarcasm. to take something on a forum on the internet as a personal attack speaks tons about you, dear. trust me.

 

[voidout]

My goodness, you guys are kidding right?

They are making out...she regularly taps his crotch and giggles.

Asking her if she wants to touch it is not crass and certainly not cheesy porn, Christin....It's called "flirting" and "playing". It's a cock, it's not a piece radioactive nuclear waste. Lighten up, people.

Well if you ask me, you guys are taking sex way too seriously. Heaven forbid if someone asks a lover to "touch their privates".

I'm rolling my eyes at some of the other women here (and I am not flaming anyone, I am just being honest) that seem to take sex so damn seriously. It's supposed to be fun....whether you are "someone who is in a relationship where the husband lets her have sex with other guys" or if you are in a monogamous relationship.

Christina and dolfette,

I'm not looking to fight with you ladies. You don't have to get all pissy.

I'm not saying your opinion is wrong at all. I'm not judging you in the slightest. If having a serious attitude about sex is your thing, then more power too ya. I am just pointing out that in my experience, when I was able to let go of that "seriousness" and become blessed with my "light hearted approach" towards sex, that it became so much better. Freed from a puritanical society's beliefs of what sex should and should not be.

Wow, some serious harshness from you two. Methinks that you ladies may not be used to actually having someone disagree with you....and I think the way you both have reacted to that disagreement says a great deal about you.

Is this how you act in real life? Or is just a message board persona?

I don't think personal attacks make either of you look any smarter or cooler, or whatever it is you are going for. But if that's how you roll.....fine, I'll play.

here's a complete list of all of your condescending, patronizing, and insulting responses.

if you read through, i think most would agree that our responses were in accordance to how you wanted the conversation to go.

 

[WifeNeedsGurth]

you're the one insulting me, and you're the one who got upset when i didn't agree with your advice, so i don't really understand what you're going on about...

You know what, sweetie....we're fucking up this poor kid's thread. My bad if you thought I was insulting you...but your bad if you thought I actually got upset....as if!

Christina, feel free to bring this to a new thread if you like. I'll be sure to respond there.

Sorry OP. didn't mean to hijack....but I had a little help.

 

[dolfette]

Wow, some serious harshness from you two. Methinks that you ladies may not be used to actually having someone disagree with you....and I think the way you both have reacted to that disagreement says a great deal about you.

Is this how you act in real life? Or is just a message board persona?

I don't think personal attacks make either of you look any smarter or cooler, or whatever it is you are going for. But if that's how you roll.....fine, I'll play.

best laugh i've had all day.

 

[Fleur]

You need to respect her space. That said, some women like a little gentle pushing. Depends how much you like her. If you sense she could be the one, then try and wait. If she's just "for fun" then find someone who gonna give you more of what you want.

Sorry, just realized the question was directed towards women.

I think you're right though.

 

[B_cigarbabe]

best laugh i've had all day.

Oi!
Me too! hyuk hyuk hyuk:biggrin1:
Jeepers ma girth ,I had no clue it made you lovers after a month.....
C.B.:saevil:

 

[dolfette]

Oi!
Me too! hyuk hyuk hyuk:biggrin1:
Jeepers ma girth ,I had no clue it made you lovers after a month.....
C.B.:saevil:

oh how we laughed!

:tongue:

 

[helgaleena]

When I was young I could not have kept my hands off a boy all night long! And I would surely wonder why he was keeping his hands off me all night long.

If I was letting someone touch my crotch and smile, it would signify to me that I would not mind much more than that. my crotch is an extremely personal area. You are letting her FONDLE you and she's not letting you reciprocate?

Next time she touches you touch her back exactly the same way. The exact words don't matter. But depending on what happens next, you two have a lot more talking to do.

Unless you are twin brother and sister, sleeping together all night long makes you lovers in my book, regardless of what plumbing hooks to what other plumbing.

 

[WifeNeedsGurth]

When I was young I could not have kept my hands off a boy all night long! And I would surely wonder why he was keeping his hands off me all night long.

If I was letting someone touch my crotch and smile, it would signify to me that I would not mind much more than that. my crotch is an extremely personal area. You are letting her FONDLE you and she's not letting you reciprocate?

Next time she touches you touch her back exactly the same way. The exact words don't matter. But depending on what happens next, you two have a lot more talking to do.

Unless you are twin brother and sister, sleeping together all night long makes you lovers in my book, regardless of what plumbing hooks to what other plumbing.

Someone else that actually gets it.

I couldn't agree with you more.

 

[Gisella]

I've been seeing this girl for a month and everything is going good. She says she wants to take things slow and I respect that. We kiss, hug, and spend the night together, but haven't gone any further than kissing. When we're together she'll tap me in the crotch and giggle about it and I'm getting really horny. I was wondering what you think about the situation. Should I try to take things further or respect her space untill she lets me know she's ready?

Well..how old is she? Makes no sense (to me) wanting to take it slow and sleep together and tap a males crotch.

Many young females give way too many mixing signals and are very voluble (change their minds often..voluvel in Portugues). It is up to you if you want to play her games...yeh they are games even if she doesn't know they are..because no sensible female are going to touch a male genitals and expect he stay put (while they sleep together?)....when young kids play doctor they are exploring and it is all natural and inocent..all part of growing up..but c'mom..what kind of boundaries spaces are those for someone who want to go slow???

I would stop sleeping together and stick with kissing alone for a while. Would come up with better boundaries and make things more difficult as not too much available, let sexual tension grow more etc is great for a virgin situation if that is the case. By the time she is ready or not you will find out. Many times males are doing women great favor when they use their heads/brains and not listen to females non senses.:biggrin1:

Good luck.

 

[voidout]

*snip* Many young females give way too many mixing signals and are very voluble (change their minds often..voluvel in Portugues). It is up to you if you want to play her games...yeh they are games even if she doesn't know they are... *snip*

exactly!

that's why i don't get a lot of my female peers perspectives or mind sets.