I used OK Cupid for a few years, and I met exactly the kind of guy NJQT likes. He was in his thirties at the time, about 6 years ago I think. He was A German (complete with hot accent) working in NYC for the German gov't. He lived half a block from Central Park, and had fireplaces in and balconies off of his living room and bedroom in his apartment on the top floor of an Upper West Side brownstone. His tasteful, custom clothing screamed out, "Ka-Ching!" He was funny, passionate, adventurous, assertive, confident, and direct. He spoke in images, and he was very gentle. His manners were above reproach. He had impeccable taste in food and wine. Neither of us were looking for anything long-term at the time, and at the end of the season, I moved on, and he went back to his ex from Germany.
The point is, I'm black, and never had any trouble finding what I was looking for online at OK Cupid, Plenty of Fish, and Match. I never initiated contact with anyone. I posted two really hot pictures, two pretty pictures, and ten pictures of myself being a jackass at a friend's house(depending on how many pictures the site permitted; OK Cupid permitted only five). I wrote a short paragraph about myself, and a longer paragraph detailing the exactly what I like, and what I wanted from a man. I sprinkled a few jokes into the mix, and that was my ad. I got tons of replies, and I responded to fewer than 5% of them. Of the men with whom I exchanged messages, I met up with fewer than half. I figure if someone isn't getting any responses from men they like at all, they need to revisit their presentation of themselves.
It also probably helps that I was open to men from all races, and walks of life, provided they were hot, tall, considerate, funny, smart, and not looking to change me.
