Skull Mason
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yea yall are right. now i just gotta figure out how to spring it on my family. my sister prolly wont even care and my cousins (most of them atleast) wont care either but its the older ones. i wonder wat i should say
Dude a relationship is all about how the other person makes u feel. Its not about the colour of their skin their wealth or status in society. Also its u that are having the relationship. Not your family your friends or your neighbours. Yes its tricky for you but if she makes u feel good stick with it and if its meant to be it will last.
That's good advice, but until you have experienced the overt and covert racism that still thrives in America you just don't get it. :frown1:I'm speaking from experience in being in a mixed race relationship. Fuck em if they don't like it is my advice xx
What NJQT said, except that SOUTH (ie. Miami area) Florida might work.
Florida is where many people from the north go to retire. It is also the only southern state in which it's natural inhabitants have no discernible drawl. Miami last time I heard was like a little Cuba. I had a few Cuban friends in college. They were very cool and I loved learning about their culture and food.Having moved from central FLorida to California about six years ago, I can say it is REALLY different out here, much more accepting of individual choices.
Dave
You know your family aren't accepting of white people. A given. You know you are going to feel uncomfortable with the local hoodies. Another given. Plan on how to properly deal with their issues. Don't ever think that you are going to change their minds. You won't.
You have found a soulmate. And are you going to let the hoodies and your family mess with that?
You know your family aren't accepting of white people. A given. You know you are going to feel uncomfortable with the local hoodies. Another given. Plan on how to properly deal with their issues. Don't ever think that you are going to change their minds. You won't.
You have found a soulmate. And are you going to let the hoodies and your family mess with that?
Good advice, but he's young and it's so hard to go against your familys beliefs at that age. I still remember the screaming match that ensued when I told my father a white boy had asked me to the senior prom. :frown1:
Yeah, I feel for you. My father had the same issue but my mom was okay with it. My dad's homosexuality and inclination for white guys but had no outlet led to his bitchy behavior. It was always an issue.
Years later when I was seriously dating a white man, my father not only wouldn't allow him into our home (forcing us to sneak around) he had a codicil added to his will stating that "if I marry a white man I get nothing." If I marry a white man and my dad dies , the part of his estate previously designated, for me is, to be divided between a few black charities. I am not joking. He really had this done I have seen the will. It's important to realize that a) my parents aren't wealthy, b) all the good stuff is in moms name, c) I am an only child.
Wow. I hope you hit the lottery, girlfriend. Or marry Donald Trump.
I feel the OP's pain I really do. :frown1: I was about 20 when I realized that everytime I tried to make my parents happy I failed and felt miserable. The best thing I could do for me was to just do what I could to make me happy, within the parameters of the law and the 10 Commandments. Anytime I have been miserable, unhappy, or depressed it has been because I had forgotten that.
With age we have both become less militant in our beliefs and have long ago reconciled. Our relationship is not the same. I definitely did permanent damage by following my heart; but I don't regret the good times or great memories.Well, he doesn't have to take my advice if he is unsure of the ramifications. But this is an issue between his happiness and his family's and his hoodies' happiness. You can only live one life not others too. Why do family and hoodies have to drag each other down? That is some hateful shit.
What if this girl is truly the one for him? You want him to miss out on being happy? Maybe they could work it out on their own.
NJQT, I am sorry that your father wrote codicils in his own will. It is his right. You don't have to count on him to support you though. You either hit the lottery, marry an independently wealthy white hottie, or work as a successful entrepreneur in your own right. Be happy by your own standards...not by anyone else's.
*Snip*Like I said we aren't wealthy but mom does have a few furs and some rather nice jewelry. All of which I am allowed to borrow now, so it's not like I am a vulture waiting for either of them to kick the bucket.NJQT, so sorry to hear about how your dad treated you. It aint fair to you or any potential husband of yours, and I wish people could see past skin color to accept others for their character. At least your mother owns the "good stuff" as you put it.
The weird thing is dad was the Deputy EEO officer for a Navy base for many years. He fought against all types of discrimination and harassment on a daily basis. So imagine my surprise when I was in high school and found out I wasn't allowed to date white boys. I thought I was supposed to date and be friends with nice people from good familys. I didn't realize that would exclude all caucasians! :tongue:I very briefly dated an African-American woman, but that relationship never went far, and I never told my folks about it. Only later did I discover that my sister can't stand being around black people. I wish she thought otherwise, but it is up to her to choose her attitudes and the best I can do is call her on her words, and challenge her to become better.