Racism in the LGBT community.

[therebrand]

Someone on here suggested to me earlier, I'm possibly still single, specifically because of me being black.
I don't agree with that thinking at all - although I understand why they came to that conclusion.

Here are my thoughts on that statement:
I've heard that the community casts aside black people, but I don't buy into that way of thinking.
I simply feel that racists and homophobes have zero intelligence - only stupid men are racist and homophobic to me.
It just shows you that they let others influence them, and they'll never think for themselves; racists and homophobes are spineless and always will be.

It's not the 1920s anymore - and quite frankly, my mother was born in Georgia in '63, during Jim Crow era racism in the South - to this day, my mother's birth certificate lists both her parents' races as "Negro".
That's the level of outdated thinking I'm talking about.

I was born in '96.
So there's more severe problems in the world today, than the community looking down on me because of my race and skin tone - I don't believe in all that, so I simply keep moving forward and promote equality, diversity and inclusion as much as I can.
And even if it was a severe problem, all I'd do is move to England or Canada and start a whole new life; it's truly that simple.

In fact:
My mom's family is racist (they're racist toward white people, and had a fit when I brought home my Jewish ex-girlfriend, years ago - and they still shun me because of who I fall in love with - race wise - but their homophobia only confirms that they have this outdated and delusional way of thinking).
So I don't listen to what anyone says; my family looks down on my exes because of their races, so other people's objections hold no weight, either.
Many years ago, I also dated 2 racists from West Virginia - and let's just say I'm glad someone else has to deal with them now; they were addicts, too (which they hid from me for more than a year after we met).

I once told a relative my recent exes are Latin, and she tells me, "I'm not racist, but you know I love my black men" (my whole family polishes their statements with colorful language like that) - so I simply switched the subject.
They're all married with children, so they made their choices - and I make mine, every day.

 

[CUBE]

I’m sorry that was said to you. I can’t even get my head around that was stated as some sore of single justification. People are nut jobs. Be well!

 

[therebrand]

I’m sorry that was said to you. I can’t even get my head around that was stated as some sore of single justification. People are nut jobs. Be well!

Thank you!
And I'm very well.
How've you been, kind sir?

 

[therebrand]

I’m sorry that was said to you. I can’t even get my head around that was stated as some sore of single justification. People are nut jobs. Be well!

And just last night, I got called an "n-word (I'm not saying it) monkey" on.... Reddit.
It's 2024.
When can all racist words stop being used?
Because America has a lot of.... 'splainin to do (in the words of Ricky Ricardo).

 

[Boaxy]

(Speaking as a Gay Black man single myself) if anyone who isn't Black (and more specifically White) tells you that being Black will have nothing to do with your bad luck/worse chances of finding love, (even if it doesn't, which it does, and I'll stretch on this a bit later.) just end it there speaking to them, as they kinda don't have a horse in that race at all. Like how dare they even. Like they can give general advice/dialogue that has nothing to do with race. Like how to find dates, be a good partner, how to be a generally nice person etc. But any discussion related to race/racism in this community (which yes is a hot button topic and huge problem.) I kinda feel other than offering empathy/understanding/wanting to be educated etc. they need to be quiet. I mean this in the nicest and most polite and respectful way.

As someone myself, who doesn't care what race a guy is when it comes to dating. I'm also not saying there aren't white guys who will be emphatic and understand. But I notice (from my experience being on Reddit/Gaybros Reddit is notorious for doing this crime/sin lol) a lot of White guys will say "It's not because you're Black", like yeah just stop. Because that's not helping and actually making the situation worse. Because it is because we're Black, and even God forbid if it isn't, I feel again, you don't have a horse in this race.

Secondly, in very rare, almost impossible cases, (like he would have to be like circus clown level crazy to where yeah him being Black isn't the reason, but even then, him being Black does make things worse, and doesn't make things any easier. As guys let things slide for White guys, that they don't for Black. For example guys might be willing to date a White goth guy, but not Black goth/punker guy lol.) yeah it's not because he's Black, but usually it is.

It's mostly down to incorrect notions. People assume that Black LGBTQ people (or rather Gay Black men) are different, and our cultures are different, the way we speak is different, the way we act is different, that we are lower class, can't speak in proper diction/correct grammar/we are riff raff (which that in itself is kinda sad because everyone on the planet is different and comes from different upbringings, so that's bullshit altogether and just racist/shameful smh.) they assume that some of us may not even be attracted to White/people not in our circuit. Which isn't true at all. Being Black just means I have more/darker melanin in my skin that's all lol. Like RuPaul, the most famous gay Black man in the world, I argue there are White men who act more Blacker than him so yeah lol.

Next, it comes down to I guess them not finding us attractive, or finding our natural features attractive, or maybe in some cases it's down to they are scared as to how their family/friends/reputation circle might think etc.

But cheer up OP. I understand you though, and I'm here if you want to talk about this more.

 

[therebrand]

(Speaking as a Gay Black man single myself) if anyone who isn't Black (and more specifically White) tells you that being Black will have nothing to do with your bad luck/worse chances of finding love, (even if it doesn't, which it does, and I'll stretch on this a bit later.) just end it there speaking to them, as they kinda don't have a horse in that race at all. Like how dare they even. Like they can give general advice/dialogue that has nothing to do with race. Like how to find dates, be a good partner, how to be a generally nice person etc. But any discussion related to race/racism in this community (which yes is a hot button topic and huge problem.) I kinda feel other than offering empathy/understanding/wanting to be educated etc. they need to be quiet. I mean this in the nicest and most polite and respectful way.

As someone myself, who doesn't care what race a guy is when it comes to dating. I'm also not saying there aren't white guys who will be emphatic and understand. But I notice (from my experience being on Reddit/Gaybros Reddit is notorious for doing this crime/sin lol) a lot of White guys will say "It's not because you're Black", like yeah just stop. Because that's not helping and actually making the situation worse. Because it is because we're Black, and even God forbid if it isn't, I feel again, you don't have a horse in this race.

Secondly, in very rare, almost impossible cases, (like he would have to be like circus clown level crazy to where yeah him being Black isn't the reason, but even then, him being Black does make things worse, and doesn't make things any easier. As guys let things slide for White guys, that they don't for Black. For example guys might be willing to date a White goth guy, but not Black goth/punker guy lol.) yeah it's not because he's Black, but usually it is.

It's mostly down to incorrect notions. People assume that Black LGBTQ people (or rather Gay Black men) are different, and our cultures are different, the way we speak is different, the way we act is different, that we are lower class, can't speak in proper diction/correct grammar/we are riff raff (which that in itself is kinda sad because everyone on the planet is different and comes from different upbringings, so that's bullshit altogether and just racist/shameful smh.) they assume that some of us may not even be attracted to White/people not in our circuit. Which isn't true at all. Being Black just means I have more/darker melanin in my skin that's all lol. Like RuPaul, the most famous gay Black man in the world, I argue there are White men who act more Blacker than him so yeah lol.

Next, it comes down to I guess them not finding us attractive, or finding our natural features attractive, or maybe in some cases it's down to they are scared as to how their family/friends/reputation circle might think etc.

But cheer up OP. I understand you though, and I'm here if you want to talk about this more.

I 100% agree.
I'd say my attitude to relationships is more Progressive and European, in thinking.
And I'm half Bermudian as well; my dad moved to the States in 1973.
He told me in 2009, "I never knew what racism was, until I moved to the United States."
That statement stills stays in my mind - and always will, even 15 years later.
I take after my dad's side; all of my relationships have been interracial, but I'd say one-third have been with foreign men.
From personal experience, the foreign men were both Asian and white men, and both sides did respect me.
But those relationships didn't work out, and now..... I'm having to push away guys who aren't looking to settle down with me.
I can't stand guys who use me for sex, and things like that.

 

[TheSuckubus]

I think this is one of those things where it definitely does have an effect, but the effect can be hard to gauge. What I have noticed is that non-black men are usually very interested in fucking me, but not very interested in dating me or loving me. And I noticed this with my other black friends who have intimate relationships with people outside of our own race.

So, there's certainly a pattern. I also know that I've been called a n-word monkey b*tch (similar to what you were called) when I told a white man that I didn't want to hook up right away. Racists can still be attracted to us, but do they see us as their equals? No.

And there are so many everyday people that carry unconscious racist attitudes. Stereotypes that they believed, or something they learned at home, etc. They may not see themselves as racist, but those unconscious attitudes still have a bearing on the decisions that they make. Decisions that involve you, if you are connecting with them intimately. So, yeah. There's a link for sure, but it varies from person to person. The only way your race is keeping you single is if you are only chasing men that dont want to date your race, but only you would know if thats the case though.

Also, I had a question about your last response. What did you mean when you said your attitude to relationships is more "progressive and European"?... I could be reading into that statement incorrectly, but that sounds like something that needs to be unpacked.

 

[EnglishSpaniard]

Bro. As a gay white man (really white/Hispanic mixed, but VERY white-passing), even I can acknowledge that the racism in our community is fucking WILD.

I know my perspective isn’t going to come with nearly as much weight as you OP, but I first started really realizing how racist other gays can be a few years ago.

Here’s a very silly-sounding example: I’m a Disney fanatic, right? Well, since the casting announcement in 2019, I’d been super excited about the live-action Little Mermaid movie (and I really liked it when it finally came out).
I don’t even like most of the live-action remakes. But I thought Halle was a fabulous casting choice. She’s beautiful and has the voice of an angel. And hey, now one of my favorite princesses has a white version and a black version! I thought that was cool!

WELL. I once met a really, REALLY hot guy at the gay bar I frequent (the folks who run it are very pro-BLM, just for the record). Turns out, he’s also a big Disney fan, so we clicked over that. Somehow the new Little Mermaid comes up. Turns out, Ariel is HOS favorite princess too. Sweet!
Well. He’s also white. But unlike me, he’s actually salty as fuck about a black girl playing the role. For some reason.
Somehow, that conversation devolves into him going in a whole tirade about how “redheads are a bigger minority than black people” and “what if they made Tiana or Pocahontas white” and him making up this big cock-n-bull story about how Beyonce forced Disney to cast Halle as Ariel.
Which is… blatantly made up. I Googled that story extensively the next day and found nothing.
Then he makes up a story about how there’s supposedly footage of Rachel Zegler, the girl playing Snow White, assaulting people on the streets and telling them “You can’t hurt me, I’m a minority!” (Spoiler alert: There’s no footage of that whatsoever. This guy 100% made that shit up.)

Add that to a whole bunch of angry tirades on Facebook about how Halle Bailey “is NOT Ariel,” and swearing by his made-up story about Beyonce somehow being involved with her casting (he was REALLY dead set on that crap), and you have me over here like “Bro. It’s a fucking mermaid. Get over it.”

I was also just so flabbergasted how an out and proud gay man could use all the same bullshit racist arguments that all the other racist d-bags use. I wanted to shake him and go “Dude, most racists don’t like YOU, either!”

I’m sure this is a VERY silly and dumb-sounding example. My post is about a dang children’s movie about a mermaid, lmao. But I think sometimes, minor stuff like a kids’ movie is where a surprising amount of bigoted crap shows itself. It was just a huge wake-up call to me that GAYS, even white ones like myself, could also be racist.
I guess a part of it is a desperation to feel better than someone else, since you’re already discriminated against for one reason. Might be a similar reason for so much homophobia in the black community.

Sorry, this was a lot of word-vomit. But I wanted to throw in my two cents.

 

[therebrand]

Bro. As a gay white man (really white/Hispanic mixed, but VERY white-passing), even I can acknowledge that the racism in our community is fucking WILD.

I know my perspective isn’t going to come with nearly as much weight as you OP, but I first started really realizing how racist other gays can be a few years ago.

Here’s a very silly-sounding example: I’m a Disney fanatic, right? Well, since the casting announcement in 2019, I’d been super excited about the live-action Little Mermaid movie (and I really liked it when it finally came out).
I don’t even like most of the live-action remakes. But I thought Halle was a fabulous casting choice. She’s beautiful and has the voice of an angel. And hey, now one of my favorite princesses has a white version and a black version! I thought that was cool!

WELL. I once met a really, REALLY hot guy at the gay bar I frequent (the folks who run it are very pro-BLM, just for the record). Turns out, he’s also a big Disney fan, so we clicked over that. Somehow the new Little Mermaid comes up. Turns out, Ariel is HOS favorite princess too. Sweet!
Well. He’s also white. But unlike me, he’s actually salty as fuck about a black girl playing the role. For some reason.
Somehow, that conversation devolves into him going in a whole tirade about how “redheads are a bigger minority than black people” and “what if they made Tiana or Pocahontas white” and him making up this big cock-n-bull story about how Beyonce forced Disney to cast Halle as Ariel.
Which is… blatantly made up. I Googled that story extensively the next day and found nothing.
Then he makes up a story about how there’s supposedly footage of Rachel Zegler, the girl playing Snow White, assaulting people on the streets and telling them “You can’t hurt me, I’m a minority!” (Spoiler alert: There’s no footage of that whatsoever. This guy 100% made that shit up.)

Add that to a whole bunch of angry tirades on Facebook about how Halle Bailey “is NOT Ariel,” and swearing by his made-up story about Beyonce somehow being involved with her casting (he was REALLY dead set on that crap), and you have me over here like “Bro. It’s a fucking mermaid. Get over it.”

I was also just so flabbergasted how an out and proud gay man could use all the same bullshit racist arguments that all the other racist d-bags use. I wanted to shake him and go “Dude, most racists don’t like YOU, either!”

I’m sure this is a VERY silly and dumb-sounding example. My post is about a dang children’s movie about a mermaid, lmao. But I think sometimes, minor stuff like a kids’ movie is where a surprising amount of bigoted crap shows itself. It was just a huge wake-up call to me that GAYS, even white ones like myself, could also be racist.
I guess a part of it is a desperation to feel better than someone else, since you’re already discriminated against for one reason. Might be a similar reason for so much homophobia in the black community.

Sorry, this was a lot of word-vomit. But I wanted to throw in my two cents.

I loved reading this!
Such an eye-opening discussion, for me and everyone here.
I agree with you - that guy at the bar was carrying beyond belief!
He absolutely tried it.

 

[EnglishSpaniard]

I loved reading this!
Such an eye-opening discussion, for me and everyone here.
I agree with you - that guy at the bar was carrying beyond belief!
He absolutely tried it.

I’m glad you thought so! I was afraid this was gonna read like brainless word-vomit hahaha!
Oh he was reaching like MAD. Just insane how a movie about a cute mermaid of all things can reveal so much racist bullshit in our society.

 

[heinz.friedrich]

Someone on here suggested to me earlier, I'm possibly still single, specifically because of me being black.
I don't agree with that thinking at all - although I understand why they came to that conclusion.

That seems to be normal in the USA.

"Nearly half of the LGBTQ population in America identifies as single, and a vast majority of these singles, some 80 percent, are seeking a committed relationship. By expanding our annual Singles in America study to include more people of diverse identities, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Americans, we are beginning to address these knowledge gaps to better understand singles today."

Match Releases New Study On LGBTQ Single Population

I've heard that the community casts aside black people, but I don't buy into that way of thinking.
I simply feel that racists and homophobes have zero intelligence - only stupid men are racist and homophobic to me.
It just shows you that they let others influence them, and they'll never think for themselves; racists and homophobes are spineless and always will be.

For me, empathy, love and sexual attraction are not connected, but a lot of people claim that on this forum.

What I mean you can be sexually attracted to everyone without loving the person and you can love a person without being sexually attracted.

 

[heinz.friedrich]

As someone myself, who doesn't care what race a guy is when it comes to dating. I'm also not saying there aren't white guys who will be emphatic and understand. But I notice (from my experience being on Reddit/Gaybros Reddit is notorious for doing this crime/sin lol) a lot of White guys will say "It's not because you're Black", like yeah just stop. Because that's not helping and actually making the situation worse. Because it is because we're Black, and even God forbid if it isn't, I feel again, you don't have a horse in this race.

I researched this for another thread and I found the following.

That is a study about heterosexual people. I would wonder if it is different for gay people:

The results replicate earlier findings that Black men are rated as more attractive than White men. It was further found that Asian men were rated as less attractive than either other race. For women the pattern was reversed with Asian women being rated as most attractive followed by White women and then Black women. The patterns observed occurred regardless of the race of the person doing the ratings.

A Facial Attractiveness Account of Gender Asymmetries in Interracial Marriage

There are a lot of black men on this forum that think this way, so they are either wrong or it is different for gay people.

But I have to add that my opinion is that attraction and also sexual attraction has nothing to do with love, kindness or anything like that.

 

[heinz.friedrich]

Here’s a very silly-sounding example: I’m a Disney fanatic, right? Well, since the casting announcement in 2019, I’d been super excited about the live-action Little Mermaid movie (and I really liked it when it finally came out).
I don’t even like most of the live-action remakes. But I thought Halle was a fabulous casting choice. She’s beautiful and has the voice of an angel. And hey, now one of my favorite princesses has a white version and a black version! I thought that was cool!

If you say you cast colorless, you can choose who you want. But Hollywood and progressives in the USA think that if a race is over or underrepresented that is a sign of racism.

That thinking in itself is racist and that is why it is good that these hateful bigots are boycotted.

Over- and underrepresentation has not necessarily anything to do with racism. The Nazis thought the same about Jews. They were overrepresented in the elite, so they thought the system is biased and racist. And the people that are overrepresented control the system. That were the Jews.

You simply dont know if there is racism based on representation.

Add that to a whole bunch of angry tirades on Facebook about how Halle Bailey “is NOT Ariel,” and swearing by his made-up story about Beyonce somehow being involved with her casting (he was REALLY dead set on that crap), and you have me over here like “Bro. It’s a fucking mermaid. Get over it.”

That is because you have to see race everywhere according to American ideologies. And if you see race everywhere you care about that stuff.

But that is also the fault of Hollywood because they promote this racist ideology. Afterward they and their "fans" wonder about the outcome.

I explain what I mean. If you see identity for example in sports, you can develop a bias towards sport clubs and fans of different sports clubs depending on the identity.

If you are colorless or identityless, you love every fan equally nomatter which sport club they support. You basically enjoy the game nomatter who wins. That would be a example of a non-biased person.

Hollywood promotes identity politics. So it is the logical consequence that people become more racist especially Americans (mostly on the left) who practice this stuff on a daily basis.

Also, I had a question about your last response. What did you mean when you said your attitude to relationships is more "progressive and European"?... I could be reading into that statement incorrectly, but that sounds like something that needs to be unpacked.

Identity politics was considered far right in Europe some time ago. That changed when progressives in the USA discovered that you gain influence and power with identity politics. Now it is also considered left in some European countries like the UK.

But if you practice identity politics (see identity everywhere) you become biased. that practice does not defeat biases.

You have to practice colorlessness and identitylessness to become unbiased like I explained it above with the sport clubs. You develop more biases the more you concentrate on identities.

That is a false teaching that leads to negativity but somehow people do not realize this.

 

[JackifSpades]

Such a meaningful conversation- I appreciate it and everyone who has contributed already. As a white masculine presenting gay guy who grew up in - and has remained deeply intertwined with - the black community since childhood, I know my perspective is unique, but I feel that it should be clearly stated that everyone has their own preferences and attractions, kinks and fetishes, fantasies and desires that our egos are driven to experience. It’s unfair to pass judgement on others when we all have our own shit. That said, it’s virtually impossible to bifurcate those driven by fear and ignorance from those who are curious, fascinated or otherwise drawn to interracial sexual experiences or specific imagery/fetishes etc that objectify those who are “other” or attempt to exploit, manipulate, degrade or otherwise impact the objects of their desire in any way other than entirely positive.

White people need to lift black people up. Period.

Black people- especially black men- need to understand that they are in fact descended from greatness and have to find ways to side step, bulldoze through, or plow their way through the inherently racist, misogynistic, homophonic pillars on which this country and all of its institutions were built in order to step into their greatness. The whites who get it have to open doors, provide opportunities and make their reparations by acknowledging the truth and doing their part to make real lasting change that elevates the black community as a whole.

I should mention that I have been called out for being a white guy who exclusively subs for black men which apparently makes me a racist (context be damned). But I will not apologize for putting my mouth where my money is - I didn’t know that I was destined to spend my life providing pleasure - as well as emotional, financial and spiritual support- to beautiful black men until I was forced to blow two classmates. That wasn’t anything I did - it happened. I’m not mad cause they were right, I loved it, and they weren’t wrong about my services being something that would be appreciated by so many kings. Black men are my preference. I have been with plenty of Latino, middle eastern and mixed guys too, and they were enough and I wasn’t secretly obsessing about finding some BBC. But I acknowledge that there are lots of guys who are inherently bigots in one way or another and I feel sorry for them because most’ve them have been taught and brainwashed before they had a chance - like religion, that kool aid is part of their upbringing and they don’t stand a chance unless they choose to completely disassociate themselves from their families and existing support systems.

In my view it really doesn’t matter because the world is browning and nothings gonna stop it from eventually becoming one universal race of human beings that sees beyond the superficialities of skin color and gender and embraces the universality of the collective human soul.

Let the insults and name calling begin

 

[therebrand]

Such a meaningful conversation- I appreciate it and everyone who has contributed already. As a white masculine presenting gay guy who grew up in - and has remained deeply intertwined with - the black community since childhood, I know my perspective is unique, but I feel that it should be clearly stated that everyone has their own preferences and attractions, kinks and fetishes, fantasies and desires that our egos are driven to experience. It’s unfair to pass judgement on others when we all have our own shit. That said, it’s virtually impossible to bifurcate those driven by fear and ignorance from those who are curious, fascinated or otherwise drawn to interracial sexual experiences or specific imagery/fetishes etc that objectify those who are “other” or attempt to exploit, manipulate, degrade or otherwise impact the objects of their desire in any way other than entirely positive.

White people need to lift black people up. Period.

Black people- especially black men- need to understand that they are in fact descended from greatness and have to find ways to side step, bulldoze through, or plow their way through the inherently racist, misogynistic, homophonic pillars on which this country and all of its institutions were built in order to step into their greatness. The whites who get it have to open doors, provide opportunities and make their reparations by acknowledging the truth and doing their part to make real lasting change that elevates the black community as a whole.

I should mention that I have been called out for being a white guy who exclusively subs for black men which apparently makes me a racist (context be damned). But I will not apologize for putting my mouth where my money is - I didn’t know that I was destined to spend my life providing pleasure - as well as emotional, financial and spiritual support- to beautiful black men until I was forced to blow two classmates. That wasn’t anything I did - it happened. I’m not mad cause they were right, I loved it, and they weren’t wrong about my services being something that would be appreciated by so many kings. Black men are my preference. I have been with plenty of Latino, middle eastern and mixed guys too, and they were enough and I wasn’t secretly obsessing about finding some BBC. But I acknowledge that there are lots of guys who are inherently bigots in one way or another and I feel sorry for them because most’ve them have been taught and brainwashed before they had a chance - like religion, that kool aid is part of their upbringing and they don’t stand a chance unless they choose to completely disassociate themselves from their families and existing support systems.

In my view it really doesn’t matter because the world is browning and nothings gonna stop it from eventually becoming one universal race of human beings that sees beyond the superficialities of skin color and gender and embraces the universality of the collective human soul.

Let the insults and name calling begin

I absolutely agree with you.
I was going to make additional comments (which were similar to yours), but you explained my thoughts on racism better than I.
My grandma (being from the Deep South and 31 years old at the time) walked in the March on Washington.
She went back to DC in 1988 and again in 2001.
I used to have a photo of her sitting on Lincoln's lap at the Lincoln Memorial (she was 69 years old then!)

 

[bigboaster]

I’m glad you thought so! I was afraid this was gonna read like brainless word-vomit hahaha!
Oh he was reaching like MAD. Just insane how a movie about a cute mermaid of all things can reveal so much racist bullshit in our society.

I'm curious. Do you not think it's possible for any person who opposed the casting of the little Mermaid movie to not be racist? Or do you think that particular guy at the bar engaged in racist attitudes/behavior?

 

[deleted19462351]

Poc here (Chilean living in Spain and I'm light tan most of the year) I'd say the situation is different here but falls more on the same field. White guys date white guys, gay groups are mostly compressed of normative white gays, they might have black friends but they rarely if ever include them in their friend group and with Latinos they either don't like them or REALLY REALLY do like them, do not point it to them otherwise they'll get really defensive.

Gotta say it used to bother me but I don't care anymore, not having any plans on joining them any time soon.

 

[Boaxy]

Poc here (Chilean living in Spain and I'm light tan most of the year) I'd say the situation is different here but falls more on the same field. White guys date white guys, gay groups are mostly compressed of normative white gays, they might have black friends but they rarely if ever include them in their friend group and with Latinos they either don't like them or REALLY REALLY do like them, do not point it to them otherwise they'll get really defensive.

Gotta say it used to bother me but I don't care anymore, not having any plans on joining them any time soon.

It doesn't bother you because you fucking gave up, and that's what they want us to do.

I don't fucking understand. "Guys in this community don't date Black guys." So we're just supposed to be single forever, and just accept it/not let it bother you? Wow. I guess. Smh.

No. I'm not gonna do that. I have faith to kinda scream, shout, and rewrite history, even though the odds, and chances are stacked against us. Squeaky wheels don't get any oil, closed mouths don't get fed either. So yeah. It's fucked up. But I'm single, and I want a Boyfriend, and if I have to go on a game or show or something, and find him, like wow. I just wish I was straight sometimes, and not Black and gay, and I'm in my 30s now and lonely. But I will find him. I know it.

 

[Kanashi]

It doesn't bother you because you fucking gave up, and that's what they want us to do.

I don't fucking understand. "Guys in this community don't date Black guys." So we're just supposed to be single forever, and just accept it/not let it bother you? Wow. I guess. Smh.

No. I'm not gonna do that. I have faith to kinda scream, shout, and rewrite history, even though the odds, and chances are stacked against us. Squeaky wheels don't get any oil, closed mouths don't get fed either. So yeah. It's fucked up. But I'm single, and I want a Boyfriend, and if I have to go on a game or show or something, and find him, like wow. I just wish I was straight sometimes, and not Black and gay, and I'm in my 30s now and lonely. But I will find him. I know it.

to each their own. but some people would rather simply focus on other things and find peace in other aspects of life instead of wishing they were something they're not.

 

[EnglishSpaniard]

I'm curious. Do you not think it's possible for any person who opposed the casting of the little Mermaid movie to not be racist? Or do you think that particular guy at the bar engaged in racist attitudes/behavior?

No, I do not think anyone who doesn’t like the casting for a film about a mermaid is automatically a racist. I would ask how you came to that conclusion when I was specifically talking about the guy angrily spreading made-up crap to justify his unhinged amount of outrage, but I’ll assume good faith for now. I was specifically talking about that particular guy in the bar.