Rage-inducing jealousy

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Do any of you guys out there get completely enraged when you get jealous, even in the slightest?

When I see things that make me jealous or envious, I get an unbearable sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, I start sweating/face turns red, and I can feel my blood pressure rise.

It's weird, because it can happen over very small, insignificant things, but it happens only exclusively with people I actually know. I don't get jealous/envious watching porn or whatever, because I don't know those people.

Is anyone else like this? =\
 
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Yes, I have absolutely experienced that before. I'm going to assume you're talking about a relationship.

It's good that you've realized you feel this way, because although jealousy is a healthy and natural thing, feeling that rage is not. You're feeling this rage because a piece of you feels ownership towards your significant partner and wants the attention you receive from them to be special. When someone you see as special shows interest in someone/something else you feel normal insecurities and the rage you feel is a projection on a scape-goat.

Jealous rage is basically a manifestation of your own insecurities and it is not the fault of anyone else. Without working on yourself and facing whatever adeversity you need to, to overcome this rage, it will harm you and it will lead you to a very dark place. Relationships can't succeed with extreme jealousy; they can last for a long time, but they can't succeed.

On Relationships --> They are made up of two separate people. People have their own identities and a persons identity will always change and adapt and mold with time. If one partner refuses to grow, the relationship will be unbalance. NEVER limit your partner or try to force an identity on them...this can lead to extreme and unstable emotional reactions...such as jealousy rage.

I'm not a mental health professional. These are just things that I have learned in my life.

I hope this gave you some perspective....feel free to tell me I'm full of shit :)
 

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wow. no... i've never experienced jealousy that changed me physiologically. i didn't even realize that happened to people. i think i'll be more empathetic to others now, thanks.
 

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Do any of you guys out there get completely enraged when you get jealous, even in the slightest?

When I see things that make me jealous or envious, I get an unbearable sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, I start sweating/face turns red, and I can feel my blood pressure rise.

It's weird, because it can happen over very small, insignificant things, but it happens only exclusively with people I actually know. I don't get jealous/envious watching porn or whatever, because I don't know those people.

Is anyone else like this? =\

If you feel this way over "insignificant things", please contact a medical professional or call a free informational hotline before you do something very wrong one day in the future. This is extremely controlling, hostile and dangerous behavior. Tackle this fear while you can.
 

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Do any of you guys out there get completely enraged when you get jealous, even in the slightest?

When I see things that make me jealous or envious, I get an unbearable sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, I start sweating/face turns red, and I can feel my blood pressure rise.

It's weird, because it can happen over very small, insignificant things, but it happens only exclusively with people I actually know. I don't get jealous/envious watching porn or whatever, because I don't know those people.

Is anyone else like this? =\

If this is a seriously recurring thing, then I think you need some help, based on what you wrote.

I experienced jealous rage related to a relationship and it would have ended very, very badly had a good friend of mine not intercepted me until I cooled off. It was just luck that we ran into each other just as I was walking into the bar where my soon-to-be-ex g.f. was with another guy. A few seconds either way and everything could have gone wrong.

That was the only time I felt that way, and it is very scary in retrospect. My heart was pounding in my head, I could hardly see straight. Thank god it never happened again.

Yeah, if this is something you deal with on a regular basis, get some help. IMO, you're suffering from depression. Depression, in my experience, sometimes leads to a dangerously bad temper.
 

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If you feel this way over "insignificant things", please contact a medical professional or call a free informational hotline before you do something very wrong one day in the future. This is extremely controlling, hostile and dangerous behavior. Tackle this fear while you can.

Yeah, I agree.

Anger can be a natural response to seeing someone you love moving away from you (either in terms of starting a new relationship, cheating, or literally moving away from you). It's normal for humans to protest in one way or another when they lose emotional or physical proximity with people they love.

Thing is, as with other emotions, anger is a continuum of feeling. You've got mild anger, like being irked, moderate anger, like being pissed off, and then extreme anger, like rage - where you start losing control of your behaviour.

You may want to do a bit of work on getting a handle on what's going on inside to make you rage out. Anger is normal and healthy; how we express it, and how far we let it go, are not necessarily normal or healthy.