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The first parts are a brief introduction so that my main point actually makes sense...
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I have been on LPSG on and off since 2007. I closed an account, and then ended up coming back under the current username. In my almost 5 years on this site, I have learned a lot and have had a great chance to meet some interesting people. Tonight, something dawned on me: I've watched a lot of people come and go from this site.
Mark Twain happens to be one of my favorites, quotably he said "Let us make a special effort to stop communicating with each other, so we can have some conversation." This site offers an outlet for a large majority of its member base. I know some may not agree, but the anonymity of the internet gives everyone more of an open approach to topics that many would see as "taboo" in day-to-day life. When looking through the posts, it becomes evident that everyone here is looking for that conversation. In my experience, this site starts the conversation, and gives a platform for us to express our experiences and interpretations.
Something else happens, too. Off the public platform of this site, I've noticed that if a response to a post piques a members curiosity, they will private message to continue the conversation. I've had this happen often, and feel as if its a great way to start talking to people and opening up and getting to know their life experiences.
More often then not, I've met people from this site and we end up chatting on Skype. Some of these guys are like virtual penpals. After what seems to be the initial pleasantries of an LPSG greeting, "Hey Nice Cock...." and many more, there actually is a conversation that usually sparks. I've chatted with guys on here who were totally fake--and once called out canceled their service and just disappeared, closed all their accounts (IM, here, eMail). Then I've also chatted with some pretty real men: from fathers to construction workers, engineers to chefs. This place has a great diversity.
So where am I going with all this? The friendship/penpal aspect is to be expected, but what sucks is when the other person does a 180-degree turn and just stops all communication. Over my years on the site it seems to happen often and happen for a similar reason: significant others. When a guy's girl/boyfriend finds out that they are on LPSG or that they Skype/cam/chat/whatever with other guys it is like hell breaks out and everything collapses. I know that the girl/boyfriend is important, but why should the people on this site have to hide or be ashamed of the fact they are on here.
Hookups can happen from this site--but this isn't a "hookup" site. The title is shocking, but I wonder how often, after the initial blow-up by the girl/boyfriend that it is actually explained what all happens on here. I mean, I know the initial shock, and the placation of just removing your accounts and ceasing existence--until you rejoin a week later with a different username. I really wonder, when the dust settles, how many guys actually explain what the come here for, or what strikes their interest. "Hey honey, occasionally, I like to get another guy's opinion. Sometimes it's nice to get a feel for how others take things, especially in a day-and-age where even asking is admission of guilt for everything."
Then comes the pictures/videos. I know a lot of girl/boyfriends (sometimes employers) get pissy about having nudes on the site. I tend to look at the nude pics (or aroused pics, or whatever) as no different than seeing the guy at the gym or chubbing in the shower. I can see the issue if their private sex pics are posted without knowledge, but otherwise, why flip out?
Maybe it is just me. I hate to see great guys, that are fun to talk to, leave due to their significant other having an issue with something they are taking at face value. Having talked, and gotten to know, a guy on this site for about 3 years then one day the inevitable "my girlfriend found out about the site and I'm not coming on anymore..." then he seemed to have fallen off the face of the earth.
Sadly, it has happened again this evening. A chill guy I've chatted with for about a year was "busted" by his boyfriend...after being labeled a "dirtbag"...he popped up on skype and essentially said the person they are seeing found all they "stuff" they do on here, called himself a dirtbag, and then said "it's like cheating" and that was the last I heard from him. I'm assuming the Skype account was terminated because he went from being on my contacts list to being "pending contact request". It definitely sucks. Hate to see it happen, but I've learned it's the nature of the site.
With LPSG there is an ebb and flow with friendships. Albeit, they are not as intimate as a physical friendship, there is a certain level of interaction with people that makes this place great. Though this is a rant (of sorts), I thought after all these years, I had to get this view off my chest. It's a shame.
[I have placed my soapbox under the bed]
The first parts are a brief introduction so that my main point actually makes sense...
--
I have been on LPSG on and off since 2007. I closed an account, and then ended up coming back under the current username. In my almost 5 years on this site, I have learned a lot and have had a great chance to meet some interesting people. Tonight, something dawned on me: I've watched a lot of people come and go from this site.
Mark Twain happens to be one of my favorites, quotably he said "Let us make a special effort to stop communicating with each other, so we can have some conversation." This site offers an outlet for a large majority of its member base. I know some may not agree, but the anonymity of the internet gives everyone more of an open approach to topics that many would see as "taboo" in day-to-day life. When looking through the posts, it becomes evident that everyone here is looking for that conversation. In my experience, this site starts the conversation, and gives a platform for us to express our experiences and interpretations.
Something else happens, too. Off the public platform of this site, I've noticed that if a response to a post piques a members curiosity, they will private message to continue the conversation. I've had this happen often, and feel as if its a great way to start talking to people and opening up and getting to know their life experiences.
More often then not, I've met people from this site and we end up chatting on Skype. Some of these guys are like virtual penpals. After what seems to be the initial pleasantries of an LPSG greeting, "Hey Nice Cock...." and many more, there actually is a conversation that usually sparks. I've chatted with guys on here who were totally fake--and once called out canceled their service and just disappeared, closed all their accounts (IM, here, eMail). Then I've also chatted with some pretty real men: from fathers to construction workers, engineers to chefs. This place has a great diversity.
So where am I going with all this? The friendship/penpal aspect is to be expected, but what sucks is when the other person does a 180-degree turn and just stops all communication. Over my years on the site it seems to happen often and happen for a similar reason: significant others. When a guy's girl/boyfriend finds out that they are on LPSG or that they Skype/cam/chat/whatever with other guys it is like hell breaks out and everything collapses. I know that the girl/boyfriend is important, but why should the people on this site have to hide or be ashamed of the fact they are on here.
Hookups can happen from this site--but this isn't a "hookup" site. The title is shocking, but I wonder how often, after the initial blow-up by the girl/boyfriend that it is actually explained what all happens on here. I mean, I know the initial shock, and the placation of just removing your accounts and ceasing existence--until you rejoin a week later with a different username. I really wonder, when the dust settles, how many guys actually explain what the come here for, or what strikes their interest. "Hey honey, occasionally, I like to get another guy's opinion. Sometimes it's nice to get a feel for how others take things, especially in a day-and-age where even asking is admission of guilt for everything."
Then comes the pictures/videos. I know a lot of girl/boyfriends (sometimes employers) get pissy about having nudes on the site. I tend to look at the nude pics (or aroused pics, or whatever) as no different than seeing the guy at the gym or chubbing in the shower. I can see the issue if their private sex pics are posted without knowledge, but otherwise, why flip out?
Maybe it is just me. I hate to see great guys, that are fun to talk to, leave due to their significant other having an issue with something they are taking at face value. Having talked, and gotten to know, a guy on this site for about 3 years then one day the inevitable "my girlfriend found out about the site and I'm not coming on anymore..." then he seemed to have fallen off the face of the earth.
Sadly, it has happened again this evening. A chill guy I've chatted with for about a year was "busted" by his boyfriend...after being labeled a "dirtbag"...he popped up on skype and essentially said the person they are seeing found all they "stuff" they do on here, called himself a dirtbag, and then said "it's like cheating" and that was the last I heard from him. I'm assuming the Skype account was terminated because he went from being on my contacts list to being "pending contact request". It definitely sucks. Hate to see it happen, but I've learned it's the nature of the site.
With LPSG there is an ebb and flow with friendships. Albeit, they are not as intimate as a physical friendship, there is a certain level of interaction with people that makes this place great. Though this is a rant (of sorts), I thought after all these years, I had to get this view off my chest. It's a shame.
[I have placed my soapbox under the bed]
