rape vs. sodomy

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  1. the_guy

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    How much different do you think a womens thoughts/fear of being raped is to that of a man being sodomized against his will. Is it of more concern? Is it more psychologically damaging? At the evolutionary level, a woman would risk being impragenated by someone who she does not want to be. To a man, he would only risk a sore ass. But what about at the consious/subconsious level? How does it manifest itself there? What is the thought process there? Unlike straight men, a woman would have polar opposite feelings based on weather the sex was consensual (Assuming a straight guy wouldn't ever want to be fucked by another guy). What factor does this play?
     
  2. curious n str8

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    I think it all depends on the brutality and cruelty of the rape of each person,as you know a woman can be sodomized also,both parties being totally humilated.What each person's level of humilataion is and what they can live with.
     
  3. Matthew

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    Once in college, a bunch of my friends were talking about whether it would be worse to be raped or beaten black and blue (yes it was a very festive gathering). The women all said it would be worse to be raped but the guys said it would be worse to be beaten up b/c you wouldn't be able to hide it ...
     
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    I'm going to guess that outside of prisons, women are far, far more likely to be raped than men are. Guys really don't live in fear of it. A guy doesn't worry about the possibility of rape when walkin down a dark street at night, but women often do. Most women probably at least know someone who's been date-raped before, but very few guys do, if only because a guy would be loathe to ever admit it. I think the fear of rape is far more conscious in women's minds than in men's.
     
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    It would be pretty fucking harsh for anybody to deal with, regardless of sexual gender, wouldn't it? Against your will? I'd think there's potential for psychological damage for either sex.

    Unless you're talking about someone's porn fantasy come to life, in which case it's not about really about rape in the real world.
     
  6. madame_zora

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    There would certainly be some similar issues with both, but some unique ones as well. Rape is almost always about power, so being forced to give of yourself in the most personal way is by it's nature traumatising. I think there's more awareness amoung women that this could be a part of our lives, so we are on the defensive more. I'd think the shock value to a man and the crossing of sexual prefernce boundaries would be unique experiences. For women we almost always feel like "How could this be happening to ME? I thought I was smarter than this".

    I don't think that the trauma to one gender would be worse than the other, just different. Rape is a horrific crime regardless of the victim.
     
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    I may well be showing my naivety to the world of homosexuality here being a straight guy, so please excuse my ignorance. But it is a rare thing, male rape. Obviously it does happen, but nothing like as much as it does with female rape. Just a theory to throw into the ring (no pun intended!), maybe this is because it is much easier for a gay guy to pull and have sex with other gay guys. Men think alike! But maybe, just maybe, some of the perpetrators of male rape are in the closet and have a fear of coming out for whatever reasons and see rape as an extreme way to vent their sexual desire. Of course it would be much easier to come out and be done with it!
    Does that make sense?
     
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    Any Man that treats a woman like that is NO man, he should be shot and beaten to death. But as far as the emotional aspect i'm sure its worst on a woman, being over powered and taken control of by a guy thats bigger. I'm not the biggest guy but if any man tries to get me down and rape me, i'll knock the shit out of him, I just wouldnt let it happen is what im trying to say, He would have to kill me. Im sorry if thats too much, but im sick and cranky.
     
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    i always found it odd when a girl wanted to do a "pretend rape" just to act out a fantasy.
     
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    I don't like the way you posed that question, as you make it seem that only men rape other people. I know that women don't rape as many people, but I think that it would cause it's own brand of trauma. If a man were raped by a woman it would cause an immense sense of incredulusness, as well as a question of manhood, as the roles were completely reversed. A woman raping another woman would make just as much an impact, as it would, once again, be completely unexpected. I can only imagine that any form of rape would completely alter the person.
     
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    I think it would be an additional trauma that it was so unexpected, but in reality, women account for about only 3% or reported rape cases. That doesn't mean more don't go unreported, but even if it's 5% it's still the minority by a long shot. It will be interesting to see, as time goes on, as women get more social power if they will be as obnoxious in this respect in flaunting that power. I hope not, but people are people after all. I know a lot more men are experiencing sexual harassment than in years past when there were fewer women bosses.
     
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    Horrible,

    I hear you. Unfortunately, because this behavior is not uncommon often women when truly assaulted have the added insult of hearing jokes about "No... don't ...stop!" or mysogynistic comments like "YOU ALL say you dont want it, but we know you really do! " Especially in the case of date rape, women often do not report because of the fear of not being believed or harrassment. The "pretend fantasy" issue of submission and dominance is probably a result of the double standard that still exists for women regarding their sexuality. To openly pursue sexual activity to many still is the domain of the "bad girl", while to pretend not to want sex or even in hindsight to represent a consentual act as rape or assault to assuage guilt or to avoid ridicule is age old. We dont want to bring the cases of men who have been accused unjustly or even killed for no reason.
     
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    It would be 2/3 as bad for men.
     
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