I've posted here a bit about the trials and tribulations between my girlfriend and I. I apologize for the wall o' text, but i need a bit of food for though here. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. We miss each other when we're not together, and we just love being around eachother. Only problem is, I would like sex, she would as well, but doesnt get turned on. The few times we have unsuccessfully tried we're just to appease me. I definitely value her honesty in such a sensitive subject, but when I asked her if since we've dated, has she ever been sexually turned on, lusted for me, or just felt a longing to just have me there and play around a bit, and she said no, never. It didnt bother me as much because it was followed up with "I don't know why, but i have never been turned on in my life, i have never been horny, i have never had an urge to have any kind of sexual contact with anyone. When we do mess around i enjoy it and im happy because i know how much it means to you, but i dont really get anything out of it." I have a feeling that maybe shes just really not ready yet, and for that reason i have halted all sexual advances toward her and settle for cuddling and just hanging out. My question is, although i kinda have an answer is how should i bring up my conversation with her to address that this is somewhat of an issue. I know there are many many psychological sexual disorders such as HSDD and all that, but I dont know how i should bring it up in conversation. Im thinking I should just ask her if she feels im expecting too much, and she wants to slow it down and take it alot easier, or see if she wants to have sex and wants to enjoy it, and work from there. Its a really confusing matter for me being 22 and dating a girl that has never had any intimate experiences or any yearning for such a thing, and no previous relationship experience. I don't know how to tell her i think theres somethins psychologically wrong and if she wants to get it a little more serious she should go for a consultation. i just feel like i dick for saying it. Im not angry or stressed about the relationship at all because we absolutely love each other, and miss each other even after a few days apart which definitely means a lot to me. Having a strong love like that without the hormonal experiences to fortify it, feels like something true. But i feel its gotta happen some time, and in many cases, stuff like this is degenerative and should get it checked out. I dunno, tht was pretty horribly pieced together, but i think it makes sense. thanks alot guys, you always have the best advice, and many perspectives i often dont see.