Wow, this is a really loaded question. My 9.5er is big, but there are men much more endowed than me here, so I'll just narrate from my experiences. Pluses: There's no getting around it. When you're big, it gets attention not only in the bedroom but also in the locker room, in the gym, among friends, and so on. People notice and draw attention to it. When I was still in college, I had quite the semester of wild parties on my way out, and my dick earned me a bit of a reputation. And, truth be told, I guess people look at me and see a studious, bordering on nerdy, college philosopher who's really opinionated, loud, and all that. I don't think people would look at me and expect a big dick; when I started whipping it out and making it public, people really saw me in a different light. Granted, I didn't have women come knocking at all hours (small private liberal arts school, lots of small-town folks who are a bit on the shy side), but when people started calling me "Niner," it was cool. Oh, and hell, I like playing with it. Being big gives you more to hold onto and, well, it's just intrinsically fun. Minuses: I've had my fair share of sexual difficulties. I have yet to meet a woman who could handle my dick well. I consider myself a pretty understanding and patient lover, but if girls are freaked from the very start, it's a bit frustrating trying to calm them down and to make them realize that my goal isn't to get deep-throated. (Yeah, that's another confusion: the expectation to get the whole thing swallowed. I know I couldn't do it.) So, yeah, intercourse has its difficulties and I can't remember getting too many blowjobs that left me impressed and satisfied. Pride or Prejudice? I am proud of it. I am pretty secure with who I am and my appearance; I'm not really in want for huge muscles or studly facial features or anything like that. I think I'm liked and respected well enough, and so long as I'm still a funny guy who makes everyone laugh, I'm pleased. But I won't deny my like for my big dick; I get enough appreciation out of it on my own, and I like the positive reinforcement (read: "Damn, you're huge, dude!"). I don't flaunt it, though. I wait tables and an apron usually keeps attention away from the meat. And even when I'm kickin' it with my friends, I don't dress in any specific way to advertise. My policy: if my dick is that much of a topic, I'll just pull it out and show it that way. I deal with the same NRB (No Reason Boner) frustrations every guy deals with, and will do my best to cover it up if it starts snaking out of control. That's about it.