Real Talk. Erections.

Discussion in 'Underwear, Clothing, and Appearance Issues' started by detectivejwho, Sep 10, 2011.

  1. detectivejwho

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    I searched and searched for an answer to this question I have, and I can never find a solution. I'm going to ask this quesiton, and what I want is a solution. Please.

    Lately I've been going to the gym, and I noticed that many men in the locker room shower naked. I've never really experienced this before. Every time I see a naked man in the locker room, I get an erection. What's worse is that today I decided to take a shower in the gang room. There were some guys in there showering...and worst of all a professor of mine. I forced myself to take a shower there, because some said that the more you get used to it, the less likely you will get an erection in the locker room/ shower room. It was so embarrassing having an erection. I kept on thinking about gross things, but nothing would calm it down.

    I tried masturbating before going to the locker room, but I still get erections. Is there any advice to help keep my penis flaccid? It's really embarrassing. I just want to shower naked with other guys and keep my penis flaccid, like theirs. I love the feeling of being naked in front of others, but not with an erection.
     
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    I shower with guys all the time, I guess it helps that I can't see them when I take off my glasses, also, showering at the gym is probably worse cause the guys are in shape too!
     
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    Hey man.....I do think that the more u shower with others the more normal it become.....something is being turned on in your mind by the whole neaked experience with guys....maybe somehow the gay side of u while growing up was repressed or seen as naughty etc....and thus naked guys and the thought of this is somehow a turn on for whatever reasons.

    I am curious to know if showering with a group of women would guve u a hard on to?
     
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    Enjoy it - when you get to 30 it will pass, unless you are stroking it. It is what it is, enjoy it, and don't worry.
     
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    It's the newness and unusualness of the activity that's sparking you up. I'm afraid you're right that the only way past it is to go right through it. Keep going until it's not unusual anymore, and then it won't affect you so much.

    I would say that you should concentrate on the showering - on getting under the water, washing yourself, shampooing, rinsing, all of these rdinary and functional things. Try not to think about the naked men.
     
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    I once heard of a Buddhist technique where if you are being tormented by lust for a person or whatever you can close your eyes and imagine the person's intestines full of partially digested food (yuck) and their skin pores full of sebum (ewwww) and their eyeballs full of eyecheese- whatever grosses you out. Usually does the trick for me......The human body can be a totally wonderful or a totally gross thing- just depends on how you think about it?
     
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    i had the same problem. didnt have to shower for gym in grade school so when I went to a real gym in the real world I had a problem with getting hard in the shower.

    All it needed was time.
     
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    It new and exciting so enjoy as they probably will.

    The first time I went to a nudist club, as soon as I stripped I got hard espically when I knew people were looking at me, men or women. The lady manager took me for a tour in a golf cart. My erection resided until she stopped and introduced me to people. Many could tell I was new to it and just smiled. The manager told me if I was uncomfortable to put a towel on or go for a swim. She did advise me to cover up around children. The rest of the day I stayed to myself. Later I went to the dance and it stayed pretty much semi erect. It took several visits before I could parade around without an erection.

    When your young it only takes for the wind to blow. How I wish i was young again.
     
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    I think they said it best- its the new and uniqueness of the situation...give it time (jerking off before hand can take the 'edge' off), but focus on the non-sexualization of it (you are there to work out, not have sex), focus on how tired you are (not the odors and visualizations), wear 'unsexy' clothes (if a jock is a turn on, take another....
     
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    Hey detective, I agree with the other posters that in time the erection thing will go away. You're probably getting an erection because you're nervous about it; this is totally normal. If you think about how a body reacts when it's nervous (butterflies in your stomach, heart beating, etc.) it's really not that different from how a body reacts when it's horny (butterflies in your stomach, heart beating, etc.). The real difference is in how your body interprets these signals - so it's very, very normal for guys to get erections when they're nervous, and especially when they're nervous about getting erections.

    Relax, take your time, and don't get upset with yourself. Soon enough your body will learn the difference.

    Good luck!
     
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    While I've never had this problem, I believe you've received good advice here. Moreover, if you were my student, and I saw you with an erection in the shower, I wouldn't think anything of it, and I imagine your professor thought nothing of it either.
     
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    Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm going to try it again and again until I can finally take a shower in front of others without an erection. I forgot to mention that even when I take a shower in the stalls, I still get an erection. Basically when I strip down I get an erection. I think first I'm going to take a shower in the stalls, and once I don't have an erection there, I'm going to try the gang shower again. Again I appreciate the advice everyone. :)
     
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    That's a great idea. Perhaps spending more time naked when you're in private would help too? Best of luck.
     
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    you're getting all nervous about something that you think others will judge you for...

    Yeah- seeing another guy naked with an erection is normally reserved for one of two things: either watching a porn DVD or accidentally walking in on your roommate during his daily jack off-

    but you know what...

    An erection is normal and healthy and every EVERY *E V E R Y * guy gets them daily. An erect penis is a healthy penis. Guys who watch straight porn pretend theirs is the big one balls-deep in puss, and guys who watch gay porn are mentally substituting their mouth or ass for the ones on the screen. All guys know that a rod can pop out of nowhere, for any non-sexual reason- even in the showers among other guys.

    In the showers, some of those guys are gonna see it and be *impressed* by your personal self pride to be in a locker room with a thick bone. Other guys are gonna see it and it might give them wood, too (they have a tendency to spread a bit, you know...) maybe 2-5% will have some sort of negative opinion, but you know what? SO WHAT! Are you worried that someone is gonna report you as some big pervy dude? Hardly. Any guy who has a problem with it doesn't connect with his own cock very well- and is intimidated, jealous, or otherwise uptight and needs to f*cking relax.

    Like others have said, this nervous reaction is gonna pass as you get used to it- and until it does, it's NORMAL for you. So be normal, and use your health club as you normally do.
    No shame man. It's your body- don't be inappropriate with it, but be proud, and enjoy it. Don't believe me? Just wait for all the other 100% straight guys who are going to post after my post admitting that seeing your hard cock in the shower wouldn't bother them.
     
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