Curious to your experiences with straight people and what's happened to make you feel such contempt? Do you also get angry with the straight people who "invade" gay pride events to celebrate with you, and stand with you? Or are they invading those events too (that's a genuine question, not an attack)?
I'm straight (a little curious) and I love gay bars. I love the reduced male toxicity, my girlfriend loves them, I have gay friends and to be honest, the vibes are great and I don't give a shit about someone's sexuality or how they choose to identify. Whether it's my millennial status (yawn), or just not being raised to hate but even when bouncers look at me and say "you know it's a gay bar right?" I almost lose my shit and wanna say "In this day and age does it matter???" BUT I understand why they do. My point being, some of us don't want to invade - we also don't want to hate on or attack the gay community - we haven't got an issue and to all purposes are embracing our fellow man/woman irrespective of sexuality. I've met all kinds of people in gay clubs and there's often a real sense of freedom that aside from clubs in places in Europe, I don't always experience in a lot of 'straight' places and there's less aggression and more room to just be yourself and have a laugh.
I have seen drunk, straight couples in clubs, kissing and knocking people about on the dance floor and probably looking like that typical ignorant, self absorbed straight couple that are 'invading' and have no respect for the community. I've heard tales of women being harassed by straight males who know that a lot of straight women go to gay clubs with their gay friends or just to avoid being hit on. While I can't speak from the experience of someone who is gay, with examples like that above, I do understand the need or want to have your own space. I also understand the need to be represented by people who are like you (porn, TV, films etc), but it's easy to become lost in the same world of anger, loathing and this us-against-them attitude that ironically, makes you sound no different to a bigot.