My only gripe with this site is that the 'real women' on here seem to be either aloof or abrasive to varying degrees. I'm convinced it's not their fault and that they get bombarded with disgustingly rude PMs and e-mails on a daily basis, but it makes it near-impossible for those who just have a genuine compliment to impart or else just want to chat normally first without all the nasty-talk right off the bat. It's like when you're at the bar or some sausage-fest party where there's a hundred gross guys and one female - obviously she's been approached and harrassed countless times to the point where you think "fuck it" and aren't going to want to bother.
I'm not trying to be a dick, I just resent that the shameless idiots out there ruin it for men who are otherwise decent and deserve a chance. I feel pretty sure that if I send a PM I'll be spoken to curtly and dismissively, something I'm not really into. The response I get in real life is infinitely better. So it's quite surprising to think that the net actually makes talking to someone new harder, rather than easier - that's something I really wouldn't have thought initially. It's a shame that the response I'd get on here isn't really up to me, but rather governed by the amount of drooling dipshits she's had hassling her prior to my PM. Like I say though, I think the jadedness is inevitable given some of the messages I know get sent, so I can't really blame the women here for that.
Now maybe I'm just lazy, but I don't feel like spending ages breaking down barriers that I feel I shouldn't really have to break down. I don't expect the women here to muster the energy to reply to everyone properly and decently, because I know the sheer volume of crap they get sent precludes that. But it's like even if a person was to get through all the hurdles, it'd still be like "oh sure, I cam with John and Rupert and Eddie, but they're just friends - they only jack off to me." So no disrespect intended, but I don't think I'll be messaging too many of the women on this site, as cool/witty/intelligent as they surely are. Maybe this is all my own hang-up more than anything else though. I certainly don't rule that out.
As for spotting the difference between real and fake women, it's quite easy. Women are generally withdrawn, a little evasive, and won't go splurging every little detail right away - there's a kind of underlying tact to each message. Men make terrible women - they'll say things like "I'm wearing bright red lipstick with fire-engine red stilletos to match" - despite the fact that women haven't worn ensembles like that since at least the "Pretty Woman" era. That forthcomingness, while very see-through, lies in stark contrast to the kind of thing guys have to deal with as outlined in my previous paragraphs. So I think it's a kind of "I want to believe she's real because she's receptive" thing. Whether you go for that is a delicate formula of lack-of-perception and desperation.