Realising You Are Bisexual

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Hi guys, when did you realise you were bisexual? I am 44 and am now realising am some sort of bisexual. I am happily married, have a lovely wife but realise that I am to some extent bisexual. I have never had an experience with another man but have always been fascinated by cocks. I now realise that I fell for my best friend in high school but have only fallen in love with women since. Have you experienced your bisexuality being this complex and difficult to navigate? I do not want to separate from my wife or start a relationship with a man but I do feel the need to acknowledge this fact about my sexuality? Anyone else in a similar situation? Any advice?
 

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Hi guys, when did you realise you were bisexual? I am 44 and am now realising am some sort of bisexual. I am happily married, have a lovely wife but realise that I am to some extent bisexual. I have never had an experience with another man but have always been fascinated by cocks. I now realise that I fell for my best friend in high school but have only fallen in love with women since. Have you experienced your bisexuality being this complex and difficult to navigate? I do not want to separate from my wife or start a relationship with a man but I do feel the need to acknowledge this fact about my sexuality? Anyone else in a similar situation? Any advice?

We live once man. Experience whatever you feel you may like. I'm bi as well. Ive always known I liked certain guys and been fascinated by cock. The first time you hook up you'll know if you want more or not. I don't have anal sex with guys but I'll kiss, exchange bjs and etc.
 

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I began to suspect it in high school. I dated girls but was certain I'd date and/or go to bed with a small number of guys on whom I had crushes. None of them were friends. I knew friends too well to be romantically attracted to them.

This continued during my undergraduate years. I dated women and was engaged for a while. Then I had sex with a 20 yo male student when I was 22. That sealed it. I didn't stop dating women. I added men.

The complexity for me was being torn between thinking I must be gay while falling in love with, dating and sleeping with women at the same time. The only honest answer was that I could be attracted to both.

One way you and I differ is that I've never been obsessed with or fascinated by the male member. I'm an ass man.

I understand that it feels complex and difficult to you. It did for me. In retrospect accepting reality was simple.

BTW you can accept the fact of your bisexuality without ever telling your wife or anyone else. I've never openly identified as bi because sexual preference is not the basis for my identity. For me it's on a need-to-know basis only and few need to know. :)

IMO the important thing is that you understand and accept your sexuality not whether others do. :cool:
 
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I realized it when I was very young, far too young to list here per LPSG TOS.

At that time I denied it and lied to myself until I was 21 at which time I finally accepted it, though I still did not live a gay lifestyle. Shame and fear that my family would find out relegated it to the realm of fantasy.

I used to wonder if it wouldn't have been better to just be 100% gay since I'm about as appealing to women as a vinegar and brine sitz bath is to a burn victim. It would've been absolutely no loss to the world of women.

On the flipside, it would have made growing up even worse than it was since I would have had to pretend even harder to be straight.

Things are better now for LGBT+ than they were thirty years ago, that's for sure.
 

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I recently started to realize it like a couple mounts ago, I’m 33. No one knows, I still say to myself that I’m bi curious just because I have never had m/m sex. But I’m fascinated with dicks, balls and male asses. I guess it come from watching over decade of gay porn. It was below the waist now it’s slowly becoming the whole male. I low key only liked twinks but I find alot of men attractive now. I just started admitting that like this month maybe last. But I’ve been wanted m/m sex for about 1.5-2 yrs now.
 
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I started to have bi thoughts around 30 years old. I always denied them to myself though, putting them down as curious thoughts of my highly sexed nature but I was totally straight still. The thoughts and urges got stronger over time and I eventually acted on them. I felt bad afterwards which I think was due to the societal conditioning I had received regarding anything non heterosexual. Although it is more enlightened these days, there is still a stigma attached to non heterosexual behaviour.

I have been in a 'straight' relationship for several years now but the bi desires have continued to grow over time. I continued to deny that I was anything but straight though. Eventually the inner conflict began to cause anguish and make me unhappy. Earlier this year, I finally accepted that I am bisexual and there is nothing wrong with that. This is the most important step you can take, just accepting who you are, be comfortable with it and don't feel any need to justify it to anybody.

You can be in a loving relationship with your wife and be attracted to men at the same time. Whether you choose to be open about it or keep it to yourself is up to you but just know that it is perfectly normal to feel the way you do.
 

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I recently started to realize it like a couple mounts ago, I’m 33. No one knows, I still say to myself that I’m bi curious just because I have never had m/m sex. But I’m fascinated with dicks, balls and male asses. I guess it come from watching over decade of gay porn. It was below the waist now it’s slowly becoming the whole male. I low key only liked twinks but I find alot of men attractive now. I just started admitting that like this month maybe last. But I’ve been wanted m/m sex for about 1.5-2 yrs now.

Wishing you lots of fun on exploring this side of you ;-)

Keep us posted or HMU if you are into chat as well
 

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I realized it in my teen years, once I noticed the sweaty buff jocks in tiny tops working out at my local gym would get my attention almost as often as the curvy women in yoga pants. It was hard for me to accept it at first but after some time it became impossible to deny it to myself and I just worked on embracing it.
 

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I think I always had a desire for men just suppressed it. It seems to be more fluid sexuality going from straight to gay to straight periods as time goes on. Never sexually attracted to both sexes at the same time, always period of one or the other. Times no interest in either. The older I get , the more I am attracted to men.

oldest memories of being bi
When I was very small and not reading yet, I can remember grocery store boys carrying my grandmother bags walking in front of me, I can still picture in my mind their tight pants and muscular asses to this day. All I wanted to do was to stick my face at their ass. Lost my virginity as i just in puberty to a girl. Btw we got caught. Roommate was gay so he was my first male. So it went on woman, man, woman, man .....

Married, wife knows for the past 20 years. Seems a lot of men are in the same boat.
 

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I think in my teens. I used to crossdress and wish an older man would catch me and use me. Finally in my 40s I found forums and gay porn. Talked to some guys on line and finally decided to meet. I started just sucking then finally started to bottom. I have crossdressed for a few guys and found that very satisfying
 

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I like more masculine guys. Smooth is nice but so is hairy. I think I get my soft fix from my straight side. With guys is more than the sex that makes a person bi it is the emotional side of being with a man in and out of the bedroom.
 

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My realization came suddenly and unexpectedly. A dorm mate of mine confessed that he had molested me when I was dead drunk. I could tell it was weighing heavily on him, and he said he had to come clean. I think he expected me to press charges, but instead I got worked up hearing him tell me what he did to me.

That's when I realized that I was getting horny for him. Within 15 minutes we were exploring each other. That was the first time I ever touched an adult penis.
 

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I realized when I was drunkenly propositioned by an acquaintance on a ski trip in a hot tub. At first I thought I was appalled, but I quickly switched stances and have my first Bj. Realized a day later when I went up to his room and lost my mm virginity as a bottom that I was very definitely bi.
 

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Crushed on girls all thru middle n high school til senior year. Was makin out drunk with dudes in college at parties while still chasin tail and havin gfs and that’s when I realized I was definitely bi
 

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Been into girls my whole life, had confusing thoughts about guys too. Third day at college during break next to our sports hall, a male friend of mine gripped my cock through my pants after I'd been playfully flirting with him (Something I've always done too.) Ended up getting my first blowjob from a guy and that's when I knew I was definetly bi.