DownBelow: I'm a really confused guy who is dating a girl for the first time (my first ever relationship). It felt good initially to have someone snogging and wanting me but by now it doesn't feel as good. She's made it clear she expects sex on the next date but I seem to be backing away. She's attractive but when I'm snogging her I'm not really getting that phwoar factor which I should be having shouldn't I? There are other issues which are totally confusing me: - I've always been attracted more to men in terms of their looks. In a packed room you can bet I'd find three times as many guys more attractive than the women. - But, I'm not really interested in having a sexual relationship with a guy. - Whenever I've masturbated over sex, it's always been me having a sex with a woman. - But, I don't find breasts and stuff that arousing. What I find arousing is more me having sex with another woman and using my manhood and hopefully giving her pleasure. So what am I? I find guys generally betting looking than girls but wouldn't really want to have sex but I would like to have sex with girls but I don't really find them as better looking than guys. I hope someone's got an answer. My other problem is the girl I'm with knows a few other people I'm in contact with so if I don't rise to the occasion on the night who knows what might be said? I'd rather stop it now and at least then other people wouldn't know if I failed to perform. I might be able to perform but I'm not 100% sure. Aaarghh! I'm so confused.