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For my own personal reasons, I'm going to remain relatively anonymous. I am at a constant war with my genitals! I like to keep a fairly discreet life as far as my endowments, but modern times, and exhibitionism make my life difficult! My penis has been getting me into trouble since I was in middle school. I've always had a really active libido, which is something that isn't always great for someone with an overly large penis. During waking hours, I usually spend, on average, fifty percent of the time with an erection. I don't have very many friends from my hometown because most of the guys that went to my high school envied my size, and wouldn't get to know me. As far as my love life, I was a virgin up until last year, because women were afraid. I've finally found someone who was willing to try, but it took 4 years of exclusively dating for her to work up the courage to work our way up to penetration. Before her, girls would hear about my large penis, and want to see, or try to pursue me, but shy away when they found out just how large I really am. I've never accurately measured myself because I don't care to know, but on one occasion, a girl asked me if she could measure me. She worked me up with kissing and dirty talk, but when she took my pants down, she almost looked appalled. It took her a few minutes to even work up the courage to even put the tape measure near me. She started to pull the tape out, but when the tape got to 9, and she hadn't even reached the head, she called me a freak, and said she wouldn't let me ruin her. We had been dating for a year. Other girls would feel me up while kissing, but when I would get hard, they would squeal and tell me I would never fit in them. My best guess as to my flaccid length is longer than 5", is roughly the circumference of a beer bottle, and I bulge in everything. I do everything I can think of to keep this between myself and my fiancé, but she has told me that most of our friends that are women have noticed that I'm not normal. I just don't want to be defined by how big my penis is. We have a friend who is known for having a "big" penis, and that is all anyone can say about him. People ask him to pull it out at parties, and he obliges, because it is the monster he created, and I'm easily bigger than he is. As far as our sex life, my fiancé and I are each others firsts, and that causes problems. I feel like I take advantage of her because of my frequent sexual needs. She says she loves to pleasure me, but to keep me relatively social, I need stimulation 2, sometimes even 3 times a day. This wouldn't be so difficult if I didn't put her out of commission for sometimes days at a time. We have vaginal sex 2 or 3 times a week, which usually take over an hour of sexual workup to prepare her to take me, and she has really intense orgasms, but usually followed by pain. Our oral ratio is usually 2:1 a day in favor of me, and we have yet to attend a social gathering where she hasn't had to sneak off with me to give me a blowjob or hand job. So my questions are as follows:What advice do you have for keeping my bulge in check, keeping my erections away in public, and increasing our vaginal sex life without completely destroying her. She loves my penis the way it is, but something's gotta give, or I can't live like this forever. Thank you for any answers and support!
 

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I hope you don't mind if I ask you a couple qustions but here goes:
1. Is your fiancée able to take all of your penis?
If not, is it mainly the length or girth that's causing her problems?
If it's the girth you can use lube, make sure she's really wet, and she'll naturally accommodate a bit more to it over time, since she's a virgin.
If it's length you can not go all the way in or try positions that let you go deeper.
I think anothe rmember mentioned something about, inflatable donuts that cushion her from your penis too.

2. You mention that you need sex 2-3 times a day, does her sex drive match yours?
Does masturbating help? If it does you could do that to ease the urges a bit.
 

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I do masturbate, but it's fairly infrequent, because she likes to be involved. Problems usually stem from length. Sometimes she's very accommodating and can take all of me, other times I'm slamming her cervix 3/4 of the way in. It seems like more often than not, she has a rougher go of it if we've had sex within the last 24 hours, but as previously stated, she loves to keep me happy. I think we both get uncomfortable sneaking away to the bathroom or the car at restaurants or parties with friends. I think part of the problem is I get social anxiety about it because of my previous experiences, and being nervous is a trigger. And she loves to have sex, and I know that she would like to have sex more often, but we've tried to go a week straight, and she gets pretty worn out by day 3, and she can't even accommodate for half of me. Oral is a big part of our relationship, and we've been doing that since early on in our 5 year relationship, but vaginal sex is so new and exciting to us, so we both want to explore that further. I really appreciate the quick responses, and I know already that this was a good idea :)
 

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You can actually go past the cervix into the anterior or posterior fornix if you're long enough ( I can never remember which is which :shrug:) This might explain the varying length of her vagina, especially if there's one position that its much easier. I don't have much experience with it myself but I'm sure other people will help you out.

In the meantime, I'd suggest using paragraphs for your posts.
It makes it easier to read, especially your original post.
And thanks, I'm sure it will turn out to be a good idea. I'm glad to help. :smile:
 
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It's been around a week, the two of us are hard at work(so to speak :p) trying to find the positions that work well for us. She still feels pretty wrecked when we are finished, but the time in between is shortening. Missionary with her legs up seems to do the trick, and once I'm in, we just stay extra close when changing positions. We've had vaginal intercourse 6 of the last 8 days :)

As for my other issues, I would love to say that the extra sex is helping, but I have yet to notice a difference. I would rather have this problem than the opposite problem, but it is still inconvenient. I would love to just enjoy a meal at a restaurant with my beautiful fiancé, and not have to leave our meals at the table half way through.
 

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It's been around a week, the two of us are hard at work(so to speak :p) trying to find the positions that work well for us. She still feels pretty wrecked when we are finished, but the time in between is shortening. Missionary with her legs up seems to do the trick, and once I'm in, we just stay extra close when changing positions. We've had vaginal intercourse 6 of the last 8 days :)

As for my other issues, I would love to say that the extra sex is helping, but I have yet to notice a difference. I would rather have this problem than the opposite problem, but it is still inconvenient. I would love to just enjoy a meal at a restaurant with my beautiful fiancé, and not have to leave our meals at the table half way through.

Well I'm glad the first part is working out well. For the second part it just sounds like you both have a really high sex-drive. Maybe learn to eat quicker? :biggrin1:
 

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For anyone that is interested, I will be posting an update tonight about my trip with my fiancè to Disneyland. We got into some pretty interesting antics, and it makes for good storytelling.