Sorry, Fleur, but I agree with Kitty - you do seem to be trying to place her emotional life within your own framework.
You can't say that openness of another person's relationship stifles her emotions because you are not inside her feeling her emotions. That may be how you would feel, how you imagine things would be, but that is because you are you. We have to take Kittie at face value. Just because her answers don't fit your perceptions it doesn't mean she's kidding herself - it just means your perceptions are inadequate when it comes to understanding her relationship.
Edit: But that's OK, her perceptions are probably inadequate when it comes to understanding your relationship(s), sexual or otherwise. The difference being she doesn't appear to be judging you - or finding your choices wanting. We are all our own people. It doesn't do to judge the ways in which other people find love and happiness.
You can't say that openness of another person's relationship stifles her emotions because you are not inside her feeling her emotions. That may be how you would feel, how you imagine things would be, but that is because you are you. We have to take Kittie at face value. Just because her answers don't fit your perceptions it doesn't mean she's kidding herself - it just means your perceptions are inadequate when it comes to understanding her relationship.
Edit: But that's OK, her perceptions are probably inadequate when it comes to understanding your relationship(s), sexual or otherwise. The difference being she doesn't appear to be judging you - or finding your choices wanting. We are all our own people. It doesn't do to judge the ways in which other people find love and happiness.
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