Receiving anal for the first time, need advice

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  1. jayranner5

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    Hey everyone,
    I’m 24, been straight my whole life, and the thought of kissing/cocksucking with gay men just really turns me off, no disrespect. However, I have in the past 2 months realized that I absolutely LOVE anal stimulation & started watching a lot of femdom strapon videos. I’m always dominant, especially in the bedroom, but I have to say the submission in receiving anal is just incredible. I bought a dildo + butt plugs & have been experimenting ever since. I much prefer the dildo over the butt plugs… once the dildo is in, its just an incredible feeling to have it hit my prostate and then my insides pulled out on the outstroke.
    I’m talking to a couple online who want to meet and the only thing is, she likes to watch him top another guy & then play along. We have exchange a lot of pics & they are definitely not giving any pressure… they said we can play it by ear about me bottoming for him. She even does strapon play & then I’m going to fuck her after I receive.
    Don’t get me wrong, I want to receive it to see what it feels like, but I’m anxious about receiving it from a guy. It’s really the whole connotation that I’m gay if I try it or that it’s a “bad thing” if I went through with it… I always feel guilty after watch the femdom strapon videos anyway.

    My questions are:
    1.) Do you think I should try it?
    2.) How can I get my conscious mind to accept that receiving anal does not make me gay & it’s not a “bad thing”?
    3.) Can you tell me what receiving anal sex feels like for a man? Does it feel better to have a real cock in there versus a dildo? Be descriptive as much as you want… I’m looking to make sure it’s definitely worth all the nervousness/barrier breaking.

    Thanks a lot everyone!
     
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    Stop worrying, be happy! Just do it! It's only sex--and besides, a little gayness never hurt anybody...!!!
     
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    Just do whatever man, don't worry about labels or what people will think of you, just do you! (no pun intended)
     
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    No point worrying about the labels. If you are gay you are gay regardless of what you do so getting fucked is not going to make you anything.

    Just have fun if you want to.
     
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    This shouldn't be our decision whether or not you bottom for a guy.

    But, from a genuine bottom.... I recommend you practice, so you know what it feels like, what to expect and how far your limits go. If it's you first time, it can be uncomfortable... sometimes it may even hurt. You need to do your own psyche a favor and try it out for yourself.

    The rest of us have already gone through the social contradictions of "gay being a bad thing".... and have come out on the other side unscathed. Don't slay yourself over that.

    Lastly, have fun!
     
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    I agree 150% with jjsjr. Using a dildo is one thing and it certainly helps get use to having something there but it's another thing when it's the real thing. The first time might hurt and you might not enjoy it. Go with the flow. If the couple knows it's your first time they know to take care and help you to enjoy the experience. Most guys who try it enjoy it. It's an incredible feeling having someone in you. I don't even think that a strap on can feel like the real thing. Don't fret, have fun and be safe!
     
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    well i guess you shouldnt do it as long as you have doubts about rights and wrongs of being with a guy. if you are going to do it with doubts it will block your mind the whole time through and you will not be able to enjoy it. Make up your mind before you do it. be assure that nothing you actually do can turn you into something.
     
  8. jayranner5

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    Thanks for all the replies guys... just took some thinking on my part. I'm definitely not gay or even bi, I don't find guys attractive in the least sense & no offense but it makes me want to throw up.
    I just really love anal stimulation. I do have a dildo & I do love the sensation... I've decided that if they want to meet up sometime that I will try it with them.

    Can anybody describe in detail what it feels like though? Don't be afraid to be detailed, I really want to be turned onto it so much that I finally just take that leap!

    Thanks guys
     
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    Jay, you are so turned on by it already that you are going to take the leap. Nothing I can say is gonna change that!

    But since you asked: getting fucked with a real cock, instead of a plastic dildo, is way better. I think it's because a cock is more like the ass it's plunging into - the two materials are more compatible. Put it that way.

    My advice for a good fuck: (1) use silicon lube - water base lube dries up and leaves you sore, and (2) line up the parts before you push - it feels best when you're all relaxed and he's hammering you straight in without any pushing in the wrong direction. When you get that going, it's pretty incredible.

    One other thing for you to think about: it's not just anal stimulation that makes getting ass-fucked great. There's also the matter of submitting, of being used. No matter how you cut it, getting fucked is a huge surrender and an enormous mind-trip, and a huge step away from your everyday life where you're trying to stay on top of everything. And a dildo can't do that for you. Not at all.

    Go do it, Jay. And write back and tell us all how it goes!
     
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    What brand do you prefer to use when you receive?
     
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    jayranner, I know everyone will say I'm wrong, although I can say I am 80 percent gay, and have been fucked many times, last week was my last time, but here's my piece of advice:
    You say you are not attracted to guys, so I think you shouldn't do it. Of course I believe in enjoying life and experiencing everything, I'm all into that, but I always recommend psychological protection before anything. Of course the physical experience will be amazing, it does feel pretty good, but if you feel guilty even after watching women fucking a guy with a strap on, imagine what you might feel after being fucked yourself. Maybe you wouldn't feel it if it was with a friend because you already have an emotional bond and trust him, but really I wouldn't recommend it. Of course you're listening to a guy that cannot and will not fuck if there is no emotional feelings in between, because somehow after a one night stand I always feel used, even if I was top, but that's MY problem.
     
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    1.) Do you think I should try it? Most definitely, but you will get hooked

    2.) How can I get my conscious mind to accept that receiving anal does not make me gay & it’s not a “bad thing”? Well you don't kiss and you don't suck dick, so its just sex.

    3.) Can you tell me what receiving anal sex feels like for a man?HOT HOT HOT, nothing in the world like it.

    Does it feel better to have a real cock in there versus a dildo? Very different, there is alot of grinding and pumping, ball slapping and grabbing.

    Be descriptive as much as you want… I’m looking to make sure it’s definitely worth all the nervousness/barrier breaking. I love the way a mans aggression takes over and how he feels inside of me, the best part for me is to feel his cock pulsating when he comes. I normally wear condoms, but love the feel of cum in my ass. He usually stays inside of me for a while. I am truly a happy camper after that.
     
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    I agree. And I know I'm only 19 and probably don't have a lot to offer a grown man in the field of sexual advice, but here goes anyways. Enjoying anal stimulation is incredibly different from enjoying a man fucking you. If you're not attracted to men at all, almost to a vomiting point, and even a woman fucking a man makes you feel guilty, it's probably not the best idea that you try it. When you're fucking yourself with a dildo, you control everything...pace, intensity, depth...it's all in your hands. When you're being fucked by a guy, you lose a bit of that control. Sure, you can always give them orders (faster, harder, slower, etc.) but it's an entirely new experience altogether.

    In response to your being stereotyped...gay is not having anal sex. Gay is loving men and desiring relationships with men rather than women. There are homosexuals who don't have anal sex, so it's not entirely fair to group one with the other.

    And as for what it feels like...not going to lie, it does feel amazing, but that's because I love to have a guy take control. I am very masculine and straight acting, but in the bedroom it's my turn to relax and take it as it's given lol. It can hurt at first if you're not "warmed up," which I'm not sure if you are comfortable with either. A piece of plastic is not anything similar to a throbbing piece of flesh attached to another man. If you do decide to do it, which is your decision and yours alone, go slow at first. You will need to take control of the situation, and it seems like the couple is willing to accommodate your needs, which is nice.

    Best of luck to you with whatever you decide to do :)
     
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    I would also counsel against it for the same reasons referred to previously, any experience with another person (as opposed to a dildo) has a psychological component and if you find men sexually repulsive, then I can't see this working well with the headspace you're in. Especially with a guy you've never met before. Being fucked by a woman with a strap-on would be a completely difference experience and it soulds like you'd enjoy.

    The biggest tip for anal sex I've ever been given: bear down like you're having a crap as the head is pushing in - it expands your sphincter and makes it easier for it to go in. Counterintuative to push out to make something go in more easily, but it makes a huge difference.

    The other thing is to make sure both the cock and your arse are very well lubricated. Condoms are a must, but just note they do add friction so make it more difficult to get in at first - once in they don't really make a big difference.
     
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    Thanks for all the replies guys... the biggest thing right now is changing my thinking from "getting fucked in the ass by a guy is a bad thing" to "every now and then I enjoy anal stimulation and even though its from a guy, I'm not gay for doing it." Like I said before, I'm not attracted to guys, but this couple would like to mess around with the wife strapping me on and then maybe her husband doing me from behind. I love receiving anal from regular dildos but I heard having a real dick is incredible, so I'm wanting to try it.
    I'm searching the boards for descriptions of how good it feels and the experience (i.e. balls slapping against the ass, how does it make you feel submissive, etc) but they are hard to come by. The more good stuff I read on it the closer I am to saying yes.
    Anymore shared experiences on how receiving anal feels from a real cock would be appreciated!
     
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    I've posted on this subject before in regards to my straight, married best friend. He & I used to fuck around before he got married. He wouldn't do it now because (his words) he a good Catholic boy. With us, it was just sex. He was not & is not gay or even mildly bi. He's a straight as could be, he just found that he too enjoys anal stimulation. One day, a long time ago, he got up the nerve to ask me about getting fucked. Not long after that, he asked me to fuck him. He wasn't all that prepared (ie; dildos, etc) so I had to work him with my fingers the first few times. Eventually, we worked up to fucking. I've missed fucking that tight muscular ass of his. His favorite position was doggy style. He said it felt better for him. I told him it was because he didn't want to watch me, his gay best friend, fucking him. Either way, we both enjoyed it. He's getting a divorce now...don't think I haven't thought about that ass again. :rolleyes: Either way you decide to go for yourself, be safe & have fun.
     
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    Sounds just like my old fuck bud in High School. He's married now. He was the only guy I've ever been with. I sometimes get the urge to hookup with another guy, but am affraid to for many reasons and once I get off I feel guilty about about it. For me anal has always been painful however, i still continued to bottom for him on occasion. For me I found something erotic about 2 aggressive guys going at it.
     
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    I've gone from being exclusive top to bottom and back to top a few times over the last decade. Here's a few things that haven't been mentioned yet.

    If you're taking a cock up your ass you can verbally express the experience. You can say "stretch open my asshole" or "fill my rectum with your big cock". You can do the same thing with a dildo but it cant hear you so what's the point. Also in your mind you can envision your tight pink or brown hole being forced open. If you like humiliation you can call yourself a cock hungry cunt and shit like that.

    When you're getting fucked you don't have control of whats going on inside your ass. With a dildo you decide when to push and how hard. Now the dude fucking you is in control. It adds a level of uncertainty.

    A dude is using your ass to get himself off. Probably without regard to how you feel. How cool is that.

    The last thing is the pain. I started off top only because I didn't enjoy the feeling of a cock in my ass until my boyfriend spent a lot of time eating me and fingering me. It doesn't sound like thats going to happen here. It'll hurt. And the pain may give you a big boner.

    Dude, get over it. You know if you are gay or straight. Kissing a guy, sucking cock, taking cock up your ass doesn't make you gay. Wanting to make an emotional commitment to a man instead of a woman makes you gay. And being straight doesn't protect you from HIV.

    You also mentioned feeling guilty and that doing this is a "bad thing". Isn't that part of the turn on.

    I think MFM 3 ways a pretty incredible. The ones I have had only involved "conventional" (pussy) fucking and a lot of cock interaction. But its fun however it works out.
     
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    I've got one of those: my old high school fuck buddy, now married. I think I fell in love with him at first sight when we were in 7th grade. I still remember him looking across the locker room (yup!) at me, and I think something in my brain fused at that moment. He and I have gotten it on every few years ever since. 35 years worth.

    (I remember when he told me he was getting married. We were on the phone, I was hoping to hook up with him. He told me, and I started backing out, wanting to give him space to say no. But he said he wanted to see me. I got a hard-on so fast it nearly ripped open my pants.)

    He's fucked me many times. I've never fucked him. But in the last 10 years (that's 3 encounters), he's started sucking my cock. And last time we made it, he just wanted to suck me off. Someday I'm going to take his ass.
     
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    Men I know have approached me to do the deed with them and I think knowing and trusting someone is a better option. It allows you to go slow and communicate what you are feeling and how far you are willing to go. It sounds to me like the couple you are talking to just want to fuck and it sounds like you are not ready, emotionally, for that. Unless they are willing to rim you first and then use 1 and then 2 and then 3 fingers before jamming in the real thing, it most likely won't be too pleasant. It requires total relaxation and whoever is doing you MUST listen to you or the experience will be horrible and may turn you off for good. A good top will always listen to you.

    Some guys like just a little insertion, some like prostate concentration and some like it deep and hard. Sounds to me like you are in for the deep and hard experience of your life if you go with an "online couple." That really reeks of pros wanting to bust your cherry. Are you ready for that? It is a total loss of control with strangers.

    There really is nothing wrong with asking a gay friend to do you to just see what it feels like but online strangers? That is just going to add to your anxiety.