Receiving anal for the first time, need advice

[cdunstan1]

Men I know have approached me to do the deed with them and I think knowing and trusting someone is a better option. It allows you to go slow and communicate what you are feeling and how far you are willing to go. It sounds to me like the couple you are talking to just want to fuck and it sounds like you are not ready, emotionally, for that. Unless they are willing to rim you first and then use 1 and then 2 and then 3 fingers before jamming in the real thing, it most likely won't be too pleasant. It requires total relaxation and whoever is doing you MUST listen to you or the experience will be horrible and may turn you off for good. A good top will always listen to you.

Some guys like just a little insertion, some like prostate concentration and some like it deep and hard. Sounds to me like you are in for the deep and hard experience of your life if you go with an "online couple." That really reeks of pros wanting to bust your cherry. Are you ready for that? It is a total loss of control with strangers.

There really is nothing wrong with asking a gay friend to do you to just see what it feels like but online strangers? That is just going to add to your anxiety.

AGREE! If you got a gay or bi bud to handle this you will be in a much better
place. Go with what your comfortable with.

 

[jayranner5]

They are not pressuring me at all... in fact, he said that bottoming is not necessary to hooking up with them, but he likes to do it + she likes to watch so they said it's ideal. We talked about it for a bit, I'm going to fuck his girl which he wants to watch. I think I'm a lot closer to trying it on the condition that me bottoming isn't necessary. I might try just a finger or two at first. He told me about how he has gotten a guy's cherry before and yes, some pain, but he comes back for more.
The more I hear about how sensual the experience is, the more I get interested. That's a big reason why I came here, you can't just google it, I needed to hear guys that have actually done it write in their own experiences + why the love receiving or hate receiving.

 

[lpsgjwalker]

They are not pressuring me at all... in fact, he said that bottoming is not necessary to hooking up with them, but he likes to do it + she likes to watch so they said it's ideal. We talked about it for a bit, I'm going to fuck his girl which he wants to watch. I think I'm a lot closer to trying it on the condition that me bottoming isn't necessary. I might try just a finger or two at first. He told me about how he has gotten a guy's cherry before and yes, some pain, but he comes back for more.
The more I hear about how sensual the experience is, the more I get interested. That's a big reason why I came here, you can't just google it, I needed to hear guys that have actually done it write in their own experiences + why the love receiving or hate receiving.

Just a comment from someone who is almost exclusively a bottom - I don't like fingers, *at all*. To me, fingers are terribly uncomfortable (hard and bony), but a big dick (hard but spongy) is HEAVEN. So if you don't like the "finger or two", don't think you won't like a dick - it's just a completely different feeling.

 

[deleted187028]

i kinda came from the same place as you, and trust me you just need to find the right guy and situation. My first real time with a larger guy really changed my mind. Once he started stroking deep and hard, it was all I could do to not cum instantly, and when I did it was harder than when I was 16.

I'm pretty much addicted now...

 

[458346]

I've posted on this subject before in regards to my straight, married best friend. He & I used to fuck around before he got married. He wouldn't do it now because (his words) he a good Catholic boy. With us, it was just sex. He was not & is not gay or even mildly bi. He's a straight as could be, he just found that he too enjoys anal stimulation. One day, a long time ago, he got up the nerve to ask me about getting fucked. Not long after that, he asked me to fuck him. He wasn't all that prepared (ie; dildos, etc) so I had to work him with my fingers the first few times. Eventually, we worked up to fucking. I've missed fucking that tight muscular ass of his. His favorite position was doggy style. He said it felt better for him. I told him it was because he didn't want to watch me, his gay best friend, fucking him. Either way, we both enjoyed it. He's getting a divorce now...don't think I haven't thought about that ass again. Either way you decide to go for yourself, be safe & have fun.

Your friend isn't straight. If he was he would not be having sex with you or any other men at all and your post reads like gay erotic fiction. It's amazing how many bisexual and even gay men will pretend that bisexual men do not exist with their typical biphobic viewpoints only so they can pretend that they actually had sex with a straight guy when he's really just a guy that is a total closet case who just pretends that he's straight. We all know that straight men do not have sex with other men at all, it does not happen at all and these guys are just closeted gay and bisexual men.

 

[B_jeepguy2]

Have you seen this guy's penis? How big is it? It is large it is probably not going to be too comfortable if it is your first time. Also the dude can't just shove it in he (or you) need to lube up your fingers and work one and then two in there, and maybe three to get you relaxed. Once you are relaxed have him put his well lubed cock against your hole and as he starts to push. Take a deep breath an push liek you are trying to take a dump and it should slide right in. If the dude knows what he id doing he will stop for a few seconds to let you relax and get used to having a cock in there. The he will slowly push into you until his cock is all the way in, then he will stop again and let you relax before he starts thrusting. The main thing is to communicate because it should not hurt. If it starts hurting tell him to STOP. Andoen other thing use LOTS of lube an ass does not get wet like a pussy.

As far as how it feels, it is totally amazing. The first time I got fucked I was really nervous and scared that it was going to really hurt but the dude I was with was awesome. He fingered my ass for at least 15 minutes to make sure I was ready. When he slipped it in, it didn't hurt at all and whey he starter thrusting in me i could not believe how awesome it felt. When I came (which didn't take long) it was the absolute best orgasm I had ever had. My cum shot out with so much force I had to wipe it off the wall above the headboard. LOL

 

[jayranner5]

I'm going to do it. I've already contacted them and we'll be meeting for drinks when we are all available. It won't change me as a man. I'm still a alpha type that likes to get shit done... to give u a picture, I'm def not a small guy, I'm about 220 but ripped with a full six pack. Receiving anal won't be a bad thing it will be a good thing because I'm able to have MORE sexually. I'll have a better sex life than all the guys who are too homophobic to try anal, even though they have a prostate, which is at least 2x better stimulated than just the penis.
Thanks guys! If any of you still want to drop in bottoming experiences, feel free. I'm still reading them and it turns me onto it even more!

 

[karldergrosse]

Okay, Jay. I suppose I was a little brief in Link #2. I've had the feeling all along that you were going to try it, so let me take a second run at it: Rest assured that anal (or any other kind of sex with another man) is not exclusively gay, nor can it make you gay. Check out Kinsey's comments and his 7-point scale. Just forget about labels--they're of no importance at all...it's your own opinion of yourself that counts. But if you do experiment, you'd best rid yourself in advance of any possibility of guilt feelings--they could be a real downer afterwards. There's actually nothing to feel guilty about. As for your wanting more and more descriptions of the sensations of anal intercourse, you might as well ask for descriptions of, say, the color red. You simply have to experience it for yourself--no one else can do, or successfully describe, it for you.

If you do go through with it, (1) be absolutely certain that all three of you use safer (no such thing as absolutely safe) sex practices. (2) Be absolutely certain that you can trust this couple to keep your best interests in mind and not just their own desires, that they know your concerns and doubts and reservations, and that they will absolutely be gentle and heed your every instruction at all times. But I'm not sure that having a woman involved is necessary to calm your qualms about gayness...or even advisable. My own advice would be to lose your anal virginity with only an experienced, completely trusted man. If you like it, there's plenty of opportunity later to experience three-ways.

Above all, be careful and be cautious...and good luck with your ultimate decision.

 

[Dooky]

you really have to piss. i recommend cow...boy? i guess it would be. haha

 

[B_machopapa69]

you should try it and experience the glory of having a tight ass

advice: just eat fruits and water a day before your anal sex...

 

[TopDudeFtl]

Your friend isn't straight. If he was he would not be having sex with you or any other men at all and your post reads like gay erotic fiction. It's amazing how many bisexual and even gay men will pretend that bisexual men do not exist with their typical biphobic viewpoints only so they can pretend that they actually had sex with a straight guy when he's really just a guy that is a total closet case who just pretends that he's straight. We all know that straight men do not have sex with other men at all, it does not happen at all and these guys are just closeted gay and bisexual men.

Damn, being banned & all, he'll never see this response: Jealous! :squintfinger:

 

[xrush_uncut]

Stop worrying, be happy! Just do it! It's only sex--and besides, a little gayness never hurt anybody...!!!

I'm not saying anyone has said this in this thread yet, although I haven't yet read the whole thread, but I find it interesting that a lot of straight people (in fact, most that I've told I was gay) think it's no big deal for me to try to be with a girl, because "how do you know you don't like it if you never had it?" My boyfriend's parents told him this just recently and he's been out for over 7 years and is 26.

So then, if it's OK for me to try pussy because I "might" like it, why is it wrong for you to try cock? I'm with karldergrosse. It's only sex. No one has to know other than the three of you. But if you like it, spread the word! Trust me, you'll like it, gay or not.

 

[xrush_uncut]

jayranner, I know everyone will say I'm wrong, although I can say I am 80 percent gay, and have been fucked many times, last week was my last time, but here's my piece of advice:
You say you are not attracted to guys, so I think you shouldn't do it. Of course I believe in enjoying life and experiencing everything, I'm all into that, but I always recommend psychological protection before anything. Of course the physical experience will be amazing, it does feel pretty good, but if you feel guilty even after watching women fucking a guy with a strap on, imagine what you might feel after being fucked yourself. Maybe you wouldn't feel it if it was with a friend because you already have an emotional bond and trust him, but really I wouldn't recommend it. Of course you're listening to a guy that cannot and will not fuck if there is no emotional feelings in between, because somehow after a one night stand I always feel used, even if I was top, but that's MY problem.

Good advice.

 

[xrush_uncut]

My favorite part of anal sex is the sliding feeling that I feel while my boyfriend is fucking me. When we're nice and lubed up just perfectly (to me, too much can be too slippery and can take away some of the good feeling), his 8-incher gets in and the pushing in and pulling out is just the best feeling in the world. For me, most of the time getting in is tough, but once he's in there and all is comfortable it's the best feeling ever. After he comes I never want him to pull out just because it feels so damn good. Let us know how it goes.

 

[460637]

Believe me a lot of lube and it feels 100% better than any dildo!

 

[jayranner5]

Love the advice guys... wondering what the psychological consequences could be.

 

[D_u6ce53xi75]

did you do it?

 

[TomCat84]

Oh for Christs sake, so you might be a little into guys...who the fuck cares? You keep on telling us you're not gay- OK WE GET THAT. Me thinks the lady doth protest too much

 

[loe11229]

Jay, so what happened? I really want to hear about your experience.

 

[pleasureboy]

No lie...if you want to get fucked, go out and get fucked. It'll prob hurt like hell the first time, usually does. But then it starts to feel awesome.

Sounds like your hang ups are more about being gay than having sex. It's just physical enjoyment. If you suddenly decide you want to wake up every morning next to some dude, kiss him, stare into his eyes, and all that, then yeah...you might have to reconsider your not gay thing. But if you just like the way a cock feels up your ass, go have sex.

It's not about who you fuck, it's about who you are wired to fall in love with. If I went a fucked a woman tonight, it wouldn't make me straighter tomorrow. If you take a cock up the ass, it won't make you any gayer. And it sure doesn't have anything to do with being alpha or anything. I know some nellie queens that could kick the ass of the biggest macho guys I know. Really not even slightly related subjects.