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my SO was scarred by a BF years ago, who told her that giving oral to women is gross; I don’t agree AT ALL, but she continues to be haunted by this comment and worries that she smells, etc; basically, it causes her more anxiety than ecstasy!

now, i have told her that she is great “down there;” and sometimes she will receive oral for a while; but it’s clear that she wants to rush through that step, so to speak, and get on to sex; consequently, our foreplay is quick and somewhat one-sided; some guys might love that arrangement, but as time passes i’m convinced that it’s hurting our sex life.

thoughts?! by the way, we have talked about this numerous times, and she seems to think i’m making a mountain out of a molehill; it’s just not her thing, she says...
 
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well, this is why i’m asking: should i just let this go? my sense is that it’s unfortunate that she has this residual anxiety, but i’m willing to drop it...
 
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well, this is why i’m asking: should i just let this go? my sense is that it’s unfortunate that she has this residual anxiety, but i’m willing to drop it...

I would let it go.

My guy doesn't like Giving oral. I fucking LOVE receiving. I don't push him to do something he doesn't enjoy, even though I really want him to do it. Once in a blue moon, he licks me. Maybe once a year at most.

We still have an amazing sex life. I have no complaints. Compromise is key in a healthy relationship.
 

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Let it go. I’m one of those women who isn’t into it. I don’t know why. It just doesn’t do it for me. I just don’t enjoy it. I’ve “let” men go down on me when they insist, but I end up making a shopping list or wondering what’s on T.V. Maybe I have hang ups. I just want to get it over with.

No matter what her hang up is, let it go. Let her work out her stuff on her own time. The two of you aren’t always going to be in total sync sexually - that’s movie bs.
 
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I don't like receiving. The only times in even vaguely recent, but not that recent of years where I let someone go down on me was because it was their thing. It was very much not being done for me, but rather me being GGG.
 
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I think you should let it go. As in let her go. Find someone compatible in that department.

Or get over it.

I really don't think there's any in-between on this. I love to give and dated a guy who thought oral was gross (giving and receiving). I tolerated it b/c other areas of our relationship were pretty good... but I resented not having a full sex life. This bitterness didn't help our relationship. I should have either gotten out or gotten over it.
 
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On the other hand, I give head to my sweetie. I like sucking dick. I'm the first person he has ever enjoyed oral from, though. I asked to suck his dick for a few months before he let me. While he does enjoy it, he vastly prefers other things. So, I don't do it too often. Middle ground. Kinda similar to my letting some people go down on me, but he enjoys getting oral from me, way more than I enjoy getting eaten out.
 
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we have talked about this numerous times, and she seems to think i’m making a mountain out of a molehill; it’s just not her thing, she says...

I think you have your answer.

I'm not fussed on oral either. I don't know where the presumption that all women should like it came from (talking generally here, not about you). I've definitely felt pressure to enjoy it - be glad she feels like she can be open with you about her preferences.
 
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I would let it go.

My guy doesn't like Giving oral. I fucking LOVE receiving. I don't push him to do something he doesn't enjoy, even though I really want him to do it. Once in a blue moon, he licks me. Maybe once a year at most.

We still have an amazing sex life. I have no complaints. Compromise is key in a healthy relationship.

Wouldn't be a 2nd date without oral enthusiasm. That's just me though.
 

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Wouldn't be a 2nd date without oral enthusiasm. That's just me though.

To each their own.

My guy and I have a very long history. He used to eat me regularly, and doesn't anymore. We've been together and I've loved him far too long to end it over something as unnecessary as oral sex.

I love getting licked. LOVE it. I love him much, much more.
 

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Heading for divorce. No expert on how to compromise.

Compromise in sexual relationships feels more like emotional coercion. You are literally leverage someone's feeling for you to manipulate them into letting you use their body for your own sexual gratification. It's not a matter of an ability to compromise, it's about respecting your partners boundaries.

There are heaps of kinks I have my boy doesn't share. I would never expect him to suffer through any activity for me.

While I don't get everything t want, I get everything I need. I got the boy.
 
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To each their own.

My guy and I have a very long history. He used to eat me regularly, and doesn't anymore. We've been together and I've loved him far too long to end it over something as unnecessary as oral sex.

I love getting licked. LOVE it. I love him much, much more.

But your avatar?! Just had to comment!
 
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But your avatar?! Just had to comment!

I know you haven't been a member long, so I know you haven't had a chance to read much so far... But if you find older threads here you'll see me describing how he's the only man I have or ever will truly submit to.

I am still a domineering, confrontational motherfucking cactus, barbed and on guard... But with him, I'm delicate as an orchid. I dunno, he just got me like that.
 
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Interesting dichotomy. When I have a whip in my hand. . . well, you can guess!
 

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Interesting dichotomy. When I have a whip in my hand. . . well, you can guess!

That's how I was... Until we got together.

I found a new me, and I found a new appreciation for things I never thought I could.
 
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That's how I was... Until we got together.

I found a new me, and I found a new appreciation for things I never thought I could.

Some day I'll get into my history. My lawyer says I shouldn't be on line at all with my divorce up coming. He says professional searches are made for stuff to use a against women.
 
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