Regrets

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  1. B_debonair87

    B_debonair87 New Member

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    OK, without getting too personal here....

    I've done some things in my 24 years on this planet that I'm not necessarily proud of. There's also some things that I didn't do that I wish I could go back and change. (none of these deal with affecting the lives of others)

    They say to never regret the things you've done and to learn from them. I don't let my regrets hold me back but I just want to get over them.

    Will I drop these regrets as I get older? Will there ever be a time in my life where I come to peace with everything?

    Older folks welcomed........
     
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    Before I answer...how old is older?
     
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    life moves foward not backwards.... fogive yourself and don't repeat things
     
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    At least for me, it works like this: survivors know how to selectively develop amnesia about certain times in their lives. Ideally, one should process and deal with everything, including that last part where you forgive yourself and others and move into the dawn.

    Real life, though, has taught me that instead of processing everything to its healthiest and most logical conclusion, sometimes it's just easier to forget. Amends are wonderful but not nearly as possible as one may like IRL. So instead of endlessly beating yourself up over something long gone (or done), purge it and move on, having learned the lesson to not repeat certain errors.

    An important part in the whole creative forgetting process is forgiving yourself first.

    I've always said that the Rue de Regret runs through a shitty neighborhood. Let it go.
     
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    Yes, definately. As long as you don't make any fatal mistakes too early...
     
  6. D_Fiona_Farvel

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    I think with age and experience one gains greater perspective on the realties of the "gray areas" in life, which makes reaching a peace with most things possible.

    :yup: Agreed.

    As B and ManonWheels mentioned, the thing is to forgive yourself, if others are involved maybe seek forgiveness from them (although no one is owed forgiveness), then try to be the best person you possibly can in this life.
     
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    I have found that the best way to forgive myself it to promise myself to try to do better, as long as I"m improving I"m on the right path
     
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    When you say right path...is there a certain goal you are thinking of?
     
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