Rejected Because of Age

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    Alright gay men of LPSG... I'm still young, but I was wondering if you remember how old you were the first time you were rejected because of your age? Also, how old was the guy who rejected you? I guess Im trying to judge how much time I have left in my "golden youth".
     
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    Define "because of your age". Are you implying that the rejection has to do with being too young or too old? I've been rejected because of being too young as well as too old for someone's preference. As for how much of your "golden youth" is left, relax. You're going to be just fine. Not to toot my own horn here, but at 44 years old, I am getting more action now than I ever had in my youth. I gets better. (I just had to use that line.)
     
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    Okay.. Good question. Let me clarify for all you analytical thinkers : ) Im curios how old you were the first time a younger guy rejected you simply because you were too old. As an example, I'm 22, if a guy 30 or older wants to catch my attention, he has to bring his A game.
     
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    This is a strange question. I imagine prospective gay partners are the Sam as straight. Regardless of age, any individual is likely to be simultaneously too old for some and too young for others. And this doesn't necessarily mean that elders will reject someone for being too young and young people will reject for being too old. There are plenty of young people whose interests skew older and vice versa. Similarly some people will be rejected because they are too tall, too short, too skinny, too fat, too hairy, too bald, etc. Sex doesn't come with an expiration date. Know who you like and target those in that group who like what you bring to the table.
     
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    I was once almost rejected from a hook up because I looked too young to be "older" :rolleyes:
     
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    That sort of happened to me. Not because of age but because my belly wasn't big enough. :tongue:
     
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    It's all relative. I was rejected by older men for being too young when I was a teen.

    Nowadays my preferred age range is 40-60. And even the early 40s are beginning to seem too immature/unformed to me. I've rejected 20s and 30s guys, politely, saying I'm looking for someone closer to my own age. There was one exception, a 21 yr old pipe-smoking bearded big hairy bear, not your typical youngster.

    I was 55 before someone (a 35 yr old I liked the look of) directly said I was too old for them (well, out of their age-range was how they put it).
     
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    When I was 21 and in college I had met this 32 y/o chick. She was sexy as well as established. she was an accountant. I was so intrigued by her because of how smart she was and how great of a personality she had. So down to earth and great sense of humor. We went on 2 dates. Didn't go far because she said I was too young and at her age she's looking to settle down and she didn't want to spoil my college years. It kinda crushed me because I was feeling her a lot.

    I've always had a thing for older women because girls my age are indecisive and insecure. Its hard to nab em up because they care too much about what others would think.
     
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    i feel sorry for you if you really look at life this way. you'll be the one who at 29 will be curled up on your bathroom floor in the fetal position thinking life is over.

    I'm 35 and i've never been "rejected" by someone because of age , and i've never rejected anybody because of their age. though i acknowledge there are tons of superficial gay men who can only think in terms of stats. "no one over 30, no one hairy, no one over 3% body fat, no one too short/tall, etc etc, etc." all you're doing is helping to reinforce the stereotype.

    why box yourself into such arbitrary rules when i'ts so rare to find someone with the chemistry that allows you to really connect?
     
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    I was 18 1/2 years older than my last long-term partner. After nearly two years together, he broke up with me, telling me that he was too young to settle down. He told me the real reason a year later: he wanted a partner who was in his 60s or 70s, in other words, 30-40 years older than him....
     
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    that's hilarious, if i were a cynic i'd suspect he's looking for a quicker pay-out.
     
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    What's strange now that I'm 41 is that I'm rejected more often by men my own age than I am by guys who are very young! You get this group of guys who only want 18-25 year olds and this preference carries on their whole lives. They can usually pull it off until their late 30's, maybe longer with good genetics and fitness regime. But into their late 40's, they need to start being a sugar daddy or hire rent boys, either way, these guys have to pay for it. Lol. I'm not too fussed by being rejected by chicken hawks!
     
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    I think that I am probably rejected more for my belly than my age. I see other guys my age and think, "I don't look NEARLY that old"
     
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    I am 49 1/2 and still get carded. Most people think I am 34 or 35. Back 10 years ago when I cruised I would say I was 27 and had no problems hooking up. It seems these days more and more guys in their 20's want someone their own age.
     
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    i've had too much fun with guys who had a little extra belly to rule out that somatype

    and yeah i realise i'm never going to be the roid chaser's idea of a good time but i don't feel rejected by it.
     
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    The two worst gay sins a man can commit getting old and getting fat.
     
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    not true, you should embrace your belly and/or your age, they're both effective *stupid queer filters*

    it prevents you from being bothered by all the superficial idiots who woudn't be any good for you to begin with.
     
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    Everything is subjective and not everyone has the same opinion about guys. I know guys who prefer younger guys, I know guys who prefer older guys, and I know guys who prefer guys roughly their own age.

    If you're rejected, then you're rejected. Don't worry yourself by who did it, you weren't for them and you'll find someone who agrees with you.
     
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    The oldest gay bar in London (The Old Quebec, gay since the 1940s) specialises in the more mature clientelle. Dismissed as "the elephant's graveyard" by the more transient youth scene, it nevertheless attracts a lot of youngsters looking for older men. Supposedly some of them are for "rent", but the retired gentleman neighbour of mine in the 80s never had to pay for the guys he brought back home frequently.

    And it's still there! Long outliving the 50s private drinking clubs, the swinging sixties, the 70s discos, the 80s new romantics and lounge scene, the 90s dance clubs, whatever it was we did in the noughties...

    C'est la vie. It's over when you decide you're too old.
     
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