In response to this and your last post:
We talk -every- day, i'm on all of the time. She never speaks to me first, if i don't talk to her she will do nothing. I Could vanish without a trace for days and she'd make no attempt to call me or find out if i'm alive.
We see each other every few months, it's really not that bad. But that doesn't give her an excuse to be so crazy. I call, a lot. 9/10 times my call is not picked up, and I have to call 4-5 times before she finally answers with a negative, disgusting tone.
She has -never- in these months together asked me "How are you?" or anything. Only when I was hit by a car was she remotely concerned about my wellbeing.
I call a lot, and it costs me money while simultaneously i'm available at my PC on msn almost every hour of the day. When i'm not, I call regularly, most of the time no answer.
I wouldn't even bother with msn if we weren't studying apart. She -never- makes any effort at all.
I don't think there is much more to say, not one person has said anything positive and I can't think of a reason why they should.
Thankies.
Well thank you for clearing that up. I have to admit that I felt like you were being extremely deceptive when you finally mentioned that you were long distance, especially since in your OP you specifically wrote the she went out and you were stuck at home, which made it sound like she was leaving you at home, when in fact you would have been stuck at home anyway and you couldn't have seen her. It made me feel like you had intentionally slanted your posts in order to rally people to your side. To me it sounds like you came here with an agenda. Why? If you want to break up with her, just do it.
Is there a reason why she doesn't call you? Does she not have a good cell phone plan? You see, you've lost my trust by omitting that you're long distance and now I find myself wondering if there's more stuff you haven't told us that fills in the blanks and makes all of this make more sense.
For example, if she never calls you, that doesn't sound that needy. And if she doesn't pick up the phone 9/10 and you have to call 4-5 times before she picks up, then that's 50 phone calls from you per day. Either you're exaggerating greatly, or you sound like you call her too often. Why so many phone calls? Why did she get mad at you about the 2 am phone call if you talk so often? I keep feeling like there's a lot of this story that has been left out.
The reason why no one has said anything positive about her is because you haven't told us anything positive about her, which is the reason why I think this thread is so strange. The people in this thread only know as much as you've told us about her.
If you've been totally truthful, it sounds like you've found the worst woman on earth and you won't stop calling her even though you think she's awful and abusive to you. And I think that's really weird.
Seriously, if she really is that bad, then why? You said that you've broken up and gotten back together again. Why did you get back together again? Why go back to her? I know that you said you wanted to understand her behavior, but your behavior doesn't make sense either, not the way you've described the situation. You obviously already know that you shouldn't have to put up with that because your description of her behavior makes it clear that you find it unacceptable, so why the thread? Do you plan on showing it to her?
The picture you've painted is just too black and white.
That stretched the limit of my credibility - because absolutely no one has no redeeming qualities at all and someone who claims to love a person would be able to list at least of few of those qualities. If you've been totally truthful, I have to question other things, like whether or not you enjoy being the martyr or if you have issues with emotional masochism so you seek out people who will treat you abusively.
You still sound like you're trying to make her sound as bad as possible. That's my problem with the "rescuer" claim that you made. Rescuers make excuses for those that they're rescuing, and they take too much of the blame personally. They're the ones who say, "It's my fault he hit me. He's really not a bad guy. I made him mad and he had a bad childhood and so much stress at work..." People who are rescuers have to be told that they're not at fault for the things they're taking the blame for. You do the exact opposite. You're saying, "Look how often she hit me! She's a terrible person! I can't think of a single reason why she would act like that!" You make a lot of accusations and say nothing positive about her. That doesn't fit the description of a rescuer. You just sound like an angry guy, tbh. If she's really that bad, then you have good reason to be angry at her. The only puzzling part is why you're with her.
I thought that maybe your first post was made in anger, but every post after it has been the same. Nothing but describing how awful you think she is. I thought you said that you refused to be her doormat?
None of that other stuff really even matters, though. The negative tone of post after post about her says it all. You should break up with her because you clearly dislike all of this. You shouldn't be with someone if you can't think of a single positive thing to say about her. That's awful for both of you.
Since you clearly hate her, why the hell did you make this thread? Just dump her already. Why bother waiting? Do it now. Get it over with.