Hey fine dudes and fine ladies! I need some advice. I am 21, in college, gay, and in my first "relationship". Until recently I hadn't even had sex, and was so sick of it that I started looking for dudes online, always with the intent of a longer-lasting relationship. I've always considered myself a good looking guy. People have always compliment me on my looks and bod, and I work really hard to stay ripped. I'm trying, like everyone, to find what I've seen so many straight couples have: a relationship where they are very attracted to each other, and love spending time with each other more than anyone else, while also becoming best friends on a higher level. Anyway, my thing is this: the guy I'm with is great, he's super nice, masculine like me (which it seems hard to find masculine gay guys around here who aren't obsessed with being gay) and is fun to be around. But I'm just not attracted to him. He always wants sex more than I do, and I never find myself thinking about him or wishing I was with him. When we have sex it seems like a chore for me. I would rather just cuddle. My question is: What role should physical attractiveness play in a relationship? To be perfectly honest, I'm looking for some hot steamy sex as much as the next guy, but I don't want the relationship to be shallow or based around how we both think each other are hot... To be perfectly honest, all the straight friends in relationships I've been close to have had attractive partners, and it's obvious there's physical chemistry involved even though they are each others best friends too (which is awesome). Am I a douche for breaking up with someone because I'm "not attracted"? Am I a douche for starting something up initially because someone is hot? What role should physical attractiveness play in a relationship? How do I break up with him in this situation? And how the FUCK do I find someone who's not either a desperate person online or a flaming person in real life? haha Thank you so much. I'm sure many of you have been through this so I look forward to hearing your wisdom.