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My 28 year old friend just started a serious relationship with 41 year old divorced mother with 2 kids from ex husband , she really wants to get pregnant from him and is trying to convince him to have sex without condoms .... They are both clean STD free and he is really considering it as they have a very strong relationship past 6 months ..... Any advice or think 6 months is to soon , they really seem to truly be in love ?
 

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As far as I know there's not really a universal timetable for taking next steps, but there's not enough info here to give any kind of opinion.

Age is a number, but it's a very real number. My husband and I are over 8 years apart, and it's amazing how different our frames of reference are regarding popular culture, how we were raised and just priorities in general. I can't imagine it reversed.

After all, I'm the mature one in our relationship. As he says he may have to get older, but he doesn't have to grow up.

I had a classmate in college who married a single mother who was 35. He was 22. I almost made a horrible mistake when I was introduced to her. She had a 14-year-old son, and I thought they were brothers and she was... well, you know. I mean, she had the same last name as him and all.

People judge by appearances. That's human nature. Our eyes trump our reasoning most of the time.

If it's true love, I wish the best for them. If it's not, well, they tried. I know you want the best for your friend, and the best you can do is listen, then support him or remain quiet. Voicing your concerns may not be received well unless he really does want your viewpoint, in which case give it to him but expect the consequences.

Somehow, I keep thinking of Percy Sledge - When a Man Loves a Woman - YouTube
 

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6 months is too soon in ANY relationship to decide about having children together. 21 years old is too young to even consider having children. Huge red flag.

Tell your friend to beware. This woman wants to have his kid most likely so she can use that on him (to keep him around, or his money). Sadly, I have seen this happen many times. Tell your buddy to run away.
 

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sounds like bad MILF/impreg/cougar porn... like maybe the OP is fishing for womangs chiming in with "OMG! my vageen is flooding with desire for this to happen!!!! mount me, young man!"

and what Ms. Kisser said
 

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Yeah, no, all my senses tell me that your friend is entering a trap. This woman has two kids already, asking for a third on top of them sounds like more trouble than its worth at face value. She's not asking for marriage, she's asking for a child...that is a leap and a bound ahead of what I'd expect to progress in a relationship. Rushing things forward implies trickery to me.

Gonna have to call shenanigans on this one.
 

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Your "friend" is an idiot if he gets her preggo. There's literally no winning in that situation. & they've only been together for 6 months? Come on, if you're a real friend you'll do anything to cock block this situation. Your "friend"'s mind is in the gutter. He has so much life to live, why ruin it by getting some old crazy lady pregnant, talk about game over....
 

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My 28 year old friend just started a serious relationship with 41 year old divorced mother with 2 kids from ex husband , she really wants to get pregnant from him and is trying to convince him to have sex without condoms .... They are both clean STD free and he is really considering it as they have a very strong relationship past 6 months ..... Any advice or think 6 months is to soon , they really seem to truly be in love ?

Bells are ringing. I hope he hears the warning bells. Nothing traps a gullable man better than having a kid. He should run.