Relationship age difference. Woman is older.

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How many of you are in a relationship where the woman is older than the man? Or where there is an age difference if say, more than 5 years. I am currently seeing someone who is 27 and I am 20. I consider myself mature for my age and she is not as mature as many 27 year olds that I know... So that works out. We have similar interests and get along well. The following questions are on my mind.

She was engaged 4 months ago... For about a year out of a 4 year relationship. How long before she should get into another relationship?


Besides the biological clock issues, what problems could arise from the 7 year age difference?

Do you have advice?
 

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As far as I'm concerned, age is just a number. But, many older women aren't at all interested in young men. Some just aren't (and never were) attracted to men under a certain age, others assume that because you're young - you're immature. There are many more reasons, but whatever the reason may be - it can put pressure on such a relationship. When you do find an older lady (one with an equal interest in you), you may find that others judge your relationship negatively. The older woman might be called 'a cradle-snatcher' by her peers, while the younger man is viewed as a toy-boy and nothing more. There may be jealousy issues from younger and older people; "Why is he interested in an old cow like her?"

Sometimes, even friends and family look down on your relationship - sometimes for sincere reasons. Her group assume she is being used for sex/money and will be left heart-broken; his group think the same way. At that point, peer-pressure can take hold and place doubt in the mind and heart of one, or both partners. Trust-issues can arise and your partner might begin to question your motives, thus scuppering the relationship in the early stages. Some will just view your relationship as a joke, as to them it's impossible for two people to have similar interests across such an age-gap. All that is the worst-case scenario, but it's something you should be prepared for as a couple.

I don't think there is an answer to your other question. The length of time between relationships varies on an individual basis. If she's ready, she's ready. Without knowing her, it's really hard to say. If you're concerned that she might not be ready for another relationship, I would suggest discussing it with her - that's not something I can answer. As with any relationship, open communication is very important.
 

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I got into a relationship when I was 22 with a 39 year old woman. Everything was pretty great. We were together for over 2 years.

Only issue of course is the age, and I can't imagine myself at 50 being with someone 17 years older. We mutually agreed to take a break so she could search for her life partner at various stages throughout the relationship. She has currently been seeing a guy for about 9 months now, but we still keep in touch and talk multiple times throughout the week.
 

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I am 49 and my sexy lady is 37. Maybe thats why she loves being serviced by hot, well hung younger men (as our pics attest). I think all women like the idea of a younger man between their thighs. Enloy her experience and move on when its time.
 

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Most of the women I have been with have been older and I have loved every minute of it. I had a relationship with a woman who was 15 years older than I. I have never had anyone go down on me like she did or want to have sex with the abandon she did. Alas, we were both in relationships with others and we were never able to actually live together. She is now in the final stages of cancer and I miss and love her very much.


My wife is eight years older than I am and when we were first together she too, was open to try anything and everything. Sex in the bed, the car, the forest, the shower...did not matter. Then we got married and less than a month later she went through her change of life and her labido went from 111% to 1% over night. Now it is sex maybe four or five times a year and only for long enough to get me off thank you very much. We still love each other, but the lack of intimacy is the issue now.

My parents were 14 years apart, father older than mom, and as they got older the main issue was one still wanted to go and do and the other just was happy to stay home.
 

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I have greatly enjoyed hearing the honest opinions of you folks. I thank you dearly. More responses are welcomed. You have enlightened me of some potential issues that may arise. So far, so good. We are bonding well and really having a great time.

She certainly is more assertive with what she wants, which was a big surprise for me since she is a very passive and shy person. It's great that she and I both have passions and goals that are very similar and complement each other. I hope the age difference does not become a problem. Neither of us care too much what others think and we communicate well. I'm optamistic & will see how things go.

Yesterday, she said " I really like you... A lot :). I think we should talk about relationship stuff again, if you are up for it. This weekend, when we are both free." I'm anxious, as Im not sure what we are going to discuss. 3 weeks ago she said to give her a couple months to figure things out....
 
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I don't see any problems with age difference, I date older woman and they are yummy so far :wink:
 

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I can't make generalizations about older woman/younger man couples, but in one instance I know: He grew up in a dysfunctional family and was basically looking for a mother, and she had left a relationship with a bland, boring guy. Now he has someone to "mother" him and take care of him, and she gets excitement and hot sex. Until one of them burns out, it should work fine!