relationship break-up advice

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A breakup after 14 years is tough.

I am inclined to agree with invisibleman, but that's just me. hotmilf has given sound advice too.

I hope all goes well with you, and I wish you strength and patience over this period of stress.
 

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Hotmilf is correct. You should follow her advice.

I am a bit troubled by the fact he confided in your sister and she knew before you did that he was leaving and why. :confused: Not quite sure what to make of that if anything.


That makes sense, BottomBuddy. Wow. He must have pure poison in his family.

It honestly sounds to me like you can repair this. But it's a big responsibility because you're going to have to be the "rock" that the relationship is built upon.

If I were you, I'd study up on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy as well as NLP. It will help you to remain stable if you understand what might be going on in his head.

I see no reason to give up on someone because of emotional injuries. A good, stable person is about the best therapy a recovering person can have.

PS: And if it doesn't work out, which I highly doubt, don't worry that you'll never find love again. Someone as capable of LOVING as you obviously are will be able to have love again. :redface:
 

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Hotmilf is correct. You should follow her advice.

I am a bit troubled by the fact he confided in your sister and she knew before you did that he was leaving and why. :confused: Not quite sure what to make of that if anything.

my sis was troubled too njqt but was frightened to say anything to me....but she has now and thats the main thing......she is also worried about what he has said to other friends we have...i know 2 from the usa havent emailed me or spoke since when it was a regular thing to telephone (theyve ignored emails n stuff) so i presume he has said stuff to them and is still in touch with them and i dont know how to be and dont want to telephone them as obviously he has latched onto them and theyve fallen for his story -obviously im dissapointed as we stayed with them when we visited california,etc and i know they liked me alot as a friend......i just dont know what to do anymore.