Relationship Crisis

[thelastoneever2000]

i am in a very similar situation with my girlfriend. we are about 4 hours apart. i am fortunate enough to be able to see her basically any weekend that i choose to, so it seems that the distance is not as much of a factor as we thought it would be in the beginning of the year.

we went through a lot of mayhem the first quarter of college because it was a new experience, and neither of us knew what eachother would do relationship wise. I felt exactly the same way that you do earlier this year. but here I am, still with my Tewsh.

the second quarter was fantastic. I saw her 7 of the 10 weekends that i was in school, and the feeling of dread about the distance between us was nearly non existant.

this quarter though has been somewhat tough, because of some other guy that really likes her, and while I know she doesnt have feelings for him, she doesnt help the situation at all by babying it up for him. last night I think we finally settled that problem (plus she is on summer break now...i only got more weeks) and so I can only imagine that things will be smooth from now on.

coming from your exact situation, I can tell you that you should not really have anything to fear. what helps me get through is by trying to think of what families or partners in the military have to do. they go around the world for months, sometimes years on end without seeing their loved ones, but many of them stick through it. if they can, why cant you or I?

 

[mrsparkle]

Knight,

I'm glad things seem to be headed in the right direction for you. As someone who, right around the same age as you, tried to prematurely end a deeply involved relationship due to 'extenuating circumstances' similar to yours, I was going to advise you to stick with it and work out the small stuff no matter what it takes. It's better than having the loss, and the relentless thoughts of "what if", haunt you for the rest of your life. Keep the girl!

mr sparkle

 

[DC_DEEP]

Knight, I will apologize at the start, because I know this will be a bit long...

My relationship started out long-distance, me in Little Rock and him in Atlanta. We did what we had to do - phone, US mail, email, IM, and lotsa $$$ to Delta Airlines. It worked out. If it is meant to be, it will work out.

You mentioned counselling, that is an excellent decision. The part of your original post describing your lack of focus, direction, interest in things in general, all classic warning signs of clinical depression. Nothing to be ashamed of, and more common than you can imagine for someone facing graduation and the start of an adult life. Do the counselling sessions for a couple of months to see if that helps organize and solidify your thoughts and emotions. Medication may or may not be needed. Make yourself healthy, and most everything else will fall into place. Best of luck to you in all areas of your life, my friend.

Big Bear Hugs!!!

DC

 

[Knight]

Thanks guys! You're all so great

Yeah it is sorted more or less now and next week I'll buy the rail pass where I can go on the train as many times as I like in a month for £30, and seen as my last ticket was £17.20 for some reason (usually its £15 but the cheapest one I had was £12, they must think I'm an adult/child sometimes lol) then I could go more often...

Also am applying for uni and looking for a job so things look sweet. I think the anxiety happened after I left school, where it was all planned out for me to do (exams etc) and then when I left it was like 'what do I do!?' lol. Finding my girlfriend has only helped me though, its awesome when we're together

Thanks again and I wish everyone the best in their relationships too

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

Knight - welcome to the real world...It is pretty scary out there but you seem to have a good head on your shoulders and should do fine...Good luck w/the job hunt and the girl friend...