I get this, but what has that got to do with me?
As a minor point of fact, by the way, a lot of the popularity of big dick porn among men is that it provides a vicarious (there's that word again
) experience. Just as I prefer female performers with a shape distinctly different from mine (I like big butts and I cannot lie!) specifically because I want to enjoy the fantasy of being shaped like that, many men aren't just idly watching, but actively fantasizing that they ARE the male performer, and the large tool is theirs to wield. Other than this minor disagreement with your assertions, I agree with, and understand what you're saying. But why are you saying it to me?
That post made me giggle. God, we've just gone both likely gone from crying to laughing. I think many men are doing that with big dicks, but some think there's a primal sexiness to the male organ, to be blunt.
I'm trying to understand the exact rationale behind it. I think in your case, you are probably trying to avoid a repeat of the same situation. That is totally and utterly understandable, I understand the whole playing the odds part, but if your charms are strong enough (and I'm sure they are) to fend off 90% of women, they should be strong enough to fend off 10% of men (unless you're implying that gay and bi men are all irresistible lol). But just like every straight man you're going to meet is different, as is every bi man. Not trying to tell you to do it, just saying I don't understand not analysing it on a case by case basis. Just try to enter a willing suspension of disbelief for a second.
Let me propose a hypothesis, this is only based on a secure :
You meet a gorgeous man, ticks all the boxes you need on a physical, emotional and intellectual level. He's irresistible, he identifies as bisexual, and once you start getting physical you realise he's clearly comfotable with his sexuality and he wants you like there's no tomorrow, and you are the biggest catch he's caught. Does it really bother you that your competition pool has been increased by around 5% of the adult population? If he is into you, and that is clear from his interactions with you, and he strikes you as the faithful type, and you are obviously monogamous. He's honest with you about who he is, and that is surely what counts. There could even be certain advantages (this is meant light heartedly, so don't think I'm being facetious), depending on sexual tastes or aesthetic tastes (gay and bi men are also under the male gaze), and no shade to the straight guys but bi guys are slightly better at language too (as are gay men obviously). There was a hilarious quote that a straight male friend of mine that I mentioned saw a female friend of his post, regarding all of the dismissive reactions many men provided to the metoo victims that came out (we've all seen how horrendous the dismissiveness of the victims was):
"Guys presented that they understood the meaning of consent. But as soon as you try to slip a finger up there, they're all about boundaries:"
That's obviously because lots of straight men make the erroneous connection that any anal play is gay (don't think that would be possible with bi men). Even though for many of us, that's a small part of our sex lives. Oral/mutual masturbation etc are way, way more common. Obviously there are shitloads of different variables, but it is
I will reverse the hypothesis for myself:
I meet someone, think he's gay right at the beginning but a couple weeks in (Just a hypothesis, I know the OP did it four months afterwards, which is more problematic, early January to early May is four months, not five months btw) I find out he's slept with, dated women and is still attracted to them. I increase my competition pool from 5% to 50% of the adult population, personally speaking, what an ego stroke for me?!
My charms outwon 90% of women and 10% of men. I don't think that my wonderful charms are going to mean, he will leave me for a woman, even though there are loads more options for him than me. That would even be a case with a 30% gay identity for me. Now I know it is a bit different for me, but just explaining my personal view. You date who you want to obviously, the more women that don't, the more bi guys are left for us anyway
I know it's always a little tasteless to compare race and sexuality. But I will make one example. The only men I have ever dated have been white, black or mixed race. Is that because I find them to be the only attractive men that exist? Nope, I just find some of them attractive and I have a preference for out men, and the main other group where I come from, (South Asian guys) are less likely to be out due to community and religious pressure. Outness for me, means not being trapped in someone else's closet, which you can personally relate to. I'm still totally open to guys from other groups if I meet one that ticks the right boxes though.
PS I'm playing devil's advocate with you, and I am trying to add some humour in, so it is meant to be light hearted.
