Relationship With A Bisexual

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Would you have any doubt or avoid it completely if you were to get in a serious relationship with a bisexual?
If you want a committed relationship without having the “obligation” to sleep with other guys, then NO, bisexual men are not made for you. I have two friends who once dated bisexual guys and it didn’t turn out well because at some point they asked them to open the relationship. I was in love with a bi as well but I ended things before it’s too late. I’m more into loyal exclusive relationships and bisexual guys cannot provide that
 
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If you want a committed relationship without having the “obligation” to sleep with other guys, then NO, bisexual men are not made for you. I have two friends who once dated bisexual guys and it didn’t turn out well because at some point they asked them to open the relationship. I was in love with a bi as well but I ended things before it’s too late. I’m more into loyal exclusive relationships and bisexual guys cannot provide that

I'm sorry, but you're absolutely wrong... because you're conflating two things that are not related. There's a difference between a bisexual orientation and a person who does not want monogamy. It's wrong to assume that if you're bisexual you automatically cannot be monogamous.

Your friends who had issues with bisexual people not because of their bisexuality, rather they they had problems with people who were not interested in monogamy. Don't make the mistake of assuming that bisexuality somehow make someone non-monogamous... plenty of people who are not bisexual are not monogamous. Bisexuality doesn't mean inherently that they could not be monogamous, it only means that they have more options for dating and relationships.

What the OP asks is not a question of bisexuality, it's a (vague) question about communication and commitment. Bisexual people may find all genders sexually attractive, but that doesn't mean they cannot be a committed long term partner. If you are a gay man and offended by the idea of your partner finding women attractive too, that's more a question of your insecurities than about your partner's attractions.

I'd suggest that if your concern is a stable relationship, focus on finding someone who will be a good long-term match, who believes in what you believe and wants the same things you want, rather than who you fear they will leave you for.... Because I have bad news for you: flaky gay men with commitment issues will leave your ass just as quickly as a bi man will and it has zero to do with the gender of who they're leaving you for.
 
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All relationships have variables that need to be negotiated. It comes down to communication and both parties being aware of the rules of the relationship.

Rules are open to renegotiated over time but the key is both sides agreeing to the same rules and sticking to them.
 

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This has been an issue for me personally before when considering a more serious relationship with a bi fuck bud. Ultimately, I couldn't do it because I just don't want to start something serious with someone who could leave me for a woman. I just want to feel secure in my relationship and I wouldn't with a bi man. I am sure that is more of a personally issue I have but that is the reason I couldn't.

Best of luck to you, just listen to what your heart is telling you and follow suit.

Hugs, tugs and love.
 

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Just to clarify, my question was more like curiosity about what you people would do.
Would you have no problem with a bi boyfried? Would you trust him less than a gay one? These questions and more that could be just summed up with the one I've asked.
It would have worked better with a Yes/No survey, maybe
 

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I would have zero problems being in a relationship with a man who is bisexual, queer, or identifies in some way other than completely gay. As long as we're both on the same page about what we want from the relationship then there's no problem

As a gay man it's always bothered me to see other gay men make harmful assumptions about bisexual men
 

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I have an unconsummated relationship with a bi guy. For us, I understand he will always need to see the occasional lady, and I’m totally fine with that (..and I will always have random hookups). But, as the OP said every relationship has different values and boundaries. I feel such a deep soulful connection to this guy that I know a bit of sex either with a M or F for him won’t break us.

I’d say - try it, it might be fun.
 
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Well it does not matter whether u want this relationship or not.

It is the bisexual guys who decide where it's gonna go.

And usually they don't want a relationship with a man.

They live str8 lives and just fuck gay guys and never see them again.
 

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I would have no problems whatsoever about having a bi boyfriend. In fact, I'd probably be in a relationship with one right now if he lived in the same area. There's no difference for me than seeing a gay man, if he is into me and I am into him, what else matters?

If, however, I were dating someone bandying about hurtful negative stereotypes about the sexual orientation of others, I'd be out the door pretty fucking quickly. I don't have patience for that kind of shit, and frankly, any gay men doing that should know better. Bi men are also men who are into other men, and so are naturally part of my dating pool.
 
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