:clap::clap:The way I see it, it's like this. Unrequited love and one way feelings happens all the damn time between friends, be they straight or gay or bi. Doesn't matter. It also doesn't matter to me that it's my closest friend. You guys are right. If anything, it makes it much easier for me to gain some persceptive. It's obviously been unbelievably hard for him to overcome these feelings and try living a lie, keeping his girlfriend. He didn't choose to be gay and he didn't choose to develop feelings for me. But that's life. It's happened, and I know that he needs me now more than ever to help him along.
Well guys I'm just off the phone with him.
We had a bit of a laugh about the whole thing, but accepted that it's happened and it's real. He knows it's not gonna go any further and must accept that, but he seems more relieved that it's out in the open and I'm not pissed.
We couldn't chat for long, but we're gonna hang out when he's home on Friday, just as we usually would.
Your friend is extremely lucky to have you in his life. Is it any wonder he has feelings for you? I'm so glad that he seems to be coming to terms with all that's happened in the past couple of days and, I don't think I'm going too far out on a limb here in saying that it's largely, if not entirely, due to your support and continued friendship. You should be proud of yourself.
I think you handled this in such a positive way, and applaud you!Well guys I'm just off the phone with him.
We had a bit of a laugh about the whole thing, but accepted that it's happened and it's real. He knows it's not gonna go any further and must accept that, but he seems more relieved that it's out in the open and I'm not pissed.
We couldn't chat for long, but we're gonna hang out when he's home on Friday, just as we usually would.
Just read all the new posts and wanna say thanks to all you guys
Top advice, and you're making me feel good about my decision! ha. I told my brother and my dad what happened and they're both extremely weirded out by the whole thing, and the manner in which I'm handling it. Ah, well.
Ryan's still staying with his ex Gf in Edinburgh until Friday. They are done, as I mentioned, but they want to iron things out on their terms, work out where they stand with each other. She still seems pretty upset and has called me a couple of times. I will talk to her, but I have a feeling she resents me somehow.
Ryan I have chatted on the phone like we usually do. Talked for about 40 minutes today, just about complete bollocks really Tv, movies. Talked about Wall.E for most of the call. I told him I still love him like a brother, and we even had a wee joke about it at the end of the call. When I said 'are we still on for a few pints this weekend?' he said 'of course. and I promise I won't bum you.' I knew he'd use humour to help him.
As things stand, he's still my best friend. Truth be told, I miss the guy, he's been away a week now I think. We even joked about heading to a Gay bar once he's home [now that he's 'out'] which I wouldn't be opposed to!