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What are your feelings about masturbation in a relationship?
It's your body. It is also your partner's body. If you, or they, want to please themselves then that is their business. It is a normal, healthy part of practically (i had to put that caveat in there) everyone's lives. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you hand over your genital rights to the other person, and they get to dole out your personal pleasure when they see fit.What are your feelings about masturbation in a relationship?
That’s it! When it doesn’t change the frequency of your sex life! When it does it’s an issue.I give zero fucks about @Mr_Mitt getting off. None whatsoever. There are times where I'll cage him or control his ability to get off, but that's all part of the D/s game. But other times he's free to jerk it as often as he wants, often times before work in the shower for ease of clean up.
He also has zero care about how often I get off at home.
Masturbating doesn't change our sex life. It doesn't change our frequency we'd be having sex. It's just a natural part of a healthy sexual existence.
Caring about or maliciously controlling your partners self lovin habbit due to your own jealousy or insecurity isn't healthy or even mildly ok.
Yes-ish. It really depends on the relationship and people within.And does masturbation with other people online cross a line in the relationship?
I don't agree with that.Yes-ish. It really depends on the relationship and people within.
If you're hiding it from your partner because it could upset them, hurt them or your relationship, then yes, it's crossing a line.
If it's above board and everyone knows and consents, then no, it's not a crossed line.
I don't agree with that.Cam sex is a different medium of porn, but it still falls into the same category. It doesn't even come close to crossing the threshold of being extra-marital
I don't agree with that.
If he's hiding it from me, it's cheating. Period. Interacting with the person, not just watching prerecorded video, is different in my eyes. I wouldn't be ok with my guy camming with someone, but I'm totally fine with him watching porn.
And yes, I know what he watches. He knows what I watch.
I know you weren't talking to me but hey, it's an open discussion.
I think we've moved on from the perception that random, anonymous online sex means anything more than a 10 minute video to jerk off to. It is an evolution of porn, not an affair
There was a discussion in another thread about spouses who get upset over their partner masturbating. Others get upset that their wife/gf uses a dildo. What that boils down to is control, and jealousy
Ok. So what bothers you about it? To go back to what I said:
Fair. My partner and I have boundaries as well, that other people might find odd given their own personal permissions and openness. To be honest, I might have something to say if my partner were only camming with one person on a regular basis, but that would also depend on if they were a regular Joe Blo, or a pro cam personality. That would be a significant difference for me.I'm ok with admitting I might be jealous of the idea of him interacting with some stranger I don't know. I don't "control" him, though. We have conversations about what we are and aren't ok with happening in our relationship. We set boundaries *together*. We communicate about it. I'm open with him about my potential jealousy just like I'm being here now.
So, I'm ok with disagreeing with you about the idea that camming is basically in the same vein as watching porn. To me, it's not. My guy feels the same way. So in my relationship, we've decided it's off limits. We have a great sex life, and we both enjoy masturbating. We both want to avoid doing things that make the other uncomfortable or unhappy. We don't control each other. We respect each other's boundaries. Big difference.