Relationships are rubbish

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That only happens in movies...and in your life. The rest of us mortals revel in solitude.

True for me, too. I'm practising my cat lady persona. :biggrin1:

I don't believe relationships are rubbish - I think they are wonderful! I just don't think I was meant to be in a romantic one. So I nurture my other relationships - with friends and family. It is what it is. And I always get the best spot in bed and watch what I want on TV.
 

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you're describing an epically rubbish relationship
when ya with the right person sacrifice become compromise.
biting your tongue becomes respecting your partner.
there isn't an issue of lowering your standards.
ya don't think of cost, ya focus on the new awesome in your life.

*hugs Joeweekend*


Well said! :smile:



MickeyLee has spoken. This is therefore a universal & unassailable truth.

Feel free to be in awe at the wisdom of Solomon... :yup:




(You don't think I'm laying it on a bit thick, do you?)
 

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i was talking to the op. lol and Ive been bitter myself.



I don't miss my ex boyfriend... I just miss having a boyfriend. Does that make sense?

Just woke up from a 12 hour slumber. So forgive me for being groggy last night. Yes it makes perfect sense. I directed it to the wrong person. I meant to address hud .... Sorry.
I miss my BF too. I want one that is in my life every day, not just a week here and a week there. But I stay with him because I love him. :)
 

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I understand how feel. I feel the same way but in the interim while I'm waiting for the right guy to surface. I'm spending time learning more about myself. Once I do find the Mr. Right I want to be the best I can for him because I expect the same from him.

To all those who seem perpetually between relationships...

Try expecting less of someone else, and more of yourself.
The only person you Can change, is you.

See others for who they really are, and love them, or not.
But expectations we place on others are the primary cause of unnecessary suffering and discord.

If both you and the person you love are good people... then nothing you must suffer in them is any more egregious than what they must suffer in you.
Remember that daily.

When it comes to a better love...

you don't Ask It.

you Bring It.
 

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Perhaps, this is not your time; your season. Every one has a time and a place...if you live long enough, accept the inevitable, you will find someone.

Americans, especially women (not men), place too much emphasis on age. Women: most of them remark, "I'm tired of being a bridesmaid and not a bride!" Honey, not all men want to marry; it's getting more difficult in this generation unless (applies to men and women):

1. You choose a religious zealot (not to demean religion);

2. You are Amish, and you must be born one;

3. You are a conservative, devout Catholic;

4. You are a Mormon;

5. You are a fundamentalist;

or.......

6. You are a Jehovah's Witness

Women in these groups seem to find husbands....makes you wonder why. Now, young men or women on this site: hit the churches, join clubs, organizations, and give something back; eventually, someone with morals, values, and character will discover you.
 

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Oh turn that frown upside down little buckaroo. One day the sun will shine on your side of the field and you'll find you Juliet, or Romeo, and be just as drunk in bitter sweet love as those of us who've found someone. When the day comes and you do find someone who rocks your world you'll forget about all this.

Morrison said it best, "People are strange when you're a stranger, faces look ugly when you're alone, women seem wicked when you're unwanted, streets are uneven when you're down."

Shame the bitch he hooked up with was part of his demise. Sometimes relationships do suck.
 

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I've been down that road just like the OP. But looking back, all the relationships around me were so filled with drama and fighting and breaking up. Ick. I know me a whole lot better now and I can honestly say this is the first time in my life that I'd really love to be in a relationship.
 

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Just woke up from a 12 hour slumber. So forgive me for being groggy last night. Yes it makes perfect sense. I directed it to the wrong person. I meant to address hud .... Sorry.
I miss my BF too. I want one that is in my life every day, not just a week here and a week there. But I stay with him because I love him. :)
and my comment to you was because you said 352 days, when there are 365 days in a year, or in this years case 366
 

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There is no greater joy than to love honor and serve the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. This is right for me.
 

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I feel the same way. Every now and then I meet someone I actually like and for whatever reason a relationship never ensues. I try not to hold my standards and expectations of people too high as it usually ends up being a let down, but finding someone who I actually genuinely like is rare. When it does happen I usually have a hard time coming to terms with nothing progressing and it's usually out of my hands and it gets my quite down. Beginning to think I'm going to have to wait a few more years before I can love and be loved back in a caring relationship. It will happen, I'm sure. I can't wait :)
 

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Oh turn that frown upside down little buckaroo. One day the sun will shine on your side of the field and you'll find you Juliet, or Romeo, and be just as drunk in bitter sweet love as those of us who've found someone. When the day comes and you do find someone who rocks your world you'll forget about all this.

Morrison said it best, "People are strange when you're a stranger, faces look ugly when you're alone, women seem wicked when you're unwanted, streets are uneven when you're down."

Shame the bitch he hooked up with was part of his demise. Sometimes relationships do suck.


They always find someone. Who cares. Not me anymore. There are two nasty queens next door rubbing my face in it. fuck em. There is NO Romeo, he belongs to someone else.And they love hating and rubbing my face on it. Thats why I'm letting it go.