I hope this is allowed, it has nothing to do with me, but one of my friends broke up with her boyfriend a while ago and now she's devastated and really confused about what to do, and I don't know how to help her... I was hoping that maybe I can get some advice to give to her, since I am far from being an expert on relationships. As I said, she broke up with him for reasons I'll explain later in this post. But it's been a couple weeks, and she started crying because she misses him and she still loves him. She knows that he loved her and was extremely faithful to her. He would never lie to her and tells her everything. She's worried that she won't meet another guy who will feel and act the same way. My point is, she clearly loves him and misses him a lot. Now... She's conflicted to some of the other physical attributes of their (past) relationship. Apparently, he was very controlling. With very few exceptions, he wouldn't want her to talk to any other guys except for him and his friends. While she trusted him, apparently he didn't trust her. Another example of his control is that he wouldn't let her leave and go home when she wanted. I guess it got to the point where he would pin her down and tell her to stay, but I don't know for a fact that this is true. He's a college dropout with no intentions of going anywhere in life, with his excuse being (at 20 years of age) that he's still young and he has time. But at this point, for how many more years can he say that? She's tried to help him find a job, but instead of thinking that she's trying to help him, he thinks that she's nagging him. She was able to hook him up with helping out at her family's diner for one night a week, and he makes $30 from that. But instead of using it to take his girlfriend out on a date (apparently they've never been on one) or even saving the money, he uses it on drugs and to pay for netflix, and she looks at this as if he thinks drugs and movies are more important than she is. She feels compassion for him because he's had a bad childhood. I'm not sure of all the details, but his father didn't want him and left him and his mom right after he was born. So he grew up without a father figure for his entire life and was given what he wanted from his mom. I suppose his friends are also a bad influence on him. They do nothing with their lifes and have no intention on doing anything, apparently. It doesn't help the situation that, even still, his mom enables him by giving him money every week. I personally believe that the only way you're going to learn from life is to learn the hard way. If you get used to being given money your entire life, what's going to happen when the source of that money runs out? You're going to have to earn it, eventually, and at this point it's better to learn that before it becomes too late. Because of all of this, her entire family don't "approve" of him, so to speak. Her mother and sisters thought she could do a lot better, but she believes that she couldn't. Is this a self-confidence issue? My friend loves him and she could tell that he loved her, but she didn't want to live her life as a sacrifice for him, by paying for everything. I know that relationships are really supposed to be founded on love and not money, but she couldn't see a future with him. I would agree that communication is key, but she's already told him all of this for the past few months and she even threatened that she couldn't be with him if he doesn't straighten up his life. And... here we are. But she's conflicted. I really don't know if it gets easier as time passes, so I couldn't tell her to move on. I did say that he could change his life by being more responsible with his money and learn that he can only get older from here (i.e. he won't be young forever), but between the influence from his mom and his friends, I'm not exactly sure how he's supposed to learn this. What advice should I give her?