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I don't have the same experience as Dee does,but I always value his take on these things. I only had one gay guy who is my friend. He was a friend before he discovered he was gay, so we already had a relationship previously to his discovery about himself. It's not an erotic relationship. We don't see each other much because we go to different colleges now.
I think Dee is right on in his description of a male-to-male sexual relationship, whatever the gender preference of the guys involved. I know as far as I'm concerned, as soon as things start getting emotionally intimate with another guy, I start getting a little uncomfortable. That's where the problem lies for me. It's difficult for me to separate my feelings for someone from any expression of that closeness, including sexual activity. Otherwise it would be hard for me to be just sexually involved with another guy without a lot of trust and love. At the same time there's a deep seated need in me to express this part of my erotic nature. I definitely appreciate this discussion, and as usual relate to things that Dee says perfectly. He helps me in so many different ways, & I owe him a lot. Thanx out to Dee.
Originally posted by DeeBlackthorne@Feb 4 2005, 05:13 PM
I suppose I'm torn on this issue. Idealism would tell me that I shouldn't care one way or another -- and that if the guy is a good person, his sexuality shouldn't matter. I think that's true. At the same time, I can count the number of gay male friends I have on me dick 'n balls, and I can honestly say that the reason why I might a friend or two is because they don't act stereotypically gay and that I can talk to them about stuff without them saying "ooh, girl" and all that. That makes me uncomfortable. Furthemore, when I was in undergrad, I made a few gay friends because I thought I could talk to them about finding guys somewhat attractive, but as it turns out, I was judged probably worse than some of the guys I'd play volleyball with.
So, to that end, nah -- if I had a gay bud I probably would keep the relationship kinda light and non-serious unless I really felt like we had a good friendship vibe going. And not that I have all that many straight guy friends either, but I definitely wouldn't think how we could work out a sexual relationship. I don't know. It's just a lot to consider. Don't get me wrong; I"ll go for some head if I'm not left up to much choice, but we better have a damn good understanding before it even gets there.
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I don't have the same experience as Dee does,but I always value his take on these things. I only had one gay guy who is my friend. He was a friend before he discovered he was gay, so we already had a relationship previously to his discovery about himself. It's not an erotic relationship. We don't see each other much because we go to different colleges now.
I think Dee is right on in his description of a male-to-male sexual relationship, whatever the gender preference of the guys involved. I know as far as I'm concerned, as soon as things start getting emotionally intimate with another guy, I start getting a little uncomfortable. That's where the problem lies for me. It's difficult for me to separate my feelings for someone from any expression of that closeness, including sexual activity. Otherwise it would be hard for me to be just sexually involved with another guy without a lot of trust and love. At the same time there's a deep seated need in me to express this part of my erotic nature. I definitely appreciate this discussion, and as usual relate to things that Dee says perfectly. He helps me in so many different ways, & I owe him a lot. Thanx out to Dee.