Relaxed (vs tensed) while ejaculating

[ashketchum]

Hey I was wondering if you guys could drop some opinions/experiences on being relaxed vs being tense while ejaculating.
I feel like I almost always get really tense and hold my breath right before and during ejaculation, but the few times I can remember feeling more relaxed during ejaculation I both squirted more shots and more volume. I remember it feeling better when more relaxed but I seem to tense up almost always.
Do you guys have any tips or ideas on how to remain relaxed during ejaculation?

 

[DeepDish]

hold my breath right before and during ejaculation

For one thing KEEP BREATHING! Probably sounds snarky but I am serious.

It is normal to feel some tension before ejaculating.

I wonder what would happen if you put yourself on an edging program for a few weeks. Edging is so great for figuring out the sensations we have before we ejaculate. It seems like you could practice relaxing more at ejaculation until it becomes second nature when you are with a partner.

Maybe do something like this:

Edge for at least 30 minutes. Try to get close to orgasm at least 5 times with out going all the way. Concentrate on what the sensations are, and work on keeping yourself breathing and relaxed.

If you screw up, just enjoy it. Practice makes perfect.

- use lube
- no porno, just focus on what your are feeling. If you want to use porn to get aroused, why the heck not. But turn it off once you are hard.

Anyway that is worth a try. It is a lot of fun too.


1. No porn. Just focus on sensation. If you want porn at first until you get good and hard, fine. Just turn it off.

 

[Ocean1]

Interesting Topic. I was just thinking this myself, only i was thinking how it would be reversed. (relax=less feeling than tense) Cuz i recently discovered that while riding a rollercoaster you "feel" more of the ride when tensed up. ive been xperimenting with tension while masturbating 4 the past week and so far I cant really say anything. i will report back later!

 

[double_digit]

It's quite the trick to walk that keen, razor's edge. But when you do, and manage to crest upon the very cusp of a climax, ease off, repeat, etc... then relax and keep breathing through a climax? May need to practice in a towel lined room and/or keep a wastepaper basket nearby. ;>

But for me, relaxing and remembering to breathe seems to slightly prolong the experience and also induce more volume. And if you have not already; Go back and re-read DeepDish's comment(s) again.

 

[DeepDish]

But for me, relaxing and remembering to breathe seems to slightly prolong the experience and also induce more volume.

Same here. And the combination of more volume and more contractions just feels so great.

I outta do a refresher course myself, I could use a little tune-up now that I think about it.