Remember when you lost your virginity?

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  1. Tintin1

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    I've heard that woman dont remember all the guys they had sex with, but they never forget the guy who took their virginity. I've taken two (they where both 16) the last one I've been living with for 15 years. You girls remember the guy, time and place when you lost yours??
     
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    Stupid fucking question, just because you make some dumbass reference to having "heard that women don't remember all the guys they have sex with" (?!) does not make it a women's issue. Seriously just because you want to ask prurient questions about women's sex lives does not make your questions Women's Issues.
     
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    In addition, there are too many of us who lose our virginity to rape to make "virginity" much of a valid construct for the question, as asked.
     
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    I dont understand why someone would be pissed of by this question! I did not mention rape or abuse in any way. So I'll just leave it with that. Just foggetaboutit...
     
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    I never mentioned abuse, Empathizer did. Her reasons for being annoyed with your question are totally different to mine.

    My reason is that it was in the wrong forum.
     
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    It amazes me how much bullshit makes it into popular belief. Doesn't common sense EVER kick in?

    Do all men remember who took their virginity?
     
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    Maybe it's just me, but using a phrase like "take [her] virginity" to describe someone's first sexual experience sounds somewhere between grabby and predatory.
     
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    (First thing that came to mind)
     
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    I guess I just wasn't putting that much consideration or emotion into the original question or how it was phrased. I just took it as a question based in curiousity - so I'm going to answer it that way.

    I remember the guy, the date (Oct. 21, 19--), the approximate time and location, as well as the song that was playing on the radio. I also remember it hurting and being messier, quicker, and a lot less fun than I'd expected. Thank goodness I got over all that!
     
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    :biggrin1::biggrin1:

    There are all manners of popular ways of expressing concepts that I find weird, unsettling or otherwise unwise :wink: The fact remains that "taking" someone's virginity, though a common enough expression, just seems to suggest coercion and exploitation rather than seduction and consent, at least to me.

    I also dislike allusions to gay sex as something painful, humiliating or degrading, like "bend over and grab your ankles", "take it like a man" and "rammed down my throat". When I see it, I usually call that out, too.


    Remembering the date seems at least slightly unusual, though the other stuff is all par for the course. I think if we took a poll of LPSG members, more than a few would respond the same way: quick, not-too-pleasant and a general relief at it's (finally) been disposed with. I know that's how I felt.
     
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    I remember the date because it was the day after my high school sweetheart's 19th birthday. I think many people have unfortunate first experiences, but mine was great. When I compare it to sex I had subsequently, it doesn't measure up. However, at the time, with nothing for comparison, it was ideal. There was no pain, no blood, very little mess, and it felt really good. We were clumsy and inexperienced, but we laughed, and had a lot of fun with it.
     
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    Nope, can't remember.
    (uhh, cause it hasn't happened yet :p)
     
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    i lost my virginity 2 sum gay guy who i was a total fag hag/madly in love with, his first words were ""it's s00000000 warm" haha, ugh :'(
     
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    I remember 26/27 of the men I've had sex with. So the first isn't at all special in that sense.

    I decided it was time to lose my virginity, so I went to a party, got wasted (to minimise pain) and picked up the first unattached male I found.

    The sex itself hurt badly. If I wasn't drunk and stoned I don't know how I would have coped. Other than that, it wasn't too bad.

    I stayed in touch with the guy and had sex with him a few more times over the next few years. With a little more experience I realised he was fairly well-endowed. Not the best choice for a first time.
     
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    I remember...I was 19 and obsessed with other, brilliant guys (still am). He was 30 at the time, Jewish, and a grad student studying anthropology. It wasn't the kind of experience I look back on fondly, but I definitely remember it. lol
     
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    same here
     
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    Sorry if someone misread my question. I didnt mean anything about the word "taken" the virginity, English is not my nr1 language so I may write things wrong. Maybe I skould have written: Do you remember the first time you made love?... Girls who have had more than 5-6 lovers maybee dont remember all of the guys and the tention the fondling, but they allways seem too remember the first boy. I certanly remember my first time, it was with a girl who had been around the block even thoug she was only 17. She gave me a bj and swalloved an scared the shit outta me. I have gone to bed with two virgins in my life and tried to be as gentle and caretaking as i could. In my country the sexual legal age is 16. I hope this clears things up. :)
     
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    Jewish guys are very good in bed ive heard :cool:.
     
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    I was 13 he was 16 and we were at my house my parents had gone shopping.

    Didn't hurt except the first few minutes then it felt great.

    He had about 8 inches if I remember right. It's been a few years.

    We had blood everywhere. He had to throw his T-Shirt away as it was covered in blood as the sheets. Glad Mom had tons of sheets so she didn't miss them.

    Gave him a blow job also. We had watched a porno flick before we did it. It was a weekly thing with him. I guess having a hung boy the first time has made me like big dicks every since.

    Married one and still hunt big ones for MFM.

    After the first time I knew I was going to like it. :tongue:
     
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