Do you believe that men and women should be treated the same under the law? (Notice I said the same not equal) Many activist and gay people accuse upstanding good people of being vile haters and bigots because they believe that marriage is defined as one man and one woman. The simplest defense of my stance on gay marriage is a response to gay activists claiming that their "struggle" is similar to the black struggle. Simply put, I do not believe there is a difference between men or women due to the color of their skin and they should be treated equally in life and under the law. But I do believe there are vast difference of men and women and our laws need to reflect that. It seems analogous to say that gay marriage is supporting the idea that there is no difference between men and women and therefore shouldnt all laws be gender neutral? This is obviously a philosophical question, but please do not make this all about gay marriage.