Repulsed with a SLEEZY X FUCK BUDDY????????

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  1. B_mylipswet

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    Has anyone ever felt so repulsed with your man's choice of an X fuck buddy that your actually turned-off by them? Geez my guy had relations with a real sleezy cheap girl who is obviously permiscuious with other guys. I'm really so turned off by her so much that I'm reluctant to let him near me. I don't have any STD's and I think she is dirty. Can anyone give me some tips on how to stop feeling this way.
     
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    Accept that everyone has a past. Accept the possibility that there may be something about you have in common with her. After all, you attracted the same man. The fact is, most of the universe is completely outside of your control. You have to control that which you can, but realize that your reach is highly limited, and you are forced to accept everything else at face value. If that proves easier said than done, perhaps it's time for you to go and get the whole gamut of STD testing together, as a couple.
     
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    Thank you for your honest and caring advice however, there is absolutely nothing that I would ever have in common with this girl.
     
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    hey I say don't fight the feeling...
     
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    Okay. I forgot one thing though. Make sure that you know what the problem really is. There is no reason for anyone in his past to threaten you at this point.

    If you're intimate, I'd hope you'd already know his STD status, and if you've been together exclusively for longer than three months, I'd hope you'd have revisited this subject and retested. Because of this, you'd know for an absolute that her past isn't going to impact your future. If you have that knowledge, you're not afraid of contracting anything from him. If you're not afraid of contracting anything from him, what's the real problem? That's a very important question, but you needn't give me the answer.
     
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    Thank you so very much for your advice it's genuinely appreciated and I feel better already.
     
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    fuck buddy-hence he didnt want a relationship...just his dick sucked.
    and she was easy add someone to do it. doesnt mean you two have anything in common, just means he needed a shag, we all have those dirty ex fuck buddies
     
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    So, I'm confused. Do you really think he has an STD, or are you just being jealous about his past.

    I am putting money on the latter, in which case, you are being immature.
     
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    My ex fuck buddy told me that he once had anal warts. I had to inform him that warts is a virus and that although not visible he still has them. I have not had sex with him since.
     
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    Your a genius! How did you know the details? Did he put you up to this? You are so sweet and I know thats true. That is the main reason it was not me. I turn my nose up until the bannana is RIPE! Only then is it time for me.
     
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    It's no fault of mine that your pockets are empty! You lost your bet young man.
     
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    unfortunatly, ive recently had a fuck buddy i would rather not brag about! never introduced to friends or family, just a "when times are hard" kind of thing lol
     
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    While I can understand being turned off by someone's choice of sexual partners, it's really something you need to weigh against your other emotions. You cannot control who he has been with. And just because she's acts slutty now, are you sure she did when he was having sex with her? One of my previous "fuck buddies" was far from "generally" slutty (she acted slutty to me, but I was also the only person she was having sex with ... and she didn't let that side of her show to others until after we parted ways) when I was with her, but I can't exactly say the same about her now. One of the things that I thought was so amusing when I was with her was that she was such a good, innocent girl to everyone else... and I felt like I knew her dirty little secret, that she was a freak. At the time, she really was a good girl (I'm hoping that, in a forum like this, there's a void of people who seriously think girls forfeit their "good" status if they decide to indulge in sex). I don't know what happened after I was done with her... I moved off to college, and now she's ... a little different. She's had one boyfriend (who she's still with, for some crazy reason...) since me... and she's cheated on him with ... i think she's over the 17-person mark now.

    Looking at her now, hell... I could completely understand if a girl wouldn't want to be associated with me based on the fact that I'd been with a girl like her..... but the simple truth is that, when I was playing around with her, she wasn't ... what she is now. So, consider that possibility.

    But that's not really the big issue....
    Disclaimer-- the following is very much a generalization, and very much based on stereotypes; I am not claiming to speak for all guys, and fully recognize that the content below will be highly contrasted to some guys.

    You have to understand that guys have very dirty minds. We grew up watching porn since before we could even cum, in many cases, and we have years and years of porn-induced fantasies rolling around in our heads-- fantasies we sometimes don't even feel right telling girls about. Fuck buddies are ... fuck buddies for a reason. They hold that distinction-- a distinction not indicative of emotional attachment --because they are not people we care about, or in some cases even like that much. Fuck buddies serve one purpose: sexual pleasure. Take a guy, with all of his perverted fantasies, and give him a slutty girl willing to fulfill them ... what do you expect? We only grew up our whole lives fantasizing about possibly ever experiencing the things going through our heads... so yeah, sluts can happen in our history. No, we don't set out to marry them... we let them serve their purpose. Sluts like sex and various different kinds of it; one of the ways sluts are distinguished is by a willingness to do things most "proper" and "classy" girls wouldn't. Guys have all of their fantasies surfing around in their heads.... it's a perfect match. A sleezy fuck buddy to carry out your fantasies, then move on.

    So there's a (very stereotypical, i know) little bit of explanation, if it helps at all. But as for advice, you just need to accept peoples' pasts. Or don't ask, if you can't handle it. You can't change the past, nor does it really concern you. If you're worried about STDs, then ask him to get tested. If you sincerely like the guy, than his sexual past shouldn't matter. It is his past, isn't it? He's not with her for a reason, whatever that may be; what's to say he didn't learn his lesson and move up the chain a little bit? Whatever the case may be, you're wasting your time relishing on it. So you don't like sleezy girls, okay, fine... accept that, move on. I think you'd be better off if you just sat down with yourself, chose an action, and commited to it. Relishing on the past isn't going to do anything. You have a choice to make: either accept it and move on, or accept that you can't accept his past, and ... move on. Either way, you need to move on, whether with it's him or without.

    Good luck...
     
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    I thought men were revered for having more sex with more women. :confused: This should be a good thing. Or do women actually not like men that can & will do anyone?
     
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    Really now, grow up.

    Your petty insult threads about me are hilarious. I gotta say though, you have one hell of an imagination and I'm slightly honoured that you start so many threads with me in mind.

    I'm not his "x fuck buddy" and I'm far from easy, cheap and sleezy. He's my boyfriend. He's in my shower right now.

    Just to clear up any misconceptions you're spreading about me in chat.
     
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    what the fucks going on here?...
     
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    Looks like we're going to have another new drama to entertain us....

    BTW....slutty fuck buddy does not necessarily equal STDs. Even slutty fuck buddies can use condoms...
     
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    lmao ... not saying that's true, but ... if it is ... one word: pwnd
     
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    jerry! Jerry! Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!
     
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    Wait, wait wait. Now all your threads make so much sense!


    • You say you're his secret
    • You say in a whole two years you've NEVER bedded him
    • You say a small-busted girl is envious of you
    • It turns out that (at the very least) during these two years at some point this small-busted woman HAS been bedding him regularly (and as recently as last night)
    • You have started no fewer (though possibly more) than ten pointed threads about the small-busted woman, who has not responded in kind
    • You send your petty friends to the small-busted woman's gallery to make rude comments
    Now I think I see. Now suddenly, it all appears connected. I don't really know either of you, and I haven't been active in chat since September. However, the circumstantial evidence lying around this site speaks poorly of you. To think I really wanted to help you figure this out.
     
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