Researchers list 237 reasons for sex

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  1. Principessa

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    Researchers list 237 reasons for sex

    AP Science Writer
    Published on: 08/01/07

    WASHINGTON — After exhaustively compiling a list of the 237 reasons why people have sex, researchers found that young men and women get intimate for mostly the same motivations. It's more about lust in the body than a love connection in the heart.

    College-aged men and women agree on their top reasons for having sex — they were attracted to the person, they wanted to experience physical pleasure and "it feels good," according to a peer-reviewed study in the August edition of Archives of Sexual Behavior. Twenty of the top 25 reasons given for having sex were the same for men and women.

    Expressing love and showing affection were in the top 10 for both men and women, but they did take a back seat to the clear No. 1: "I was attracted to the person."

    Researchers at the University of Texas spent five years and their own money to study the overlooked why behind sex while others were spending their time on the how.

    "It's refuted a lot of gender stereotypes ... that men only want sex for the physical pleasure and women want love," said University of Texas clinical psychology professor Cindy Meston, the study's co-author. "That's not what I came up with in my findings."

    Forget thinking that men are from Mars and women from Venus, "the more we look, the more we find similarity," said Dr. Irwin Goldstein, director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego. Goldstein, who wasn't part of Meston's study, said the Texas research made a lot of sense and adds to growing evidence that the vaunted differences in the genders may only be among people with sexual problems.

    Meston and colleague David Buss first questioned 444 men and women — ranging in age from 17 to 52 — to come up with a list of 237 distinct reasons people have sex. They ranged from "It's fun" which men ranked fourth and women ranked eighth to "I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease" which ranked on the bottom by women.
    Once they came up with that long list, Meston and Buss asked 1,549 college students taking psychology classes to rank the reasons on a one-to-five scale on how they applied to their experiences.

    "None of the gender differences are all that great," Meston said. "Men were more likely to be opportunistic towards having sex, so if sex were there and available they would jump on it, somewhat more so than women. Women were more likely to have sex because they felt they needed to please their partner."

    But this is among college students, when Meston conceded "hormones run rampant." She predicted huge differences when older groups of people are studied.

    Since her study came out Tuesday, people are coming up with new reasons to have sex.

    "Originally, I thought that we exhaustively compiled the list, but now I found that there should be some added," Meston said.

    Why isn't it feels good reason enough? :confused: :rolleyes:
  2. SpoiledPrincess

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    I always thought that women were from earth and men were from earth too, we both want the same things.
  3. Rugbypup

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    Im such a Martian it's untrue, lol
  4. burns1de

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    I see the Center For Figuring Out Really Obvious Shit is hard at work again.
  5. pavement

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    Depends on gravity at least
  6. SomeGuyOverThere

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    Hehehe, I wonder where "I thought they were a sweet person" ranks.

  7. B_Think_Kink

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  8. Rugbypup

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    New Zealand
  9. sargon20

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    I love the reasons. I don't think anyone could have thought them up.

    List of 237 reasons that motivate people to have sex

    1. I was "in the heat of the moment."
    2. It just happened.
    3. I was bored.
    4. It just seemed like "the thing to do."
    5. Someone dared me.
    6. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
    7. I wanted to feel closer to God.
    8. I wanted to gain acceptance from friends.
    9. It's exciting, adventurous.
    10. I wanted to make up after a fight.
    11. I wanted to get rid of aggression.
    12. I was under the influence of drugs.
    13. I wanted to try to get a better mate than my current mate.
    14. I wanted to express my love for the person.
    15. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
    16. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
    17. I felt like I owed it to the person.
    18. I was attracted to the person.
    19. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
    20. My friends were having sex and I wanted to fit in.
    21. It feels good.
    22. My partner kept insisting.
    23. The person was famous and I wanted to be able to say I had sex with him/her.
    24. I was physically forced to.
    25. I was verbally coerced into it.
    26. I wanted the person to love me.
    27. I wanted to have a child.
    28. I wanted to make someone else jealous.
    29. I wanted to have more sex than my friends.
    30. I was married and you're supposed to.
    31. I was tired of being a virgin.
    32. I was "horny."
    33. I wanted to feel loved.
    34. I was feeling lonely.
    35. Everyone else was having sex.
    36. I wanted the attention.
    37. It was easier to "go all the way" than to stop.
    38. I wanted to ensure the relationship was "committed."
    39. I was competing with someone else to "get the person."
    40. I wanted to "gain control" of the person.
    41. I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
    42. I was curious about sex.
    43. I wanted to feel attractive.
    44. I wanted to please my partner.
    45. I wanted to display submission.
    46. I wanted to release anxiety/stress
    47. I didn't know how to say "no."
    48. I felt like it was my duty.
    49. I wanted to end the relationship.
    50. My friends pressured me into it.
    51. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
    52. I wanted the experience.
    53. I felt obligated to.
    54. It's fun.
    55. I wanted to get even with someone (i.e., revenge).
    56. I wanted to be popular.
    57. It would get me gifts.
    58. I wanted to act out a fantasy.
    59. I hadn't had sex for a while.
    60. The person was "available."
    61. I didn't want to "lose" the person.
    62. I thought it would help "trap" a new partner.
    63. I wanted to capture someone else's mate.
    64. I felt sorry for the person.
    65. I wanted to feel powerful.
    66. I wanted to "possess" the person.
    67. I wanted to release tension.
    68. I wanted to feel good about myself.
    69. I was slumming.
    70. I felt rebellious.
    71. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
    72. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
    73. I wanted to be nice.
    74. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
    75. I wanted to feel young.
    76. I wanted to manipulate him/her into doing something for me.
    77. I wanted him/her to stop bugging me about sex.
    78. I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.
    79. I wanted the person to feel good about himself/herself.
    80. I didn't want to disappoint the person.
    81. I was trying to "get over" an earlier person/relationship.
    82. I wanted to reaffirm my sexual orientation.
    83. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
    84. I felt guilty.
    85. My hormones were out of control.
    86. It was the only way my partner would spend time with me.
    87. It became a habit.
    88. I wanted to keep my partner happy.
    89. I had no self-control.
    90. I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.
    91. I was afraid my partner would have an affair if I didn't have sex with him/her.
    92. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
    93. I wanted a "spiritual" experience.
    94. It was just part of the relationship "routine."
    95. I wanted to lose my inhibitions.
    96. I got "carried away."
    97. I needed another "notch on my belt."
    98. The person demanded that I have sex with him/her.
    99. The opportunity presented itself.
    100. I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex while stoned (e.g., on marijuana or some other drug).
    101. It's considered "taboo" by society.
    102. I wanted to increase the number of sex partners I had experienced.
    103. The person was too "hot" (sexy) to resist.
    104. I thought it would relax me.
    105. I thought it would make me feel healthy.
    106. I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
    107. I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with another person.
    108. I thought it would help me to fall asleep.
    109. I could brag to other people about my sexual experience.
    110. It would allow me to "get sex out of my system" so that I could focus on other things.
    111. I wanted to decrease my partner's desire to have sex with someone else.
    112. It would damage my reputation if I said "no."
    113. The other person was too physically attractive to resist.
    114. I wanted to celebrate something.
    115. I was seduced.
    116. I wanted to make the person feel better about herself/himself.
    117. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.
    118. I wanted to see whether sex with a different partner would feel different or better.
    119. I was mad at my partner, so I had sex with someone else.
    120. I wanted to fulfill a previous promise to my partner.
    121. It was expected of me.
    122. I wanted to keep my partner from straying.
    123. I wanted the pure pleasure.
    124. I wanted to dominate the other person.
    125. I wanted to make a conquest.
    126. I'm addicted to sex.
    127. It was a favor to someone.
    128. I wanted to be used or degraded.
    129. Someone offered me money to do it.
    130. I was drunk.
    131. It seemed like good exercise.
    132. I was pressured into doing it.
    133. The person offered to give me drugs for doing it.
    134. I was frustrated and needed relief.
    135. It was a romantic setting.
    136. I felt insecure.
    137. My regular partner is boring, so I had sex with someone else.
    138. I was on the "rebound" from another relationship.
    139. I wanted to boost my self-esteem
    140. I wanted to get my partner to stay with me.
    141. Because of a bet.
    142. It was a special occasion.
    143. It was the next step in the relationship.
    144. I wanted to get a special favor from someone.
    145. I wanted to get back at my partner for having cheated on me.
    146. I wanted to enhance my reputation.
    147. I wanted to keep warm.
    148. I wanted to punish myself.
    149. I wanted to break up a rival's relationship by having sex with his/her partner.
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    150. I wanted to stop my partners' nagging.
    151. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
    152. I wanted to brag to friends about my conquests.
    153. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
    154. I wanted to get a job.
    155. I wanted to get a raise.
    156. I wanted to get a promotion.
    157. I wanted to satisfy a compulsion.
    158. I wanted to make money.
    159. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
    160. I wanted to change the topic of conversation.
    161. I wanted to get out of doing something.
    162. I wanted to test my compatibility with a new partner.
    163. I wanted to get a partner to express love.
    164. I wanted to put passion back into my relationship.
    165. I wanted to prevent a breakup.
    166. I wanted to become one with another person.
    167. I wanted to get a favor from someone.
    168. I wanted to breakup my relationship.
    169. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease (e.g., herpes, AIDS).
    170. I wanted to breakup another's relationship.
    171. I wanted to avoid hurting someone's feelings.
    172. I wanted to make myself feel better about myself.
    173. I wanted to get rid of a headache.
    174. I was afraid to say "no" due to the possibility of physical harm.
    175. I wanted to keep my partner from straying.
    176. I wanted to burn calories.
    177. I wanted to even the score with a cheating partner.
    178. I wanted to hurt an enemy.
    179. I wanted to feel older.
    180. It is my genetic imperative.
    181. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
    182. I wanted to become more focused on work - sexual thoughts are distracting.
    183. I wanted to say "I've missed you."
    184. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
    185. I wanted to say "I'm sorry."
    186. I wanted to return a favor.
    187. I wanted to say "Thank You."
    188. I wanted to welcome someone home.
    189. I wanted to say "goodbye."
    190. I wanted to defy my parents.
    191. I wanted to relieve menstrual cramps.
    192. I wanted to relieve "blue balls."
    193. I wanted to get the most out of life.
    194. I wanted to feel feminine.
    195. I wanted to feel masculine.
    196. I am a sex addict.
    197. I wanted to see what all the fuss is about.
    198. I thought it would boost my social status.
    199. The person had a lot of money.
    200. The person's physical appearance turned me on.
    201. The person was a good dancer.
    202. Someone had told me that this person was good in bed.
    203. The person had beautiful eyes.
    204. The person made me feel sexy.
    205. An erotic movie had turned me on.
    206. The person had taken me out to an expensive dinner.
    207. The person was a good kisser.
    208. The person had bought me jewelry.
    209. The person had a great sense of humor.
    210. The person seemed self-confident.
    211. The person really desired me.
    212. The person was really desired by others.
    213. I wanted to gain access to that person's friend.
    214. I felt jealous.
    215. The person flattered me.
    216. I wanted to see if I could get the other person into bed.
    217. The person had a desirable body.
    218. I had not had sex in a long time.
    219. The person smelled nice.
    220. The person had an attractive face.
    221. I saw the person naked and could not resist.
    222. I was turned on by the sexual conversation.
    223. The person was intelligent.
    224. The person caressed me.
    225. The person wore revealing clothes.
    226. The person had too much to drink and I was able to take advantage of him/her.
    227. I knew the person was usually "out of my league."
    228. The person was mysterious.
    229. I realized I was in love.
    230. I wanted to forget about my problems.
    231. I wanted to reproduce.
    232. I/she was ovulating.
    233. I wanted my partner to notice me.
    234. I wanted to help my partner forget about his/her problems.
    235. I wanted to lift my partner's spirits.
    236. I wanted to submit to my partner.
    237. I wanted to make my partner feel powerful.
  11. whatireallywant

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    You know I love stuff that refutes gender stereotypes! :smile: I'm a big believer in "men are from Earth and women are from Earth".

    Most of my reasons have been "it feels good"... :redface: Also being attracted to the person helps! :biggrin1:
  12. TwasBrillig

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    I wonder what sex in zero gravity would be like. If you push does your partner fly away?
  13. marleyisalegend

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    Not if they gyrate into ur push.:tongue:
  14. whatireallywant

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    I've always wondered about that, too!
  15. Mr. Snakey

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    All ya need is one good reason. Hey what the fuck?:biggrin1:
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