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Is it possible to overcome differences in how a person is brought up?
Is it as simple as being white or black?
Does your family just ignore problems hoping they will go away if you don't confront them?
Or do you confront them to show them what you don't agree with?
Can these differences in upbringing be changed?
Should they?
Is it possible to show your lover or friend that you don't always have to deal with problems by screaming,name calling and breaking things or do you let them react or over react to even the most innocous questions or replies?
I have had to deal with all of these in some of my relationships with people. This doesn't just apply to your partner it could also be a family member or friend.
Many times I just have to walk away from the person because it just isn't worth the abuse or the aggravation to deal with them.
I find people telling me "you have no feelings!" this doesn't make me feel sorry for them. It is a way to try and make me feel guilty for my point of view though.:tongue:
I do empathise with them but not to the point where I can/will accept this behavior.
I would like to find a way to make those folks inclined to tantrums/bad behavior or ignorance see that others don't make them behave this way. They are in charge of what comes out of their mouths. While I certainly do contribute to how I say things, ultimately I am not responsible for their behavior or how they respond.
Anyone else run into these kind of problems? What do you find works best? Must you help these folk?
What say you LPSG?
cigarbabe:saevil:
Is it as simple as being white or black?
Does your family just ignore problems hoping they will go away if you don't confront them?
Or do you confront them to show them what you don't agree with?
Can these differences in upbringing be changed?
Should they?
Is it possible to show your lover or friend that you don't always have to deal with problems by screaming,name calling and breaking things or do you let them react or over react to even the most innocous questions or replies?
I have had to deal with all of these in some of my relationships with people. This doesn't just apply to your partner it could also be a family member or friend.
Many times I just have to walk away from the person because it just isn't worth the abuse or the aggravation to deal with them.
I find people telling me "you have no feelings!" this doesn't make me feel sorry for them. It is a way to try and make me feel guilty for my point of view though.:tongue:
I do empathise with them but not to the point where I can/will accept this behavior.
I would like to find a way to make those folks inclined to tantrums/bad behavior or ignorance see that others don't make them behave this way. They are in charge of what comes out of their mouths. While I certainly do contribute to how I say things, ultimately I am not responsible for their behavior or how they respond.
Anyone else run into these kind of problems? What do you find works best? Must you help these folk?
What say you LPSG?
cigarbabe:saevil: