Retarded or Delayed orgasm

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  1. Sirramm

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    For many years now I have SUFFERED with what is called "Retarded Orgasm" (Google it if you don't know what it is). But in a nutshell (pardon the pun), retarded orgasm is the inability to orgasm. I have literally gone a full weekend (Fri-Sun late evening) with not only a raging hardon but also not once having an orgasm while receiving direct and almost constant stimulation. I have seen countless Dr's regarding this issue as well as having an erection for almost 36 hours. As we know, or should know, an erection of a few hours can cause priapism (will not go down) and phlebitis (inflammation of blood vessels). Thankfully, I do not have to worry about these issues because my erections are “natural” vs. chemical or mechanical. However this ‘condition’ has pretty much caused me relationships! My ex-wife and I after several years of marriage and frustration got into swinging. Once she saw me with other women and realized it wasn’t her but ME she sort of relaxed some.
    Now with another woman the same issues have arisen (again pardon the pun) and now she’s getting frustrated and thinking it’s her! Am I the only one like this?!?!!?????
     
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    I read that thread...you're in the same boat as far as I'm concerned just maybe not the extent I am. I've gotten oral from two girls and even a guy who SWORE he could do it since the two girls didn't/couldn't and even he failed.

    Honestly this is so frustrating that I'm at my wits ends. How many other guys suffer from the same issue? How many have stayed quite? The average porn star must last 88 minutes to get paid and complete the scene...hell at my rate they'd run out of film before I offered up the "money shot"!!!!!

     
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    I have the same issue although it doesn't seem too be to the extent that you have as I can have an orgasm it just take a REALLY long time ( sometime a couple hours) It gets really frustrating and can definitely create problems like you said.. Unfortunately, I don't have any answers for ya but I definitely don't think we're the only ones experiencing this
     
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    i find sometimes if i try and hold back my orgasm for an extend period of time it makes it a lot harder for me to cum when the time comes if not imposable
     
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    I take a long time to orgasm myself. Sometimes I just give up and sometimes I have been told to "please stop". Sometimes it helps to quit and then try again later. It is very frustrating. I have never had a "quickie". Multiple orgasms are almost out of the question. I have a long refractory period also. I do remember having 1 or 2 multiples but very rare. I really don't know why they happened either.
     
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    do you cum when you jack off?
     
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    I can cum when jerking off but it takes a very long time! And usually I end up just giving up because it is just way to frustrating. However because I know I can't/won't cum when playing with myself I tend to avoid it and ONLY do it every now and again.

    Of course when attending some of the swing parties, past and present, I last all night/weekend and usually end up leaving without having an orgasm. I can maintain a FULL erection for hours on end. I read recently that the average porn star has to maintain an erection and not cum for on average 88 mins in order to complete the scene and get paid. Hell I'd take that time frame considering I've gone over 5000 mins not only hard but NOT having an orgasm!!!
     
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