Return of The Ex - Reasons?

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Thanks peeps. Nice to have advice from a peer (Lucky8).

I'll concentrate my energies elsewhere...starting with bed!

Italian: she often says I'm amazing in bed, etc although it could be a ploy. But it could very well be wishful thinking. She's just so hot and smells sooooo sexy. And she has this satin dressing gown............................................
 

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For Gods sake suck it up, be a man and find a back bone!!!
This little cow is on a power trip making sure you can't and don't forget about her.
It's about how many men are in love with her.
Move on and don't look back.
 

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It is funny you should ask that question. Over the holidays, I was contacted by two of my exes. These guys both dumped me.

They were lonely and wanted to know what I was doing. :rolleyes:

I don't fuck the exes that dumped me for other people or really made my life difficult in loving them.

The thing is the way I see it. If you love someone right. Something happens you have to break up, and the reasons for breaking up aren't severe but neutral. Neutral like: going off to school. Having to go into active duty. Taking care of a sick family member. Scenarios like that. I can see rekindling. Picking up things where things were left off.

But if the break up was shitty, you can forget about making up.

 

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I'll make this quick (how many times have I said that before? :rolleyes:).

When an ex contacts you out of the blue - why is that? Are they feeling low and want to be told how pretty/wanted they are? :confused:

I suppose its my own fault for responding. But she's so shiny...(apparently she's happily engaged/in a relationship with an incredibly youthful and studly piece of manly ass. Hehe.)

They want you to fuck them. I've always respected the ex's that are honst enough to just be up front about it. But, without fail, at least when it comes to the singles ones, they want a relationship again.
 

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I'll make this quick (how many times have I said that before? :rolleyes:).
When an ex contacts you out of the blue - why is that? They are desperate and horny. Are they feeling low and want to be told how pretty/wanted they are? :confused: Maybe that's it for some. I've never done this so I don't know. :cool:

I suppose its my own fault for responding. But she's so shiny... (apparently she's happily engaged/in a relationship with an incredibly youthful and studly piece of manly ass. Hehe.)
What the heck does 'shiny' mean for those of us across the pond?

They want to have their cake and eat it, they don't really want you but they want to make sure no one else is having you - in short they want to make sure you're still pining for them.
I've had two ex-boyfriends do that and it is exasperatingly annoying to me. :headache:


I thought so. I had deleted her number and I think she text me before now but I deleted it cos I didn't know the number. But tonight I was alone and I've got a swollen foot and headache...Had a feeling it was her too.

She said she just wanted to see how I was doing. Asked if my (female) 'friend' was fit...told me she's happily in a relationship then said night...she might just want to see how I'm doing?

Why is your foot swollen? She missed your voice and perhaps she remembers the great sex too. Doesn't mean she wants to date you again. It may just mean she wants your cock.
 

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She's checking to make sure she still has you wrapped around her finger so that she feels even more desired and attractive than she would if it were just her fiancee. If you'd rather not bother, simply don't respond.

If you want to sleep with her, though, you need to make a point of showing that you're happily over her. What did you reply in your text? If you haven't replied yet, say something to the effect of, "Good to hear from you! I didn't know you still missed me!" That will turn the tables on her -- instead of getting the validation she wanted, you've painted her as the desperate one. She'll most likely respond by insisting she doesn't miss you, but keep teasing her about it just to the point where you think she'll get angry. And keep this all in text format -- it's a lot easier to be cockily teasing when it's all in text instead of on the phone, where your tone of voice can give you away.

When you think you've primed the pump, offer to meet her at a bar to "give her a chance to get over you in person." Since you've been acting aloof and disinterested, in theory this will make her want to prove her attractiveness to herself and her power over you, so she may respond well to you seducing her.

Please note: this probably won't work. But it's your best chance at sleeping with her if you'd like to get back at her for "messing you about," as you put it. Juvenile? Sure. But she's the one who started playing games by contacting you in the first place, so I wouldn't blame you for finishing them.
 

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I have noticed this with most if not all of my former lovers. They all act according to a cycle. After a break up, or the last time we fuck, we don't speak for a long time. But about a year later they will call out of the blue, or somehow creep back into my life. I also notice this cycle within myself.

Coincidentally, after this year or so, I start thinking about that person again. Wondering how I could get up in it again, or why did I stop hitting that, and then all of a sudden they make contact again. Maybe it has to do with the weather. When I see the leaves falling off the trees again it reminds me of past lovers during the fall. Or when the weather turns warm in the spring and your testosterone starts to kick in, and that spring smell of life fills the air, it triggers feelings, emotions, and memories of past lovers during that time.

Sometimes this pattern works on a multiple year scale as well, but they ALWAYs come back around, for whatever reason. Maybe it is so simple as environmental cues reminding them of you or firing off some neurons that chemically get them in You-mode. It is interesting, and otherwise completely unexplainable that they would want to come back into my life, because if I would try to make contact with them before this cyclical cycle comes round again, it wouldn't work. Most likely they left me on bad terms and don't want to speak to me. But then the time comes and the cues kick in, and its just right.

Even when i give advice to my young peoples who may be bummed out about a chick or whatever, I tell them, don't sweat it kid, she will be back. And like the fall, they always come back.

Or maybe she just loves the dick man!.
 

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Okay people: I agree.

FYI, my foot is swollen either because of the shoes I've been wearing (fashionable, they may be, comfortable - they are not). Or maybe I landed funny when I was skipping like Rocky Balboa :rolleyes:. I'm actually going to make a thread about it because its affecting my ability to walk.