Last night I got a phone call from my very first love, way back in high school. She's going to be in town for a week on business right after the 4th of July, and wanted to get together.
Normally this wouldn't be such a big thing, as we've stayed in touch pretty regularly over the years, and it'd be wierd if we didn't get together (we live on opposite coasts). But there ARE complications--of course, if there weren't I wouldn't be writing this post to you folks right now. First, over the years, whenever we've gotten together, it always has wound up with more than just dinner and a good conversation. This has happened 4 times now, but our lives were such that it never went further than a few nights together again. I wouldn't mind making it a fifth time reuniting, except that she's now married to what sounds like a great guy and has a beautiful son. I do hold her in a special place in my heart, and don't want to mess things up with the happy life which she's now leading. So, while I'd jump at the chance to spend some time talking together face-to-face as friends, I'm a bit afraid of it leading to something beyond. I know I can hold off from making any amorous advances towards her, but not so sure how I'd respond if she made any towards me, and that scares me a little.
It's funny; I have no problems hooking up with other married women who are just looking for sex, but in this situation, I wouldn't want to do anything which might jeopardize her current relationship with her husband--mainly because I do care so much about her as one who I did truly love once.
Any words from the wise here?
Normally this wouldn't be such a big thing, as we've stayed in touch pretty regularly over the years, and it'd be wierd if we didn't get together (we live on opposite coasts). But there ARE complications--of course, if there weren't I wouldn't be writing this post to you folks right now. First, over the years, whenever we've gotten together, it always has wound up with more than just dinner and a good conversation. This has happened 4 times now, but our lives were such that it never went further than a few nights together again. I wouldn't mind making it a fifth time reuniting, except that she's now married to what sounds like a great guy and has a beautiful son. I do hold her in a special place in my heart, and don't want to mess things up with the happy life which she's now leading. So, while I'd jump at the chance to spend some time talking together face-to-face as friends, I'm a bit afraid of it leading to something beyond. I know I can hold off from making any amorous advances towards her, but not so sure how I'd respond if she made any towards me, and that scares me a little.
It's funny; I have no problems hooking up with other married women who are just looking for sex, but in this situation, I wouldn't want to do anything which might jeopardize her current relationship with her husband--mainly because I do care so much about her as one who I did truly love once.
Any words from the wise here?