Yesterday I was chatting on gay.com in the room for Washington, DC. A guy (http://gay.com/personals/profile/view.html?name=anonymssex) wrote in the main room: "Hey fellas, I am not black/I am a white/Latin mix".
I asked, "What does that mean?"
He wrote, "I keep getting asked that question [if I'm a Black guy]".
I wrote, "Sorry for the confusion and burden."
I read his profile and right at the top it say, "10 inches thick . . . any takers".
So, the chatters in the room were reading his profile and since he didn't list his race, they assumed that he was a Black guy and wanted to know his race.
I copied what he wrote and pasted it in the room called "Men of Color". There was no response and no outrage at his comment.
My outrage: The lesson that LPSG.org teaches is that race almost certainly has nothing to do with the size of a man's penis. Is it too much to ask that in the 21st century, guys STOP assuming that if one is a Black man that he is well-endowed?! Penises come (giggling) in all sorts of sizes and colors. I just wish that the men in gay.com would STOP thinking that "if it's big, it must be Black". And why weren't the other men of color outraged?!
Were the chatters making race inquiries because race DOES matter to them?
I have said it once and I've said it a zillion times, "We are attracted to the people we are attracted to and there is nothing wrong with going with our feelings. It does become wrong when a community that has been discriminated against, lost custody of their children, lost jobs, and been denied housing, doesn't team EVERY member of its community with respect and courtesy. If someone is not interested in me because of my race--that's cool. It's not cool to stereotype, belittle, berate, or dismiss out of hand members of the community.
Thanks for allowing me to get this off my chest.
I asked, "What does that mean?"
He wrote, "I keep getting asked that question [if I'm a Black guy]".
I wrote, "Sorry for the confusion and burden."
I read his profile and right at the top it say, "10 inches thick . . . any takers".
So, the chatters in the room were reading his profile and since he didn't list his race, they assumed that he was a Black guy and wanted to know his race.
I copied what he wrote and pasted it in the room called "Men of Color". There was no response and no outrage at his comment.
My outrage: The lesson that LPSG.org teaches is that race almost certainly has nothing to do with the size of a man's penis. Is it too much to ask that in the 21st century, guys STOP assuming that if one is a Black man that he is well-endowed?! Penises come (giggling) in all sorts of sizes and colors. I just wish that the men in gay.com would STOP thinking that "if it's big, it must be Black". And why weren't the other men of color outraged?!
Were the chatters making race inquiries because race DOES matter to them?
I have said it once and I've said it a zillion times, "We are attracted to the people we are attracted to and there is nothing wrong with going with our feelings. It does become wrong when a community that has been discriminated against, lost custody of their children, lost jobs, and been denied housing, doesn't team EVERY member of its community with respect and courtesy. If someone is not interested in me because of my race--that's cool. It's not cool to stereotype, belittle, berate, or dismiss out of hand members of the community.
Thanks for allowing me to get this off my chest.