sorry for the weird story, but had to let it out somewhere. i share an apartment with someone i have known for about 10 years. up to this point, i assumed he was totally straight. it doesn't matter, but am a little confused by some recent behavior. two things about him. he hates cold (i can relate) and he hates being alone. like he wont go to mcdonalds or whatever by himself to grab a burger and coke etc. he has a girlfriend, but he shacks up with other girls alot. i have not really asked what is up. none of my business. maybe they are not committed. i dont know. or maybe he is just a player. recently, since it is winter, he has come into my bedroom several times as i was dosing off and asked if he could sleep with me. his br is indeed pretty cold. for some reason, the heating system seems to carry alot more heat into my room versus his. we checked the vents, they are wide open there. anyway, when he sleeps with me, this supposed totally straight guy turns into a great big cuddle type. i dont notice it during the night since i sleep like a rock. but when morning rolls around, his hand is either down deep into downtown underwear or on my underarm (i have warm and hairy pits) so i shrugged it off as "he was just finding a warm spot during the night and had no idea". he also often has his head on my chest. i have slept with other guys before and this never happened. sleepovers in high school. sharing a bed during a beach trip. stuff like that. does this guy have hidden desires or just someone that moves around alot in his sleep looking for warm spots. second clue. the phone rings the other day and he answers. it is a call for me and i am still in bed. our phone is an old cordless type. so he comes into the bedroom to give me the call. before he wakes me up, and i am partially there even though he doesn't know it, i feel a hand lightly running up and down my morning bone. the blankets were off and apparently i was pitching a tent in my underwear. i am sorta bi and he knows it. i know, that is like being lightly pregnant. still trying to figure things out so dont yell at me. i told him once i had been with guys before and his reaction was like "thats gross, but do what you want". hence the confusion. my guess is that he is curious, but i feel uncomfortable bringing it up. the sleep thing happens about 2-3 times a month. when he doesnt have some ho over for the night.