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    this is my first year of college, so im barely getting used to the whole atmosphere and stuff, anyways when i was in the shower i decided to wank, since there was no one there, and like at about 15 minutes my roommate comes in i just stood there and he said that it was cool, that everyone did it, they just didnt admit it, so we started talking about girls, partys, about which classes were easy, wich teacher had the better ass, football and shit like that. then we just stood quiet for a while, and he started to stroke his dick and got a semi, by then i was hurrying to finish up, as i was leaving he asked me if i wanted to join him, i just ran out off there, i mean i just met the guy, and hes asking me to do this kind of shit? WTF?
     
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    Many guys like to jack with other guys. Doesn't make them gay. It's a bonding experience.

    College is a time of broadening horizons. Join in, might be fun :veryhappy:.

    If, however, you have zero inclination to do this. Just let him know and tell him you like to masturbate in private.
     
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    i mean i have done it before with my friends but i have known them since i was a little kid, but its just that i barely know the guy and he just sujested it like if it was normal to him to ask a guy hey u wanna jack off with me but i have to know someone before even thinking of tryin anything like that
     
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    My friend, jason_els is quite right. There's no reason to be upset. Clearly, this fellow is more relaxed with the situation and was simply trying to put you at ease. After all, you felt uncomfortable when he first saw you. He, in all likelihood, simply wanted you to know that he wasn't just "blowing smoke" about how everybody does it.

    And, since you and he are likely to be spending time in proximity to one another, it seems to me that he was just being honest. As you know, there's not nearly enough of that going around today.
     
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    THIS IS THE PERFECT ANSWER!!!!! AND...don't tell anyone ...just keep this between you two. Dorms are a meca of gossip
     
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    i guess, i asked him if he was gay just to make sure, he said he was straight, but that he thought that it would be OK to j/o with me since he caught me doing it but lets just see what happens
     
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    You've already gotten good advice here, but wondering about a few things myself....

    Is he a returning student or is he a freshman too?

    Is this a dorm or an apartment full of a few guys?
     
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    It seems to me you set him up. In your situation, the shower area is considered more public than private. If any "official" person found you, you'd be cited for lewd behavior in a public place.

    If you don't want him to come on to you, keep it in a private, not public place.
     
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    I have to agree with all the replies.

    There is nothing wrong with what you were doing, but when he walked in on, if you felt uncomfortable, you should have said...I'll be out in a minute and then you can come in." But, you didn't do that. As I read it, you continued your wanking, finished up (maybe you meant your shower, but I took it that you finished your wanking).....all the time the two of you carried on a "jock type" conversation of mundane interests to pass the time and to try to ccver up your embarassment. Now really! come on!

    He may have (although declaring himself straight) gotten the wrong
    impression that you were completely comfortable with the quick familiarity of the situation. You didn't tell him to leave, but in a way incouraged him to stay. He probably had, at some time or other been involved in a circle jerk, and assumed, due to your casual attitude and acceptance of the event, or gotten the idea that you were inviting him to join in the fun. It is not unusual for young men to circle jerk...I've participated in a number of them at school and you yourself admitten you had too. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you led him on intentionally, but I do think that was the case. When I was in college and had this happened to me, I probably would have gotten the same impression that he did.

    Since the both of you have declared yourselves to be 100&#37; straight, and
    assuming that you will continue to be rommates, I would probably turn it into a joke and at some appropriate time, say "Boy, the other day sure was embarrassing, wasn't it? Ha! Ha! I wasn't expecting to be caught doing
    what's' natura!" And leave it at that. Should you be in the same situation and want to do it (you said you have), then take it from there.

    No big deal, HungDaddy! It has happened in schools before and it will happen again.

    Hope everything works out for you both.
     
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    hey look at it this way, you've now got the awkward bit out of the way - if you want to jerk off with him just do it, dont worry that you've just met him.

    As jason, wanking with other guys is often a bonding experience, and you're gonna be living with this guy in close quarters for the next year or so, so at least if you bond a little, and get comfortable with each other you're not gonna have to worry when you're horny and need to rub one out, you will know u can just do it.
     
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    Remember, you are living in the dorms. Privacy in many ways is a thing of the past. Jerking off being one of those privacy things. I'm not saying that the whole floor get together once a week for poker and circle jerking in the shower, but if you have a straight buddy who is OK with that sitch, don't sweat it. Either that or be prepared to go find a park bathroom to take care of the need in.

    College is a whole different way of life. Everything high school was isn't in college. Be open, aware, and give your roommate the benefit of the doubt. He obviously trusts you. I know I wouldn't stroke one out in front of someone I didn't trust in that sitch. And if he was going to try anything, don't you think he would have done it already?

    You're OK and so is he. Just get used to the new rules and enjoy your freedom at college.
     
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    You've gotten some excellent advice here. My observations:

    I, too, took it that you finished wanking with him standing there. That's pretty much an invitation, don't you think? Most guys would quickly cover up, excuse themselves, and go somewhere else. The way you handled it told the guy you were perfectly cool and ok with it. It doesn't have to happen again unless you want it to. I agree with all the others: don't freak out, have the experience and see what you think. College is all about experiencing new things, exploring new territory, breaking your parents' and high school friends' boundaries and establishing your own. If you do jerk with him a couple of times and decide it's not to your liking, you can handle your wank sessions a different way and no harm/no foul.

    I wanked in the closet (literally) my entire freshman year. My roommate was a heavy sleeper; he was a hyperreligious dork with whom I had nothing in common and whom I really didn't even like. I'd come in from the (community) shower room, go in the closet to get dressed (ostensibly so as not to disturb him) and go at it. Every morning. For a year.

    I'd have loved (hell, I'd love to have NOW) to have a jack-off buddy, but that never worked out with any of my roommates. It would have been much easier to just whip it out in the room rather than sneak around.

    Unless you want to play, I'd advise against j/o (unless it's 4:00 am or something) in any "public" place, meaning bathroom w/o door locked, shower room, etc. Trust me, if the need is great, there are "secluded" bathrooms all over campus. I used one that was the bathroom for the balcony of the main campus auditorium/hall. It was open all the time because the practice rooms for music dept were in the basement. Nobody ever went to the balcony unless there was a function in there, and I jacked off countless times in that bathroom.

    There was a bridge over a small creek on campus (all concrete and there was a concrete sidewalk underneath) and I (and a whole lot of other people) used it to "get private" with a "significant other" (you open your coat, he/she opens his/hers, and you are nicely covered while doing interesting things.

    You do have to understand that, in going to college, any privacy you enjoyed at home is all the way gone. Your roommates will, in no particular order:

    1. Consume all your consumables. Cookies from Mom, gallon of milk you bought with your last couple of bucks, any booze you might have, any cigarettes you might have, any grass you might have---all are considered "fair game" by roommates.

    2. Listen to any/all of your phone conversations and offer helpful advice on any and all of your issues, including any conversations with significant others. If you have any "lovey-dovey" conversations with a significant other, for God's sake don't let them hear you or you'll never hear the end of it.

    3. Read your mail, look at your checkbook, use your computer, wear your clothes (if the same size as you).

    4. Fall into one of two categories: Either they will leave their dirty underwear, jox, sox, used condoms, half-eaten food, etc. all over the room/general area, to be cleaned up only when the stench exceeds max tolerance levels, OR they will be SUPERNEATFREAKS. Had one roommate who had all of his clothes organized by color (white shirts here, blue here, khaki pants here, jeans here), all hung on hangers EXACTLY 2 inches apart, and made his bed with hospital corners every morning and you could bounce a quarter off his bed. His shoes were perfectly shined and organized, his tennis shoes never were dirty, and there was not a speck of dust anywhere. Too bad he lived with the three of us, who fell into the first category...drove him insane.

    5. Invariably be the opposite of you. If you are a night owl (like me), you will have at least one roommate who bounds out of bed as the sun is rising and the birdies are chirping, with a smile on his lips and a song in his heart to greet the new day, and cannot understand why you are so surly and sleepy. If you are a morning guy, your roommate will be dragging in at all hours, waking you up, turning on lights, bringing friends home, etc.

    6. Steal your dates. This one is the most problematic.

    Ah, college.
     
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    I have no advice to offer, the others who posted before me had said all, and more that I could offer.

    I have only one point to raise. I was confused when I read your experience and looked at your handle, HungDaddy. Somehow, in my books, the juxtaposition of "college" and "daddy" sort screams "oxymoron".
     
  15. D_ohdarnit

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    yeah every one pretty much said it to you, chill, relax try it if u dont like it then find a better place and time to jack off, if u do then enjoy it he probably wanted to be friends, not just roommates, so go have fun
     
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    gotta love all that horny blushing innocence lol
     
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    Look, if younjust know the guy...why the hell will you j/o with him!!! I would have freaked out already...good luck with the guy; just take it easy... maybe it was normal for him....
     
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    I can say my freshman year in college was the worst. We hated each other. He went so far as to put a sheet accross the room and told me I could not go on his side and he would respect my side. So I told him, well the door is on my side, and when you need to go to class, you are more than welcome to use the window ( we were on the 3rd floor).
     
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