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I was sent over to this site by a friend who said someone on here might be able to help with my situation.

I am a 34 y.o. straight male with an above average "gift" you might say. I recently moved back home for a new job and started living with a friend of a friend for a roommate to save some money, etc.

Now, I generally really like my roommate, but there has been one thing that has been awkward. Turns out this guy is a prude. I mean, I haven't even seen him without a shirt on in six months.

I was raised in an open environment, so not being able to walk around in my boxers or jerk off in my room with someone else in the house is a very foreign concept.

Any ideas on how to break the ice, or should I just live the way I want and say whatever? I'm not looking for a jerk off buddy or someone to run train with, I just hate feeling like I have to be clothed all the time and not be able to joke about things that I can talk about with any of my other friends.

I'm open to suggestions.

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If you are paying rent, then you should feel free to do what you want to do within the privacy of your own space. That means your bedroom if your roommate is home, or the entire house if your roommate is not there. When you say it's been awkward, I assume you are modifying your normal behavoir to be more acceptable to him. This is normal. I would do the same thing if I were roommates with someone.

I say you should live the way you want within reason, ie, in your room or when he is not there. Make it clear that when you are in your room and the door is closed that it is private. You could try to talk to him, but without knowing him or you, who can say how it would go? If it's a temporary solution why not just put up with it until you get your own place and can feel more at ease.
 

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By all means, go around in your boxers if you feel like it. I don't think that's shocking, and you shouldn't have to entirely adapt to his own ideas of propriety. You might want to avoid jerking off on the living room couch to gangbang porn if you think he might be coming back soon. But feel free to do it in your room. As far as being able to tell jokes... is it a roommate or a friend? They are not always the same.
 

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He's a prude because he doesn't walk around with his shirt off? With all due respect, I don't like to either but I wouldn't consider myself a prude because of it. It's not cuz I'm shy; I definitely don't have anything I'm embarrassed of, but just like you grew up in an 'open' environment, I grew up in a conservative one. I built a good physique to be healthy, not so much to intimidate others and show off like other guys do. It's just a matter of manners for me (especially if I never knew you before you moved in). Unless he blatantly gave you a dirty look or asked you to put some clothes on, I would just be myself. It sounds like you 2 barely talk. Maybe try going out for dinner or something to break the ice and get to know one another.

I don't quite understand the concept of not being able to jerk off in your room though with him in the house. Is that against the rules too? lol. It's not like he's spying on you through the keyhole haha.
 

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I am a 34 y.o. straight male with an above average "gift"............................................

I was raised in an open environment, so not being able to walk around in my boxers or jerk off in my room with someone else in the house is a very foreign concept.






Sort of sounds like you have a small problem Matey
No offence but
why should it bother you as to what he does, (seems you are invited into his place) or indeed why does it concern you that he may know, you are in your room Jo'ing

Legitimate Questions btw?
(if you have phrased it incorrectly, i will understand, i am notorious for that?)
 

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About two years ago, a guy I barely knew--friend of a friend--straight--was suddenly relocated to Houston (no notice at all from his company). He needed a place to stay, I had a big house alone--friend asked if the buddy could rent a room for a while till he got his bearings, I said sure.

We became good friends, very platonic, talked about sports, news of the day, his relocation traumas (I was recently finished with my own relocation traumas and could relate).

We didn't walk around the house naked. We did occasionally walk around in our boxers, mostly at night before retiring.

I went in my bedroom, locked the door, and masturbated away. Wireless internet, ain't it a great thing?

I don't know what he did behind his door for the 6 months he was here, because he didn't bother me and I didn't bother him.

I would probably not have been thrilled had he walked around nude. I'm certainly no prude, and when I'm alone (as I have been since he moved out 2 years ago), I'm nude or in underwear 99% of the time when I'm home. I just don't see the need to do it in front of others when I can throw on a pair of shorts and a t-shirt, and expect the same from them.

It's just courtesy.