Rough versus gentle

[Exbiker]

I really like rough sex. I'm usually top, but I even like it that way as bottom. Seems more real, honest somehow..,

If a cock is more or less forced into an anus it feels really good. Fast deep string pounding feels good too.

I know not everyone feels like that. For some it's more soft, gentle, romantic.

But I'm sure that natural human sexuality - before culture and mythology took over - must be quite aggressive and rough ...

What do you think? Which way do you think we are built for? Do you vary style depending on mood, or who you are with?

 

[keenobserver]

I really like rough sex. I'm usually top, but I even like it that way as bottom. Seems more real, honest somehow..,

If a cock is more or less forced into an anus it feels really good. Fast deep string pounding feels good too.

I know not everyone feels like that. For some it's more soft, gentle, romantic.

But I'm sure that natural human sexuality - before culture and mythology took over - must be quite aggressive and rough ...

What do you think? Which way do you think we are built for? Do you vary style depending on mood, or who you are with?

I like aggressive, sometimes rough sex. Of course we make a distinction between that and rape or any other behavior that forces people into uncomfortable situations. I can and do go for gentle, romantic encounters, but aggressive / rough is what I am looking for when I'm out looking. I seem to thrive on dominance and being the controlling factor in how a hook up plays out (within the limits agreed on). I have always been that way - my earliest encounters were risky, edgy and limit pushing. I agree that sexuality originally had more of an edge to it than conventional wisdom today would suggest. I don't think we want to go back to knocking people on the head and dragging them back to the cave, but I think a balance that respects and honors our passions is a good thing. A rough edge, to me highlights every emotion, every nerve. It is hard to feel more alive.

 

[Fanon]

I really like rough sex. I'm usually top, but I even like it that way as bottom. Seems more real, honest somehow..,

If a cock is more or less forced into an anus it feels really good. Fast deep string pounding feels good too.

I know not everyone feels like that. For some it's more soft, gentle, romantic.

But I'm sure that natural human sexuality - before culture and mythology took over - must be quite aggressive and rough ...

What do you think? Which way do you think we are built for? Do you vary style depending on mood, or who you are with?

I can't speak for anyone, but my hole was built for rough sex. It loves to be punished. Lol I like gentle sex too as it has it's place. But I found that it's best I let the top choose. If he's not the rough type then I'll follow his lead...as long as I cum I'm a happy camper.

 

[alcor972]

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I prefer being a gentle guy... and so do I expect to my partner...
Indeed I think that a sex encounter is a confrontation... a clash between my manhood and his... lol...
Nevertheless... a sex encounter is not a fight... lol
That's why I think that the setting of dominance and submission is not bound to roughness and physical strength... but to sensations produced by the way we perceive the other guy...
Actually... I'm so shy and generally so unsure of myself... that I can't just adopt a rough attitude... and surprisingly this trait or weakness in my behaviour doesn't prevent me to be often the dominant pole of the pair...
It is therefore the proof that other mechanisms than just the agressivity play an important role in the encounter...
I like compare my encounters to a predator/prey game in wich we reverse alternatively the roles... It's a dialogue in wich each of us takes his turn in order to let his manhood expressing itself... until one of us finally decide to let the other being the leader of the encounter...
So...I prefer letting the things going and see what happens... without trying to lead the encounter toward this or that direction...

 

[ianmars]

I like slow, sloppy wet blowjobs and a deep and rough fuck.

 

[TheEnergizerBunny]

There are definitely times where it's just like, all I want as a bottom is to be fucked and pounded hard, and other times where I want to feel like I'm being made love with and it be gentle but still have a pace to it. And when I top, it's the same. Sometimes I just want to pound his hole, other times I want to be gentle with it. All depends on the mood. Although I will say, I cum significantly faster through a rough fuck than I do a gentle fuck.

 

[BBB2.5]

For me being a total bottom.. I like it all... start off gentle, building up to rough pounding , balls slamming and ease off to the gentler side, then speed back up. Makes for a more enjoyable fuck.

 

[LeftCoast]

I don't want sex to be painful, but aggressive and intense is a definite plus. We call it "excited" for a reason...

 

[fbneros]

I'm bottom. And I like a nice gentle sex.

 

[erpap]

Being a bottom I like it hard and rough but of course at times gentle is nice too.

 

[Hockeytiger]

For the most part, I prefer gentle as I get off on the connection between myself and my partner. When going rough I tend to mentally withdraw into myself and focus on the fucking but that diminishes the connection and thus, I enjoy it less. However, every once in a while I like it pretty rough, but that is the exception rather than the rule.

 

[622675]

I am not a bottom but have done it all (so far as I know). Given the choice, I much prefer oral as it is more controlled yet can show real inventiveness along with passion and sexual reward.

As a top, I can really identify with the pleasure of being totally in the moment and banging away. But if I am “really there” with all the animal excitement flowing and positive reinforcements from my partner, it is going to be a short ride for both of us.

I have never understood how a “power top” can really be getting that much out of what he is doing and still take so long to reach orgasm.

 

[keenobserver]

I have never understood how a “power top” can really be getting that much out of what he is doing and still take so long to reach orgasm.

Practice, practice, practice.

 

[Auggiecakes]

My body is my home, I worked a lot on creating a warm comfortable environment and I don't want the wrong person tracking in dirt on my white carpet or trying to jam an ugly second hand couch through the front door or back for that matter. You have to be invited in. Have some wine and light a fire, compliment the decor and kiss me as we cradle each other. Don't slam my door and don't race up my driveway. Let me be the place you call home. I'm not a dive bar or the parking lot behind Burger King. I'm the little bungalow you weren't looking for but found by chance, The one with charm and funny stories. Love me, take care of me and I promise you, will never be out in the cold.

A bit over the top but it's the best answer I can give.

 

[love2compare]

i want my bottom to feel great... therefore, i listen to his reactions, try to read his motions and how he breathes... i would always want it to be a passionate time together and whisper horny things into his ears while i bite him softly around his neck or ears, hold his head, hair etc...... if i feel he wants more in any way i just add some motions or swings... and try to go deeper or to other places inside, to hisinner front side... try to make him feel the most possible of my average dick, give him a sensual ride or give him more thrusts if i see that he needs it... but if you can't read his motions just ask

 

[shad282]

I really like rough sex. I'm usually top, but I even like it that way as bottom. Seems more real, honest somehow..,

If a cock is more or less forced into an anus it feels really good. Fast deep string pounding feels good too.

I know not everyone feels like that. For some it's more soft, gentle, romantic.

But I'm sure that natural human sexuality - before culture and mythology took over - must be quite aggressive and rough ...

What do you think? Which way do you think we are built for? Do you vary style depending on mood, or who you are with?

I will give you a more psychosociological answer with my not so good English.
before culture and mythology.. it was a spiritual act of respect and connection on many levels, and it was sensual and more passionate, also it can be seen in animals, they are not aggressive or rough, they form a dance of connection.
and that is all before the patriarchal society which is a system of society or government controlled by men, it was the culture of men where each man had a lot of women in his house and they used women as a mean to an end and didn't care about a connection or spiritual concerns. Men had the power and invaded lots of cities and when they invaded a new city, they used to fuck/rape aggressively the women of these cities as a revenge, especially if they were enemies and take them as slaves. it symbolized a motivation for the warriors to invade a city to get more women, sex and money/gold...
Psychologically this action (aggressive and rough) reflect the dominance, hurt, humiliation to the other cultures, cities, religions. giving the warrior a sense of powerfulness and masculinity over his prey. It is more of a change in perception and understanding of sex due to societal and environmental changes.
Now, our societies are changing, and more equality is demanded between men and women, and more connection to the spiritual side is taking form, and people are starting to look for this connection in sex through passion and sensuality where a man can have multiple orgasm and whole body full orgasm and not just a mean to an end to ejaculate. but unfortunately, porn is still enforcing the aggressiveness, roughness and similar acts which make these psychological and behavioral patterns are the best way to achieve an orgasm, while they only lead to a psychological orgasm (fulfilling a psychological feeling) and not a body orgasm.
Once you experience the whole body multiple orgasm, and you feel that connection with a woman or a man, you will probably become addicted to the sensuality and the passion of such art

 

[shad282]

I like aggressive, sometimes rough sex. Of course we make a distinction between that and rape or any other behavior that forces people into uncomfortable situations. I can and do go for gentle, romantic encounters, but aggressive / rough is what I am looking for when I'm out looking. I seem to thrive on dominance and being the controlling factor in how a hook up plays out (within the limits agreed on). I have always been that way - my earliest encounters were risky, edgy and limit pushing. I agree that sexuality originally had more of an edge to it than conventional wisdom today would suggest. I don't think we want to go back to knocking people on the head and dragging them back to the cave, but I think a balance that respects and honors our passions is a good thing. A rough edge, to me highlights every emotion, every nerve. It is hard to feel more alive.

yes a lot of bottoms, face the issue of not feeling it enough up their butt and they want to feel every nerve and so they like to go rough... and i discovered if you learn to focus and increase your feeling of your butthole.. you very small dick and thin can feel huge if you train your mind to feel that area enough.. and you start getting hand free orgasm by increasing sensitivity to that area and not in your mind while being fucked.

 

[igotthebigone]

...
I prefer being a gentle guy... and so do I expect to my partner...
Indeed I think that a sex encounter is a confrontation... a clash between my manhood and his... lol...
Nevertheless... a sex encounter is not a fight... lol
That's why I think that the setting of dominance and submission is not bound to roughness and physical strength... but to sensations produced by the way we perceive the other guy...
Actually... I'm so shy and generally so unsure of myself... that I can't just adopt a rough attitude... and surprisingly this trait or weakness in my behaviour doesn't prevent me to be often the dominant pole of the pair...
It is therefore the proof that other mechanisms than just the agressivity play an important role in the encounter...
I like compare my encounters to a predator/prey game in wich we reverse alternatively the roles... It's a dialogue in wich each of us takes his turn in order to let his manhood expressing itself... until one of us finally decide to let the other being the leader of the encounter...
So...I prefer letting the things going and see what happens... without trying to lead the encounter toward this or that direction...

I agree,you sound a lot like me

 

[igotthebigone]

I'm bottom. And I like a nice gentle sex.

me too

 

[igotthebigone]

My body is my home, I worked a lot on creating a warm comfortable environment and I don't want the wrong person tracking in dirt on my white carpet or trying to jam an ugly second hand couch through the front door or back for that matter. You have to be invited in. Have some wine and light a fire, compliment the decor and kiss me as we cradle each other. Don't slam my door and don't race up my driveway. Let me be the place you call home. I'm not a dive bar or the parking lot behind Burger King. I'm the little bungalow you weren't looking for but found by chance, The one with charm and funny stories. Love me, take care of me and I promise you, will never be out in the cold.

A bit over the top but it's the best answer I can give.

very well said!